Cal Berkeley Coach (women) abusive

MacDre said:
This article is compelling and consistent with my interactions with Neil and Austin. Both have worked with my kid on her finishing and confidence.

When my kid was 10 she attended a Cal camp. Neil put my kid with in the little kid group in the morning but I think he saw something in her.

After the lunch break as my kid was walking on the field, Austin was setting up and blasting this Drake song:

My nerdy introverted 10 year old with coke bottle glasses walks by Austin and just started busting moves. I’m thinking WTF, she’s never displayed this type of confidence before. Neil and Austin huddled for about 3 minutes and then looked at my 10 year old and said what are you doing over there with the little kids, get over there with the big girls. I was scared and didn’t think she was ready. My kid went over to the big girl group and dominated. Kinda strange because she performed much better with bigger girls than she did with the little girls. I guess, I was holding my baby girl back and Neil and Austin help me realize this.

Usually during camps, they’ll use my kid to demonstrate proper technique and confidence on the ball. My kids confidence has markedly improved because of her interactions with Neil and Austin and I am thankful.

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My kids still have years before they would even get looked at so at this point I dont really have any opinion on Neil. But I would say a younger Alex when on twitter is a lot more honest then an older public figure Alex in an interview. I have no doubt he can develop great soccer players. But the extreme emotions that students now claim seem to be evident even back when Alex was there. Maybe the truth is in the middle.
 
MSK357 said:
But the extreme emotions that students now claim seem to be evident even back when Alex was there. Maybe the truth is in the middle.
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Maybe it’s because he’s passionate. I’d rather have a yelling coach that talks big shit and cares about me than a nice coach that uses nice words, doesn’t yell but also doesn’t care.

My kid has also done the FSU camp. FSU’s coach seems like a nice guy that doesn’t yell. But his use of technology to monitor players 24/7 is scary to me.
 
MacDre said:
Maybe it’s because he’s passionate. I’d rather have a yelling coach that talks big shit and cares about me than a nice coach that uses nice words, doesn’t yell but also doesn’t care.

My kid has also done the FSU camp. FSU’s coach seems like a nice guy that doesn’t yell. But his use of technology to monitor players 24/7 is scary to me.
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yelling is fine, but quitting and coming back shows some emotional instability to me. Something even Alex Morgan was bothered with at the time. Like i said though, im so far removed that i do not care at this point in time. Just wanted to reference some past comments that seem to validate the coaches emotional instability.
 
MacDre said:
Maybe it’s because he’s passionate. I’d rather have a yelling coach that talks big shit and cares about me than a nice coach that uses nice words, doesn’t yell but also doesn’t care.

My kid has also done the FSU camp. FSU’s coach seems like a nice guy that doesn’t yell. But his use of technology to monitor players 24/7 is scary to me.
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You are monitored everyday on social media and from you iPhone everyday. I want a coach that that my daughter can respect on and off the field.
 
We all need some Mulligans. You notice I didnt say only one? Were all different and some screw up more than others. I was the first one on here to admit that I was a coach and I yelled to get my point across. I played point guard and yelled at my slow centers all the time....lol. I gave up coaching early in my life and then i was blessed with a dd unlike any other ((at least that's what I think)). Anyway, a lot of people were yelling at her, including me when she was becoming a young teenager. One day after I yelled at her, she asked me with such confidence, "dad, why do you have to yell at me? Can't you just teach me without yelling?" It hit me hard. So I stopped. It has done wonders for our relationship. I dont yell anymore either. Stress can cause one to yell so they can win in life or soccer. We all need a second chance.
 
UOP said:
www.irishtimes.com

America at Large: David Villa and Neil McGuire complaints need attention

Progress for women in sport remains one step forward and two steps back
www.irishtimes.com www.irishtimes.com
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Do I know you? Wow. If Neil and Villa are guilty that will mean every organization under the US Soccer umbrella that my kid has interacted with has been caught up in a major scandal recently. This problem may be bigger than the allegations against Neil.
The owner of DV7 Chula Vista’s son is a 2007 and my kid has played lots of pick up with that group. They sent my kid to Spain for trials.

Albion & Lamorinda predator coaches scandals too.
 
UOP said:
You are monitored everyday on social media and from you iPhone everyday. I want a coach that that my daughter can respect on and off the field.
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The kids have to wear a fitbit type device. The coach will know if they have sex, when they go to sleep, when they wake up etc. So, it’s much more intrusive than the monitoring that you referenced.
Folks that kids can admire have a wide array of leadership styles and emotionally volatile folks are part of our world. We are talking about a coach, Neil is not a diplomat or running for some political office. No time like college for players to get out of their bubbles and learn how to deal with different leadership styles.
I am not concerned about my daughter being abused, manipulated, or mistreated by some introverted nice guy nerd. However, I often have nightmares of a slick talking charismatic asshole abusing my daughter because she’s book smart but not very street smart. Neil comes off as charismatic and street smart and he’s the type of dude that I want my daughter to be very well adept to interacting with. So to each their own, I guess it depends on your goals.
 
BTW, this is good that were getting this all out in the open. I'm for making improvements in the game for girls. Its start with us you guys. Man in the mirror? Talk is cheap....

 
If Cal hasn't been investigating this whole situation for nearly 2 years already, I would agree NM is probably done. Since they have, have fully backed him the whole time because they haven't found concrete evidence certain were broken, I bet he coaches next season. I can see them not renewing a contract when thats time comes but for now I'd be surprised if fired. You can argue the news reports brought more to the situation but they know ALL of this since nothing is news to the admin department. I know most people in 2020 want say the make coach is guilty and he's done when ever a handful say he did this emotionally to us etc. I have no dog in the fight so it doesn't matter to me but I know people who do ad this is the common thought...for the time being,
 
soccer4us said:
If Cal hasn't been investigating this whole situation for nearly 2 years already, I would agree NM is probably done. Since they have, have fully backed him the whole time because they haven't found concrete evidence certain were broken, I bet he coaches next season. I can see them not renewing a contract when thats time comes but for now I'd be surprised if fired. You can argue the news reports brought more to the situation but they know ALL of this since nothing is news to the admin department. I know most people in 2020 want say the make coach is guilty and he's done when ever a handful say he did this emotionally to us etc. I have no dog in the fight so it doesn't matter to me but I know people who do ad this is the common thought...for the time being,
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I think this could be a hasty conclusion. An alternative view could be that Neil has developed the highest paid female player in the world and Abi Kim was a regular starter for the US U20 team. Maybe she has a chance of eventually making the USWNT. He also recently recruited the top class in the country and regularly graduates his players. Have you ever heard that any press is good press? Folks don’t throw shade and hate on losers. If folks are throwing shade, Neil must be important and “doing his thing.”

He may get a raise.
 
MacDre said:
He may get a raise.
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If the University made money on “developed players”...I would agree.

But programs/Coaches are judged in expectations of the program. If Cal’s expectation is just to have high level recruits and not win the PAC 12 or the NCAA Tournament, then I’d say he’s secure. Otherwise, he could be looking for a new job.
 
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