Recruiting Tips for Parents Just Starting the Process

New/maybe old tip. This is obvious to the sales types, but some were surprised when I mentioned it, so mentioning maybe again.

Study coaches competition. Know names, locations where they played, who won etc. It is all there on the schedule / roster. Might be good to see a game streamed or live. Recruiting time and game season are often different, but it is good to read some writeups on games too.

Then in the interview, discussion it is fine to drop things that let them know, think you are being sought out by others. They may want you, they may want to take you off the street. You still get what you want.

I remember DD asking how many fields they played at trees hanging over them, or hotel rooms looking onto them. Or its nice I don't have to get in a bus to get to the field.
Her coach knew the places she was talking about. He later said he was happy she had seen so many places as he knew she was ready to make a decision. She was not asked directly who she was talking to and in some cases she had opportunities and in some she did not. But it was a clean way to get the point across.
 
soccerobserver said:
Overlapster, very happy for your DD and family...is it possible your advisor or the coach used the Net Price Calculator to estimate what the tuition will be in your case? I have only heard of D3 schools disclosing the net price when they send out the admissions letter some time in December of senior year...also high grades are no laughing matter... honestly...higher grades + higher test scores = many many many many more options especially when combined with outstanding soccer skills...
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soccerobserver - Thanks, I'll tell you all about it at the first game ;)...yes, they used the net price calculator and then tossed it after the visit. the numbers were based of the NP calculator, GPA and ?? I totally agree, grades are HUGE and kids shouldn't take that lightly.
 
My DD just committed yesterday. We were kind of lucky being on a top ECNL team so we didn't have to hire anyone or use a recruiting company/advisers. She was on a big stage and routinely had numerous college coaches watching at Showcases and Tournaments. Every coach she emailed came out to watch her. Being 15, the decision has been a tough one with some incredible offers. Lots of tears were shed and lots of prayers were said. Most people are dumbfounded when they hear the school she actually chose knowing the schools that were offering (especially one). The night she decided she got a text with a 90/90/100/100 4 year offer to another school on her list which was much more than she was offered at any school. But in the end, she went with a school that will be close to her family, a school that has a great honors school on campus, where there are numerous students who share the same religious beliefs, a big 5 conference school with a very good sports program, and a coaching staff that coaches a style of play that works for her. She also knows players on the team that are currently freshmen and she got to spend some time with them. The coaching staff made us feel like family and the coach is a stand up guy with a great reputation. Other College coaches endorsed the coach. We are still talking money, but because we are moving to the state where she will be playing (not following her, made the decision to leave Cali long ago) there is the issue of out of state vs in state tuition and how much money she will need. But the coach has assured us he is putting away a certain amount for her. We are also applying for grants, needs based money, and there is money based on her GPA and Test Scores that will increase as she improves. She is a Junior this year and still hasn't taken the SAT or ACT. But in the end, I believe ECNL worked for her. It put her in front of the right people and her coach(es) have the right connections. The funny thing is, this is the first school she emailed her freshman year and she is more than excited. Going though the whole process has also helped her focus because she has seen a glimpse of what "Could Be" if she gets good grades and works hard. The trips kicked her ass into gear because it got her excited and gave her a goal. And some of the posters are right. These east coast or mid west teams love our So Cal girls. My dd did some visits to some great schools in the mid west. Loved em. But in the end I believe she chose the best one for her. I did my best to stay out of her way in the decision making. I somehow knew she would eventually make the right decision. For a while though, I didn't know what the right decision was. But I did interact with every coach and school we visited. I have been coaching Football for years. But those D1 scholarships are full rides. So this was much different. There aren't many full rides out there. And most of the time, it will come from a school that your dd has no interest in. We were gracious and thanked all the coaches that hosted us making sure not to burn any bridges (especially knowing the transfer rates for womens college soccer). She called and personally spoke to the coaches and informed them of her decision. They all made it easy for her (the good ones also know of the transfer rate and don't like to burn bridges). Some even asked if they could keep in touch just in case there were any changes.

