The problem with this is that then you open up the entire unfair in the eye of the beholder thing since we can never agree on what is unfair among everyone. Cheating is violating the rules plain stop. otherwise:
-you are a cheater if you hold back your kid even for development or academic reasons and they are older for high school sports
-you are a cheater if your kid has adhd and plays on stimulants or asthma and they play on steroids
-you are a cheater if your kid is unusually early bloomer or super tall or super big and doesn’t play up
-you are a cheater if you provide your kid hgh even if they meet the medical criteria
-your a cheater if you provide your kid private training when there are those that cant
-you are a cheater if your kid gets their position on a team for any other reason beyond merit
-you are a cheater if your team is longballing it or having a defender kick the goalkick and the other team is trying to learn possession
-you are a cheater if your team is relying on physical play and playing a team focused on the passing game
-you are a cheater if your team is one of these aggressive clubs engaged in acts of poaching marquee players
-you are a cheater if you give your kid a coke or Red Bull before a game
The more apt comparison is that being white is cheating. White players have a ridiculous amount of "unfair advantages" over black children. They have generational wealth that black families do not. Their grandparents and great grandparents never had to worry about getting a shit education because they grew up on the wrong side of segregated schools. Their grandparents never had to worry about the days when it was legal to deny employment based on color. They never had to lose breadwinners to prison for minor drug convictions now that it turns out that the opioid crisis has turned a ton of white folk into addicts. And they still don't need to worry that the cops will beat them to death because of their skin color. There is zero debate that it is "unfair" to let white girls play elite soccer. There are hundreds upon hundreds of white mini-Karens who would be shoved right off the bench and out of the sport if fair number of black kids could even afford to play soccer and also pay for all the extra training to which white kids have access but they don't.