Do you think if a club has an issue of a coach having inappropriate relations with a child it...
- Thread starter sandshark
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My DD texts her club and hs coaches as well as her XC coach quite frequently. She’s a captain on her soccer teams and they’ll often text her with info to pass along to her teammates. And she’ll text them with questions about workouts and training or other soccer related matters. I’ve never had an issue with it, but I do spot check her social media and texts. I’m sure many of you will say I’m crazy or call me naive, but I always encourage her to talk to her coaches on her own and and I will intervene only if an issue comes up. She knows I’m always there as her safety net, but she’s learning some independence as well. At some point they need to learn to communicate with teachers and coaches independently.
When my dd was starting her senior year I actually told her coach no need to cc me on everything because she will be going away to college soon and needs to learn to be responsible. His response was:
1. This was for his protection as well as hers;
2. It is a good habit because what if he stops coaching tomorrow. While he is trustworthy, others may try to take advantage. dd needs to learn to identify and head off issues.
Best coach ever!
outside!
DA
I was referring to the coach that was sending texts to one of his players.
coachrefparent
GOLD
Maybe a coach was trying to diddle players, and they want no reference to him?
No they also removed the coach that quit. Knowing how disgruntled they get when someone leaves, they would want to completed remove players too if they could.
Simisoccerfan
PREMIER
I thought he was the DPL coach.
yes, I have heard this argument time and time again. The first tine I heard this was from a coach that went on to be completely inappropriate with his players and got fired from is high school coaching job because of it. It is one thing for a coach to be texting the captain to pass on info to the rest of the team. I am talking about the pattern of male coaches texting any/all the players on his team when there is no need for it and any conversations like that can be conducted during practices or at games. I have also had coaches ask me for my DD's cell phone # when he wasn't even her coach at the club. I also encourage my DD to be independent and communicate directly with the coach and I don't get involved. But again, aside from the "captain" situation, when is it necessary for the coach to be texting an individual player? Just wondering about a situation when that would be necessary. Teenage girls welcome attention from adult males and they don't always look at the attention as inappropriate when it really is.
rainbow_unicorn
PREMIER
I agree that it is not necessary for a coach to text players. Play it safe...have a rule that bans them from direct contact. Heck I went through high school soccer without ever texting my soccer coaches (never mind that we didn't have cell phones 30 years ago but that's besides the point).
Their is nothing that any coach needs to text a player. Nothing. Any conversation should be had during training on the field. No exceptions. There is also no benefit to any player texting a coach. Use None. Use team snap. At this point any coach and club that allows this is tone deaf at best and supporting a criminal predatory environment at worst.
Pervsmasher
SILVER
yes I have and am just discovering this forum today. My child is in college and is a victim of this scumbag.
Tony Sheri was texting girls asking them to help him because he has a prostate problem and needed help "getting out" a semen sample. He was texting girls in college (mine being one) and on his then current Albion team. This is not a rumor, its a fact, I saw it with my own two eyes and my own kid. There are several others and it really pisses me off that no communication has come from ALBION in regards to the situation so that people can talk to their children. I do not blame the club for Sheri being a pervert but I do blame them for not getting out in front of it and putting something out so folks can talk to their kids.
Is this guy out there coaching somewhere else? Is Albion going to say or do anything, or just cut him loose and hope no one is the wiser? I get that its bad publicity but keeping it hush hush is even worse. I am really really upset with Albion for hiring the guy if they knew he had been accused of this in the past and even more so for not having the decency to send out a club wide email or letter to allow parents to discuss this with their kids. Its appalling, this little fucker better hope I never rollup on him or he is going to get stomped out.
Pervsmasher
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Pervsmasher
SILVER
Be very aware is all I can say. I am more disgusted by Albion and the lack of action than I am of the act itself almost. This guy is a pervert so they just cut him loose to victimize other kids without a single word to past parents and or kids currently in the club? How in the hell is that ok? More importantly, where is this little pervert now?
I sincerely hope all the girls are doing well emotionally. To be subjected to this despicable douche giving them a guilty trip that he needed their "help." I hope none of the girls fell for it.
I agree with you about Albion. It was selfish and irresponsible to not inform parents ASAP. Whenever you hear about creeps like this that are not arrested right away, they often con one of their victims to go on the run with them. Albion is very fortunate that this did not happen.Ginns is always thinking of himself first and foremost. This is just one more instance of him showing that he does not give a damn about anyone, including innocent children.
sandshark
SILVER ELITE
I have now heard about this same type of story from several families in the past 60 days. First everyone wants TS to pay for his actions and be punished for mentally and physically abusing children! Secondly the exact same goes for Albion Sc, they are also now guilty of abusing the children by simply ignoring the problem that one of their employees caused under their watch! Allowing these poor kids to live with the abuse is wrong and the fact that NOAH GINS THE EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR along with Wayne Crowe, Director of Soccer and last but not least on the BIG SHOTS list Mr Big John McKaveney, Director of Operations have all ignored sending out a club wide email warning the parents of the abuse that one of their employees has been doing to young ladies over the past several years. They are ALL obligated to contact every family that has had Mr Tony Scary as a coach since his employment at Albion SC!
If Albion SC has the best interest of the children and families at heart you would think they would set up a sexual assault counselor for the children to talk to. It is time for Albion Sc to step up and take care of the children that were abused by their employee!
sandshark
SILVER ELITE
And we are very sorry for the abuse your Daughter has had to deal with, it is something no child should ever have to experience.
I hope Albion Sc steps up and offers help to your family.
Question....did you turn this evidence over to the Authorities?
Presidio should vote Albion out in April. They should not be able to continue business as usual.
Chalklines
GOLD
forward your story to espn.
its will make bigger headlines then all the Lavar Ball rubbish going on lately
INFAMEE
SILVER ELITE
lulz@Presidio