Ventura Coach Accused of Inappropriate Acts

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  1. Grace T.

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    Many comments to make about this but to start with how about the rationalization by the club president that it was an "isolated event that happened many years ago".... Does that make it not so bad? I think it would have been better if she left that part off her email out to the club.
     
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    Interesting snip from the club

     
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    The girl was 14. He was 37-allegedly. This occurred over the course of two years. It's a small soccer world. Who else knew about this.
     
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    This feels like one of those instances where more and more girls come foward as the case develops.
     
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    Perhaps the Eagles president could have focused on how the safety and well-being of their players is their first priority and how they are saddened that a player, at the hands of one of their own coaches, may have been irreparably harmed. Seems like her personal friendship with VT and minimizing the alledged crime is her number one priority. I wish I were suprised. We left Eagles because of lack of principled leadership from the top down.
     
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    You aren't the only one I've heard this from. We were warned off this club for that reason by numerous people including one of DS training partners even though they have a reputation for winning. At first I thought it might just be sour grapes including from families that couldn't make the a teams or the MSA folks after the field disputes but enough people chime in and you begin to wonder.
     
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    For the sake of the Girls and the Families, I hope you are wrong.
     
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    Wow! very sad if true, I know several young ladies that have played for him and had good things to say....at a loss for words
     
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    WTH!!!...2 years???
     
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    And you can't catch someone before his first transgression, no matter how effective your method.
     
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    And most do not want to believe it is true and think the victim is lying, and most victims are afraid to come forward or are convinced that they are an active, willing and adult participant in the situation. Until years later when they are an adult and have to get therapy to realize what happened to them and are then brave enough to come forward to finally tell someone
     
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    Mandatory pervert testing. I can get behind that for sure. Now someone has to invent the test...
     
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    How common is it? Any statistics? How many cases in relation to adult/child sports interactions?
    I think it is incredibly rare, not common at all.
     
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    The control is parents making sure there are not any opportunities for this to happen by watching practices and chaperoning trips.
     
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    I did the same yesterday-
     
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    Exactly. I don't miss practices or games. My wife and I are very involved with both our daughters and their lives. This could be any person, any age, any profession.

    This is also the reason when I coached I was never alone with any girl at any time. For the protection of all involved.
     
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    Yes, I agree with the second sentence. But, I can't imagine any lewd acts happening at practice or games, although that's where the "relationship" is fostered. No blame to the victims, but I wish they would give more details in these incidents as to how it progressed as a learning tool for parents. Best guess is that there had to be multiple opportunities alone with the girl (or contact via social media, email, text.)
     
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    Exactly. But all kids are not lucky enough to have parents like you and me. I wasn't. Predators look for kids who do not have involved, connected parents. They single them out, pay extra attention to them. They tell them that their parents don't understand them but that they do. These kids are craving attention. The best defense against this is maintaining a close relationship with your child. And God forbid a coach or teacher puts them in an uncomfortable position, or does something inappropriate, they will come to you right away and tell you before it becomes an ongoing situation and their own guilt and shame prevents them from telling anyone until 1en years later.
     
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