Ask questions to some of the people who have been through this. I know NoGoal was a great source of information for me. And he was more that willing to answer my questions or talk soccer. These forums have been an added bonus for me through this Journey. I have made many life long friends through these forums. I started a Fictitious Club through these Forums. And ultimately, I believe my DD ended up on the team she is on now, and is now going to her "dream school" as she puts it, because of the connections I made here. I still have 2 more girls and 2 more boys (my boys don't play soccer) to go though this with so I will be in this for a while but it's nice to see some of the fruits of my daughter's labor starting to manifest themselves. Thank you to all the posters who have shared their experience and made me feel confident that my daughters time would also come when most people told me she would quit by the time she was 14.
 
Juve 50 said:
My DD just committed yesterday. We were kind of lucky being on a top ECNL team so we didn't have to hire anyone or use a recruiting company/advisers. She was on a big stage and routinely had numerous college coaches watching at Showcases and Tournaments. Every coach she emailed came out to watch her. Being 15, the decision has been a tough one with some incredible offers. Lots of tears were shed and lots of prayers were said. Most people are dumbfounded when they hear the school she actually chose knowing the schools that were offering (especially one). The night she decided she got a text with a 90/90/100/100 4 year offer to another school on her list which was much more than she was offered at any school. But in the end, she went with a school that will be close to her family, a school that has a great honors school on campus, where there are numerous students who share the same religious beliefs, a big 5 conference school with a very good sports program, and a coaching staff that coaches a style of play that works for her. She also knows players on the team that are currently freshmen and she got to spend some time with them. The coaching staff made us feel like family and the coach is a stand up guy with a great reputation. Other College coaches endorsed the coach. We are still talking money, but because we are moving to the state where she will be playing (not following her, made the decision to leave Cali long ago) there is the issue of out of state vs in state tuition and how much money she will need. But the coach has assured us he is putting away a certain amount for her. We are also applying for grants, needs based money, and there is money based on her GPA and Test Scores that will increase as she improves. She is a Junior this year and still hasn't taken the SAT or ACT. But in the end, I believe ECNL worked for her. It put her in front of the right people and her coach(es) have the right connections. The funny thing is, this is the first school she emailed her freshman year and she is more than excited. Going though the whole process has also helped her focus because she has seen a glimpse of what "Could Be" if she gets good grades and works hard. The trips kicked her ass into gear because it got her excited and gave her a goal. And some of the posters are right. These east coast or mid west teams love our So Cal girls. My dd did some visits to some great schools in the mid west. Loved em. But in the end I believe she chose the best one for her. I did my best to stay out of her way in the decision making. I somehow knew she would eventually make the right decision. For a while though, I didn't know what the right decision was. But I did interact with every coach and school we visited. I have been coaching Football for years. But those D1 scholarships are full rides. So this was much different. There aren't many full rides out there. And most of the time, it will come from a school that your dd has no interest in. We were gracious and thanked all the coaches that hosted us making sure not to burn any bridges (especially knowing the transfer rates for womens college soccer). She called and personally spoke to the coaches and informed them of her decision. They all made it easy for her (the good ones also know of the transfer rate and don't like to burn bridges). Some even asked if they could keep in touch just in case there were any changes.

Ask questions to some of the people who have been through this. I know NoGoal was a great source of information for me. And he was more that willing to answer my questions or talk soccer. These forums have been an added bonus for me through this Journey. I have made many life long friends through these forums. I started a Fictitious Club through these Forums. And ultimately, I believe my DD ended up on the team she is on now, and is now going to her "dream school" as she puts it, because of the connections I made here. I still have 2 more girls and 2 more boys (my boys don't play soccer) to go though this with so I will be in this for a while but it's nice to see some of the fruits of my daughter's labor starting to manifest themselves. Thank you to all the posters who have shared their experience and made me feel confident that my daughters time would also come when most people told me she would quit by the time she was 14.
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Congratulations! You should be proud of your daughter for all of her hard work. I wouldn't worry too much about out of state fees because they can request waiver in most states (not California public schools sorry). There is plenty of academic money and other grants out there also as long as she has really strong grades. Committing is the start of the second phase of her career. It is a fork in the road. I trust that you will continue to direct her down the correct path. The coach is banking on not where she is at 16 but at where he thinks that she will be at 18-21. Make sure that she starts working harder than every before if she plans on competing as a freshman. The PAC 12 is an amazing conference and by far has the most national championships in all sports of any conference so she will do amazing and will see lots of girls that she has competed with and against.

