I agree that offers and commits should not be allowed until Junior year but i did like the flexibility of being able to visit the campus, being shown the facilities and getting to meet the staff on campus at my expense. That way you can spread the cost over several years and you don't have to scramble their junior year to see the various campus's. If you did allow the unofficial visit's from freshman year on but did not allow offers and commits it would be better for everyone. Colleges wouldn't feel like they have to take chances on 8th, 9th and 10th graders and student/players wouldn't have to make a decision before they are prepared or mature enough to make that decision. It seems simple to me but that's just my opinion, i'm sure others would disagree.It's ridiculous that girls are committing before their Junior year. 14, 15, and 16 year old girls should not be put in the position to make these decisions so early. Let them grow up some more before they need to decide where they want to spend 4 years of their life and what major they want to study. Plus there is no guarantee that coaches recruiting them will even be still at the school by the time the finally get there. In our process we had several coaches tell us that they wish they still had money or spots upon for their 2019 class but they way the system works right now they have to be focused on the 2020 and 2021 classes already.
With the new rules banning in person recruiting discussions really anywhere before the start of the Junior year all that is left the ability to talk to a coach via a phone call initiated by the player. Now girls will be pressured to verbally commit early without ever having an in person recruiting discussion because the top schools will not want to wait unit the start of the Junior year. I personally believe they should just come out and ban any sort of recruiting discussions prior to the start of the Junior year in any format.
Also don't expect that schools will pay for your recruiting trip. It's unlikely since you only get one paid trip to a school (and only 5 trips to D1's). Most schools will want to use this trip during your kids senior year to bring all of the commits in together at once.
I also haven't heard of any woman's soccer program paying for an official "recruiting" visit except in the case that you mentioned, bringing all of the commits together during their senior year. If anyone has had a different experience I would like to hear about it.