G2010...how’s the season going 2019?

sdb said:
@Luis, despite what you think, it's a bad sign when you are laying awake at night fretting over your 9 year old's soccer game. It means you are way too involved and living vicariously through your DD. I know that you think you are helping your DD with extra training, analyzing games with her and everything else you've mentioned in many posts, but most of the experts would disagree with you.

Please take a look at these articles, just a few I've found helpful in changing the way I interact with my DD. I'm still not perfect, it's really hard, but I think I'm much better at U14 than I was at U10. It's a long road with many twists and turns. My DD's been playing club soccer at a high level since she was U8, and she still has 4+ years before she potentially steps on a college field (if that's what she wants). It's a marathon.

www.thepostgame.com

What Makes A Nightmare Sports Parent -- And What Makes A Great One

Hundreds of college athletes were asked to think back: "What is your worst memory from playing youth and high school sports?" Their overwhelming re
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www.psychologytoday.com

What to Say to Your Young Athletes Before and After Games

Best to keep quiet before your kids enter the field of play.
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From the first article:

"Hundreds of college athletes were asked to think back: "What is your worst memory from playing youth and high school sports?"
Their overwhelming response: "The ride home from games with my parents."

"The informal survey lasted three decades, initiated by two former longtime coaches who over time became staunch advocates for the player, for the adolescent, for the child. Bruce E. Brown and Rob Miller of Proactive Coaching LLC are devoted to helping adults avoid becoming a nightmare sports parent, speaking at colleges, high schools and youth leagues to more than a million athletes, coaches and parents in the last 12 years.

"Those same college athletes were asked what their parents said that made them feel great, that amplified their joy during and after a ballgame. Their overwhelming response: "I love to watch you play."
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I’ve learned to not critique her anymore. That was the old me. I just let her do her thing and if I notice mistakes in her game or her teammates, I try to get her to answer how she would correct them without overwhelming her or making her upset. I’m always looking fo short videos on YouTube to watch and she gladly accepts them. I will read these articles and I hope they are not bias. Anyone that says you don’t have to work hard or train daily to become a pro is a fool. But one cannot forcé their kids into anything. So as long as she is willing, I will do everything in my power to support her. I’ll spend whatever it takes to get her the best training possible. Don’t care for scholarships or any of that stuff if it means sacrificing her development. I’m just here to give her the best development experience possible and support her as long as she is willing. If she decides later that she does not want to continue training daily then I will support her as well. It’s her choice not mine.
 
@Socal00 I know I speak highly of my DD but she is not the sole reason why our team is good. The other players are also amazing, we have a really good team and it’s not about my DD alone either. She brings that right balance to the midfield and defense to make the team work. Our strikers are explosive and fast. And our defenders are solid. Bench is getting there improving weekly. You can’t win games with 1 player in flight 1.
 
I hear you! It does make a difference when a team has that one girl who stands out from all the rest. I had a reality check when I thought that was my kid until I saw these SoCal teams. Hence she’s run of the mill good. Solid player. Smart, but inconsistent. Frustrating to watch. No one is perfect, we’re all human and she’s 9. I’ll continue to foster her love of the game. She’ll eventually be weeded out of this team, unless the more skilled players leave. Either way I enjoy watching her grow. I’ll tell you what though, I’m not down with parents bashing little girls including mine. I have news for all us football loving parents, there is always stronger, faster, smarter people, in any spectrum of life. I always tell him do your best and try to be the best in your group, wether school, sports, attitude and as a person. Be a good human Being. My little one is dope in my eyes. Anyway enough with the rambling.
 