Congrats again you did good dad.
 
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Juve 50 said:
My DD just committed yesterday. We were kind of lucky being on a top ECNL team so we didn't have to hire anyone or use a recruiting company/advisers. She was on a big stage and routinely had numerous college coaches watching at Showcases and Tournaments. Every coach she emailed came out to watch her. Being 15, the decision has been a tough one with some incredible offers. Lots of tears were shed and lots of prayers were said. Most people are dumbfounded when they hear the school she actually chose knowing the schools that were offering (especially one). The night she decided she got a text with a 90/90/100/100 4 year offer to another school on her list which was much more than she was offered at any school. But in the end, she went with a school that will be close to her family, a school that has a great honors school on campus, where there are numerous students who share the same religious beliefs, a big 5 conference school with a very good sports program, and a coaching staff that coaches a style of play that works for her. She also knows players on the team that are currently freshmen and she got to spend some time with them. The coaching staff made us feel like family and the coach is a stand up guy with a great reputation. Other College coaches endorsed the coach. We are still talking money, but because we are moving to the state where she will be playing (not following her, made the decision to leave Cali long ago) there is the issue of out of state vs in state tuition and how much money she will need. But the coach has assured us he is putting away a certain amount for her. We are also applying for grants, needs based money, and there is money based on her GPA and Test Scores that will increase as she improves. She is a Junior this year and still hasn't taken the SAT or ACT. But in the end, I believe ECNL worked for her. It put her in front of the right people and her coach(es) have the right connections. The funny thing is, this is the first school she emailed her freshman year and she is more than excited. Going though the whole process has also helped her focus because she has seen a glimpse of what "Could Be" if she gets good grades and works hard. The trips kicked her ass into gear because it got her excited and gave her a goal. And some of the posters are right. These east coast or mid west teams love our So Cal girls. My dd did some visits to some great schools in the mid west. Loved em. But in the end I believe she chose the best one for her. I did my best to stay out of her way in the decision making. I somehow knew she would eventually make the right decision. For a while though, I didn't know what the right decision was. But I did interact with every coach and school we visited. I have been coaching Football for years. But those D1 scholarships are full rides. So this was much different. There aren't many full rides out there. And most of the time, it will come from a school that your dd has no interest in. We were gracious and thanked all the coaches that hosted us making sure not to burn any bridges (especially knowing the transfer rates for womens college soccer). She called and personally spoke to the coaches and informed them of her decision. They all made it easy for her (the good ones also know of the transfer rate and don't like to burn bridges). Some even asked if they could keep in touch just in case there were any changes.

Ask questions to some of the people who have been through this. I know NoGoal was a great source of information for me. And he was more that willing to answer my questions or talk soccer. These forums have been an added bonus for me through this Journey. I have made many life long friends through these forums. I started a Fictitious Club through these Forums. And ultimately, I believe my DD ended up on the team she is on now, and is now going to her "dream school" as she puts it, because of the connections I made here. I still have 2 more girls and 2 more boys (my boys don't play soccer) to go though this with so I will be in this for a while but it's nice to see some of the fruits of my daughter's labor starting to manifest themselves. Thank you to all the posters who have shared their experience and made me feel confident that my daughters time would also come when most people told me she would quit by the time she was 14.
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Juve, Congrats to your DD and family. I'm sure your family made the right decision, since the family took the time doing the research and weighing the pros and cons! It's always nice seeing another former ulittle B team player commit to a Power 5 conference :). As I posted a few times through out the years. Club soccer is not a sprint, but a marathon.

