Courageous is appropriate in my opinion @CopaMundial. The environment lends to a ton of pressure to commit for these kids. Most, if not all thier peers look at DI as the end all be all, or as a statement of the players ability. The fact is, there are many D2 schools that could play circles around many D1. But, most kids just believe in the hierarchy of D1, 2, 3 and so on. So, for your kid to bypass the perceived “Holy Grail” and choose a school that is simply a better fit, is courageous. Congrats to her. My kid did the same, BTW. Had a DI offer before her Junior year from a school that wasn’t a blip on her radar. She recieved a couple more offers this summer as well from another couple DI schools that she just wasn’t interested in. Although, she did entertain them a bit more than the previous offer. Finally, she decided on a great DII school and program that checks off most of her boxes of dream situation that she had in mind. She’s thrilled, we’re thrilled for her. We’re all thrilled to be done with the process.
My daughter is at a D3. Her coach, coaching only at the D3 level, is undefeated against D2 schools (more than 20 games played), and 6-8 against D1 schools (take away the 2 games against a Big 10 university, and he is 6-6). Point being, D1 women's soccer is not necessarily better than D2, which is not necessarily better than D3. And many of the lower end D1 soccer programs have lower end academics, as well. One of her assistant coaches won a national championship at D1 and said her team is much better than many of the D1 teams they played in their non-league games.
Choose the right university and maximize the money you can get-- and focus less on what division they play (random university with a direction in its name is not likely to help get you a great job coming out of school). The parent's desire to say their daughter got a D1 scholarship (and in some cases, they didn't even get money, just offered to walk-on-- but the parent often won't share those details) sometimes runs against their daughter having the best long-term impact on their life (i.e., getting a good job outside of soccer) and enjoyment on the field (if you are one of the last players on the team, you are not likely to get much, if any, time on the field). We have 100% of school costs covered and most other expenses (dorm, food) covered by her merit award. And she is at a really good university and will be a strong contributor her freshman year on the field. That is a good outcome.