Grown men in the youth soccer world should act like it and with that comes the responsibility to know that they coach kids, not adults. And ok sure not all grown men are sick people sure. But so what. Not all grown men rob banks, or break into houses. It doesn't mean I don't lock my sh.. up at night. No, our girls are not victims, they are smart intelligent, and athletic. Empowerment implies power, and in too many cases the power rests with those who poses it. Asking for someone regardless of gender who is more than 3 decades younger than there coach to "speak up" regardless of consequences or punitive action to me is naive. Many adults avoid confrontation, parents don't speak up enough, yet we want to hold kids to a higher standard. I understand the big picture issue that we want our kids to be leaders and have a voice. I agree with that. So sure texting a coach about missing a practice ok fine I guess. But I still ask myself why? If I'm a coach and my professional and personal way of life is one bad text, screen shot, phone call, away from being destroyed ...why take the risk. Why not have that extra layer of defense built in. Why should a club not have a written method a procedure for this. My belief is because most coaches thrive off power and ego. If I'm a coach I don't want my players having my number, and I sure as hell don't want theirs. Your a coach not a friend not a buddy. Go set up cones, make a session plan, pump up the balls, and train the kids hard, and put down the cell phone.