Looking forward to seeing your DD play in college, she will do great!
 
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Juve 50 said:
My DD just committed yesterday. We were kind of lucky being on a top ECNL team so we didn't have to hire anyone or use a recruiting company/advisers. She was on a big stage and routinely had numerous college coaches watching at Showcases and Tournaments. Every coach she emailed came out to watch her. Being 15, the decision has been a tough one with some incredible offers. Lots of tears were shed and lots of prayers were said. Most people are dumbfounded when they hear the school she actually chose knowing the schools that were offering (especially one). The night she decided she got a text with a 90/90/100/100 4 year offer to another school on her list which was much more than she was offered at any school. But in the end, she went with a school that will be close to her family, a school that has a great honors school on campus, where there are numerous students who share the same religious beliefs, a big 5 conference school with a very good sports program, and a coaching staff that coaches a style of play that works for her. She also knows players on the team that are currently freshmen and she got to spend some time with them. The coaching staff made us feel like family and the coach is a stand up guy with a great reputation. Other College coaches endorsed the coach. We are still talking money, but because we are moving to the state where she will be playing (not following her, made the decision to leave Cali long ago) there is the issue of out of state vs in state tuition and how much money she will need. But the coach has assured us he is putting away a certain amount for her. We are also applying for grants, needs based money, and there is money based on her GPA and Test Scores that will increase as she improves. She is a Junior this year and still hasn't taken the SAT or ACT. But in the end, I believe ECNL worked for her. It put her in front of the right people and her coach(es) have the right connections. The funny thing is, this is the first school she emailed her freshman year and she is more than excited. Going though the whole process has also helped her focus because she has seen a glimpse of what "Could Be" if she gets good grades and works hard. The trips kicked her ass into gear because it got her excited and gave her a goal. And some of the posters are right. These east coast or mid west teams love our So Cal girls. My dd did some visits to some great schools in the mid west. Loved em. But in the end I believe she chose the best one for her. I did my best to stay out of her way in the decision making. I somehow knew she would eventually make the right decision. For a while though, I didn't know what the right decision was. But I did interact with every coach and school we visited. I have been coaching Football for years. But those D1 scholarships are full rides. So this was much different. There aren't many full rides out there. And most of the time, it will come from a school that your dd has no interest in. We were gracious and thanked all the coaches that hosted us making sure not to burn any bridges (especially knowing the transfer rates for womens college soccer). She called and personally spoke to the coaches and informed them of her decision. They all made it easy for her (the good ones also know of the transfer rate and don't like to burn bridges). Some even asked if they could keep in touch just in case there were any changes.

Ask questions to some of the people who have been through this. I know NoGoal was a great source of information for me. And he was more that willing to answer my questions or talk soccer. These forums have been an added bonus for me through this Journey. I have made many life long friends through these forums. I started a Fictitious Club through these Forums. And ultimately, I believe my DD ended up on the team she is on now, and is now going to her "dream school" as she puts it, because of the connections I made here. I still have 2 more girls and 2 more boys (my boys don't play soccer) to go though this with so I will be in this for a while but it's nice to see some of the fruits of my daughter's labor starting to manifest themselves. Thank you to all the posters who have shared their experience and made me feel confident that my daughters time would also come when most people told me she would quit by the time she was 14.
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Congrats to your DD and family!.....pretty awesome journey isn't it
 
