Soon you'll see that it's their journey to take not yours. (I don't mean that in a bad way) You can help them along the way + encourage them + try to assist with making the right decisions. But at some point you'll have to let go.
I've seen ridiculously gifted players quit for other sports and I've seen players that absolutely love soccer get cut from teams. What do you do? Life's not fair for some and much fairer for others.
BTW I agree with everything you wrote. I double agree that Socal players should just stay local and play. Spending crazy amounts of money to play teams that aren't very good doesn't make sense. Unless you like to travel + feel it's worth it to see new places with kids in tow.
Thanks Carlsbad. The thing is she has 3 more years before she can drive, so her journey is my journey until she pays and drives herself. People always try to say "Well, they have to do the work. Your daughter has to be responsible and talk to the coach. You have to let go.", but here is the thing.
I'm paying for this. I"m giving up weekends and evenings to drive her everywhere. There is no way this is not "our journey" until she can drive and pay for her own club soccer. She is just lucky as hell she is as athletically gifted as she is!
I await the day it's her journey though!! Thing is if I'm paying for that journey, it must be a productive journey! America has gotten so lost that people who don't even own homes are paying for club soccer and I'm not knocking anyone who doesn't own a home. I'm just pointing out that our priorities are crazy!! I can't help, but think that I could be saving this money for my daughter to one day put down on a house instead of club soccer as well! We've lost our damn minds I think!
On a scale vs gymnastics and other sports though, soccer is probably cheaper. It's just it could be a lot cheaper and more accessible. I think many like it this way for their own advantages, because we all want to make teams and keep our girls together.