No, you and crush are certainly terrified. It’s ok. There is always rec for those with kids who are too chicken or whose self-esteem requires meaningless ribbons. I’m sure coming in third place in a local track meet when you were 17 was the high point of your life but,
to be honest, it’s pretty pathetic.
The best female players in the world play in female leagues.
The best male players in the world play in male leagues.
The worst male players grow their hair out, wear lipstick, play in the girl leagues and cry if they're forced to use the bathroom with urinals.