Parents are the worst enemies of this. Here's another one you'll appreciate in the closing days of his experience with the team and the parents. So they go up 2-0 quickly...they play possession and the other team doesn't implement a high press which means the defenders are able to get the ball up. The coach has changed his emphasis by this point to attack and so they do very well and score 2 easy goals. The opposing coach calls for a high press. There are a couple of passes out the back that require heroic efforts from some players to keep it in (one of them is in kiddo's passing highlights vid which requires a clever open pass into space). But some players make mistakes: in short order by minute 30 they've had like 3 DFKS called against them, a PK which goes in, and like 4 1v1s most lost off the possession. Game is now 2-3 against us and my kid now starts rather than to kick everything direct and quickly to slow the game down in accordance with the instructions of his coach. He can tell the backline has lost confidence and every attempt to go long or short is going against us and the players are just shellshocked. He starts time wasting so the score doesn't get even more lopsided against us going into the half because we haven't been able to get the ball to the attacking third in the last 10 minutes. The parents start screaming at him: what are you doing...hurry up we are behind. He's trying to reorganize the team and get them to the half where they can talk to the coach without anymore damage being done and the parents are ready to murder him.
Yeah parents can really self destruct this stuff -- and GKs and CBs feel the brunt of this most of the time. It's not a great scenario because there are more bad coaches (or unsupported) than good ones. So in many cases that divisive parent isn't "wrong". But if coaches could have the room, permission, and directive to train the brain and not focus on results, I think that would be a good start. That way the coach could start the season off with a plan and can relay to the parents how critical team culture is and that there will be zero tolerance for folks not on board. I would almost require families of younger players to come out to a match of the club's strongest cognitive teams and explain to them that this doesn't happen over night. It requires a lot of hard work, patience, and a high tolerance around results.
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