Socal00 said:
I hear you! It does make a difference when a team has that one girl who stands out from all the rest. I had a reality check when I thought that was my kid until I saw these SoCal teams. Hence she’s run of the mill good. Solid player. Smart, but inconsistent. Frustrating to watch. No one is perfect, we’re all human and she’s 9. I’ll continue to foster her love of the game. She’ll eventually be weeded out of this team, unless the more skilled players leave. Either way I enjoy watching her grow. I’ll tell you what though, I’m not down with parents bashing little girls including mine. I have news for all us football loving parents, there is always stronger, faster, smarter people, in any spectrum of life. I always tell him do your best and try to be the best in your group, wether school, sports, attitude and as a person. Be a good human Being. My little one is dope in my eyes. Anyway enough with the rambling.
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I totally agree. I thought I was fast when I was young doing track until I went against the African Americans on the 100m dash. My DD is fast too but I’m sure there are girls that are faster. The one thing that I think is her super strength. Is her stamina. She can play the whole game, run twice the amount of distance over the rest of the players on the field going up and down, defense to offense and back to defense over the course of the game with the same intensity, while the rest of the girls are gassed out by end of the game. You can see them huffin and puffin and she’s good. That is genetics and that does not come from me. It’s from her mom and grandpa. There is a reason why grandpa still holds cycling endurance records set In the 70’s in Colombia. They are known for that sport and he is one of the legends of the sport over there. Even with all the doping going on these days. His endurance records have not been broken.
 
Luis Andres said:
I totally agree. I thought I was fast when I was young doing track until I went against the African Americans on the 100m dash. My DD is fast too but I’m sure there are girls that are faster. The one thing that I think is her super strength. Is her stamina. She can play the whole game, run twice the amount of distance over the rest of the players on the field going up and down, defense to offense and back to defense over the course of the game with the same intensity, while the rest of the girls are gassed out by end of the game. You can see them huffin and puffin and she’s good. That is genetics and that does not come from me. It’s from her mom and grandpa. There is a reason why grandpa still holds cycling endurance records set In the 70’s in Colombia. They are known for that sport and he is one of the legends of the sport over there. Even with all the doping going on these days. His endurance records have not been broken.
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So, my buddy, solid source said 3 of our SDSC girls have been practicing with the SD Surf team for the past several weeks, and purple headband is one of them. She’s a legit player. I’m bugged....
 
Socal00 said:
So, my buddy, solid source said 3 of our SDSC girls have been practicing with the SD Surf team for the past several weeks, and purple headband is one of them. She’s a legit player. I’m bugged....
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so they are leaving SDSC and going to surf or guest playing for tournament ?
 
Luis Andres said:
so they are leaving SDSC and going to surf or guest playing for tournament ?
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Don’t think they’re guest playing because they have a roster of 11. I think the girls are jumping ship. Surfs known for making offers one can’t refuse. Especially when they capitalize on them having a DA team for girls and SDSC doesn’t.
 
Also, coach wasn’t sure he was going to coach this past season, because he had a baby. He stuck around, but he might be done too. No formal word on that though.
 
Socal00 said:
Don’t think they’re guest playing because they have a roster of 11. I think the girls are jumping ship. Surfs known for making offers one can’t refuse. Especially when they capitalize on them having a DA team for girls and SDSC doesn’t.
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That’s too bad for SDSC. They had a real good team and now they are losing 3 of their top players and got the short end of the stick on this tournament.
 
Socal00 said:
SD Surf is trying to possibly going to poach the special girl on SDSC team (purple headband center mid) there’s been chatter that she’s headed to them for the 2020 season. I’m sure some of her teammates will follow.
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If surf gets her it’s because she plays futsal with a lot of surf players on the 619 futsal team and the surf parents probably recruited them from there... I could be wrong but SDSC is in trouble because there’s a few SDSC players on that futsal team... poach city.
 
Tiredsoccerparent said:
If surf gets her it’s because she plays futsal with a lot of surf players on the 619 futsal team and the surf parents probably recruited them from there... I could be wrong but SDSC is in trouble because there’s a few SDSC players on that futsal team... poach city.
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I coach that futsal team, I think this is much ado about nothing. Don't read everything you see or listen to everything you hear. Part of their enjoyment on the futsal team is training together on the Friday night then playing against each other the next day. We have girls from 4 different teams on the team. Of course there is always going to be speculation but I think sometimes the bright lights gets overplayed. My son won the Volkswagen National Championship with boys from Lightning at U12 then two weeks later played them in a final to pk's. It was tough because they knew where each other was going so it was a lot of saves. Those kids came together for the SoCal United team then back to their club teams. They still keep in touch and are now playing each other in college. Damn the NBA.....
 
