@Luis, despite what you think, it's a bad sign when you are laying awake at night fretting over your 9 year old's soccer game. It means you are way too involved and living vicariously through your DD. I know that you think you are helping your DD with extra training, analyzing games with her and everything else you've mentioned in many posts, but most of the experts would disagree with you.
Please take a look at these articles, just a few I've found helpful in changing the way I interact with my DD. I'm still not perfect, it's really hard, but I think I'm much better at U14 than I was at U10. It's a long road with many twists and turns. My DD's been playing club soccer at a high level since she was U8, and she still has 4+ years before she potentially steps on a college field (if that's what she wants). It's a marathon.
Hundreds of college athletes were asked to think back: "What is your worst memory from playing youth and high school sports?" Their overwhelming re
www.thepostgame.com
Nothing you can say to your kids will make them play better. Unfortunately, it's possible that what you say will ensure they don’t play well.
www.psychologytoday.com
From the first article:
"Hundreds of college athletes were asked to think back: "What is your worst memory from playing youth and high school sports?"
Their overwhelming response: "The ride home from games with my parents."
"The informal survey lasted three decades, initiated by two former longtime coaches who over time became staunch advocates for the player, for the adolescent, for the child. Bruce E. Brown and Rob Miller of Proactive Coaching LLC are devoted to helping adults avoid becoming a nightmare sports parent, speaking at colleges, high schools and youth leagues to more than a million athletes, coaches and parents in the last 12 years.
"Those same college athletes were asked what their parents said that made them feel great, that amplified their joy during and after a ballgame. Their overwhelming response: "I love to watch you play."