2006 player, is that U12? Your son just entered the Boys DA system. I would love to read your experience 4-5 years from now and compare it with what you posted today. As cliche goes, your still in the honeymoon period.
There are only like 2 Boys DA clubs that are fully funded in SoCal...Galaxy and FC Golden State. I know a parent on Pats and he told me, it's pay to play and play time isn't parceled out like Girls ECNL.
So the experience you are posting about Boys DA will very based on which clubs are pay to play (which is over 70%) and the other 2 of which are fully funded. Of course you like Boys DA, because your son probably starts on a fully funded Boys DA club and it's FREE. The other parents on the team probably bite their tongue as you say, even if their kid is sitting...., because it's FREE! You would be singing another tone, if you were paying at a Boys DA club and your son was sitting though.
You assume a lot. My boy was in the DA System through PDA. Started as a club player / PDA trainee and practiced only with the PDA team. Basically the academy for the youngers. We paid full price for the club. After they DEVELOPED him for 2 seasons he was moved to the PDA team. Coaching philosophy was consistent through the academy. We moved on due to a lot of coaching, personnel change.
We would be at the fields for 4 hours a night since my girls club practiced at the same fields and had a later practice time. I made it a point to watch the older boys DA practice to see what my boy would have to look forward to. In fact, the girls program is very large and successful and when I say I am a believer in the DA development philosophy, it's because I watched both side by side for a few years.
So no he wasn't a starter and wasn't even completely in the system because he wasn't good enough at first. They DEVELOPED him because he had the drive, focus, desire and heart to work his way into a better player. To be upfront, they had no reason to keep him because they sure the hell didn't need him. They had plenty of talent already.
When speaking of fully funded DAs I know LA Galaxy, FC Golden State, TFA LA, Real So Cal, LAFC, Albion and one I'm not at liberty to name, fully fund the players on the top team (Academy and/or Pre Academy). I know at 3 of those I named, the younger ages team rosters are smaller (14-15) with two keepers once you reach U12 so everyone gets playtime and adequate training. Nothing like these girls squads being formed with 18-22 players. That's an issue with these clubs hoarding talent on the girls side.
I'm not here to fight. I know a lot of you are extra pro ECNL. That's all the girls have had and it has done it's job. That doesn't mean it hasn't gotten away from what we need for the players to get the best development. I personally feel the DA philosophy is better for player development. The coaches have high expectations for the players and hold them accountable. The players have high expectations for themselves and are working to improve.
Parents aren't buddying up with the coaches for more play time when it's not deserved and having kids on a top team roster that shouldn't be. It is more selective and the focus at practice from the kids is 200% higher. Couple that with a no tolerance rule for coaches so they teach through positivity, motivation, discipline and not fear and negativity.
I teach my kids to work smart, work hard and have fun. We all know when they hit the older ages this gets ULTRA SERIOUS. Any kid playing DA or top level ECNL has to want to do this because they have other options and the dedication level is high. My opinion is DA is structured to get more out of that dedication, while lowering the costs that ECNL has that creates a barrier for players who are good enough, but financially unable to compete. The Girls DA may not be no cost for all girls on the team at first, but that doesn't mean it can't or won't be.