LA (not San Diego) refs tend to let a lot go. I don't know why this is. My theory is many of the refs are of Latin decent and grew up playing a more physical game so this is how they ref now.
I remember in one state cup a player literally grabbed my kids arm and did some kind of karate flip while they were on a breakaway for goal. No call + my daughter had to limp off the field to the nurses tent because they didn't stop play.
Seattle refs are likely on the other end of the spectrum. What you thought was hard play they saw as cleats up death kicks to the head.
Did you expect anything different from Pacific Northwest people. ;-)
Well, I learned a lot! : ) I just have this concern that they package these playoffs into certain cities that may not be able to handle the proper infrastructure for a good playoff experience. If you're training refs. a month before the event, you're not prepared to handle playoffs. We had one game where the side ref. missed an offsides right in front of her (and no way in hell could the center ref be trusted to see that) and ran with the offsides player ON OUR TEAM and no call! I get sometimes it's close and the game is fast and I even never expect good reffing let alone perfect, but I expect them to catch offsides at least 50% of the time. I mean this is playoffs and the girls worked hard to get here. The parents are paying a lot of money, yet treated like they owe someone something for this experience. It is what it is, but super unimpressed with ECNL Organization.
No idea how these leagues are ran or created, but So Cal can 100% get the best competition in the nation without traveling for sub par playoffs like this. Maybe that's what I take home from this experience? There are good out of state teams, but more than 2 from CA. are probably going to Virginia, because we have such great competition here in So Cal/Cal.