newwavedave said:
Wow Vic, throwing some serious bricks at Luis. I think Luis had this coming to him. KC is spot on regarding how the scouts scout dna and genetics. I had one Doc tell me and my wife that top coaches look at MaMa Bear and how she looks. A little intimating for her but she looks hot and passed that test last year. My dd is 15 now so scouts can now see the what the future will look like after full majority has set in. When we send emails to top coaches we send a pic of her mom too so they can see the truth :) You two need to be nice to each other. Ole all the way in 2020!!! I really want to see a local team stay local and beat the Eagles, Real SC, Legends, LA Surf, OC Surf, San Diego Surf, Sherman Oaks Surf, New York Surf, Covina Surf and East County Surf and Liverpool all the Galaxies and the Beach down at the South Bay:)
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so you trying to tell me that you are just another scumbag like these other chumps that have the athletic fit wife? What are you trying to say, all scouts also practice this scouting strategy or whatever the hell you want to call it? They look at the mom of the player to get an idea of how they will end up in the future? I don’t know you nor do I care to but I assume you gotta be another chump like KC and @Luis Andres

Let me guess you also have a daughter that’s a top player? You all are one in the same. What is it with you punks. Just because you have a really good player, you attribute it to the mom having the right genes. So what you are trying to say to me is that my sister who’s on the heavier side of things and also has a daughter playing soccer has no chance to get scouted? If this the way scouts do things in the real world, I’d be very surprised and alarmed. I never said I was part of Ole either. I’m not here trying to disclose my identity, so you can assume I’m a concerned parent and a friend of a parent from the team. I’ve seen everyone on the team before including chump. My daughter plays for another local club and she is a little over weight. I can give a rats ass about this loser... Vanilla Ice. I can’t get over that whole Vanilla ice thing. Man it just cracks me up. Wish I was there to have witness it.
 
Vic the Prick said:
so you trying to tell me that you are just another scumbag like these other chumps that have the athletic fit wife? What are you trying to say, all scouts also practice this scouting strategy or whatever the hell you want to call it? They look at the mom of the player to get an idea of how they will end up in the future? I don’t know you nor do I care to but I assume you gotta be another chump like KC and @Luis Andres

Let me guess you also have a daughter that’s a top player? You all are one in the same. What is it with you punks. Just because you have a really good player, you attribute it to the mom having the right genes. So what you are trying to say to me is that my sister who’s on the heavier side of things and also has a daughter playing soccer has no chance to get scouted? If this the way scouts do things in the real world, I’d be very surprised and alarmed. I never said I was part of Ole either. I’m not here trying to disclose my identity, so you can assume I’m a concerned parent and a friend of a parent from the team. I’ve seen everyone on the team before including chump. My daughter plays for another local club and she is a little over weight. I can give a rats ass about this loser... Vanilla Ice. I can’t get over that whole Vanilla ice thing. Man it just cracks me up. Wish I was there to have witness it.
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man get lost. Don’t you see we are discussing more important matters here? Tell your sister to go to the gym. It’s good for her health. A diet is always ideal. Now that you mention this. I think I know who you prob are. Especially with the fact you mentioned your daughter is a little over weight. Quit feeding her garbage is my best advice. I’ve seen how you pig out big boy. I’m not gonna start a war over this but just stay the hell out of this thread. Look up the word Troll
 
@Vic the Prick Trust me man. You don’t want to start this with me. I will expose you. I got this all figured out and I know who you are. Remember I’m a programmer and one may say an ex hacker and you made a very big mistake that exposed your IP. I was able ping it to a certain region and vicinity to the person that I assumed you were. I will expose you to every one and they will know that you are just some big boy on a rant. So please do take my advice and quit eating hot dogs for breakfast.
 
Luis Andres said:
Ohh with the Eagles parents especially the goalie’s Dad. Let me tell you. If you guys think I’m bad wait til you hear him. Big dude. Looks samoan or something like that. He’ll knock out the moms too. He’ll go right at them and confront them. And the whole game is nothing but trash talk out of his mouth
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It's funny how the winning teams have the biggest assholes on their sidelines but it shouldn't come at any supprise. From coaches who put winning above anything it should be expected. These parents are not going to get disciplined for their actions in fear that it pisses someone off and they decide to leave with other familys. I've said it before. Those eagle younger teams are ticking time bombs waiting to explode for many reasons. Eventually the parents lose control and the talent pool shrinks. You are left only with sub par teams at the older age groups.
 
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