Juve 50 said:
My DD just committed yesterday. We were kind of lucky being on a top ECNL team so we didn't have to hire anyone or use a recruiting company/advisers. She was on a big stage and routinely had numerous college coaches watching at Showcases and Tournaments. Every coach she emailed came out to watch her. Being 15, the decision has been a tough one with some incredible offers. Lots of tears were shed and lots of prayers were said. Most people are dumbfounded when they hear the school she actually chose knowing the schools that were offering (especially one). The night she decided she got a text with a 90/90/100/100 4 year offer to another school on her list which was much more than she was offered at any school. But in the end, she went with a school that will be close to her family, a school that has a great honors school on campus, where there are numerous students who share the same religious beliefs, a big 5 conference school with a very good sports program, and a coaching staff that coaches a style of play that works for her. She also knows players on the team that are currently freshmen and she got to spend some time with them. The coaching staff made us feel like family and the coach is a stand up guy with a great reputation. Other College coaches endorsed the coach. We are still talking money, but because we are moving to the state where she will be playing (not following her, made the decision to leave Cali long ago) there is the issue of out of state vs in state tuition and how much money she will need. But the coach has assured us he is putting away a certain amount for her. We are also applying for grants, needs based money, and there is money based on her GPA and Test Scores that will increase as she improves. She is a Junior this year and still hasn't taken the SAT or ACT. But in the end, I believe ECNL worked for her. It put her in front of the right people and her coach(es) have the right connections. The funny thing is, this is the first school she emailed her freshman year and she is more than excited. Going though the whole process has also helped her focus because she has seen a glimpse of what "Could Be" if she gets good grades and works hard. The trips kicked her ass into gear because it got her excited and gave her a goal. And some of the posters are right. These east coast or mid west teams love our So Cal girls. My dd did some visits to some great schools in the mid west. Loved em. But in the end I believe she chose the best one for her. I did my best to stay out of her way in the decision making. I somehow knew she would eventually make the right decision. For a while though, I didn't know what the right decision was. But I did interact with every coach and school we visited. I have been coaching Football for years. But those D1 scholarships are full rides. So this was much different. There aren't many full rides out there. And most of the time, it will come from a school that your dd has no interest in. We were gracious and thanked all the coaches that hosted us making sure not to burn any bridges (especially knowing the transfer rates for womens college soccer). She called and personally spoke to the coaches and informed them of her decision. They all made it easy for her (the good ones also know of the transfer rate and don't like to burn bridges). Some even asked if they could keep in touch just in case there were any changes.

Ask questions to some of the people who have been through this. I know NoGoal was a great source of information for me. And he was more that willing to answer my questions or talk soccer. These forums have been an added bonus for me through this Journey. I have made many life long friends through these forums. I started a Fictitious Club through these Forums. And ultimately, I believe my DD ended up on the team she is on now, and is now going to her "dream school" as she puts it, because of the connections I made here. I still have 2 more girls and 2 more boys (my boys don't play soccer) to go though this with so I will be in this for a while but it's nice to see some of the fruits of my daughter's labor starting to manifest themselves. Thank you to all the posters who have shared their experience and made me feel confident that my daughters time would also come when most people told me she would quit by the time she was 14.
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Congrats Juve! And congratulations to your DD as well. We just got back from visiting our DD in Oregon. It was the first time that we actually had the opportunity to watch her play college in person...had to pinch myself. On those SAT/ACT test, my DD took them three times but each time she raised her scores and ultimately added 6k to her scholarship. Good luck moving forward..
 
Juve 50 said:
My DD just committed yesterday. We were kind of lucky being on a top ECNL team so we didn't have to hire anyone or use a recruiting company/advisers. She was on a big stage and routinely had numerous college coaches watching at Showcases and Tournaments. Every coach she emailed came out to watch her. Being 15, the decision has been a tough one with some incredible offers. Lots of tears were shed and lots of prayers were said. Most people are dumbfounded when they hear the school she actually chose knowing the schools that were offering (especially one). The night she decided she got a text with a 90/90/100/100 4 year offer to another school on her list which was much more than she was offered at any school. But in the end, she went with a school that will be close to her family, a school that has a great honors school on campus, where there are numerous students who share the same religious beliefs, a big 5 conference school with a very good sports program, and a coaching staff that coaches a style of play that works for her. She also knows players on the team that are currently freshmen and she got to spend some time with them. The coaching staff made us feel like family and the coach is a stand up guy with a great reputation. Other College coaches endorsed the coach. We are still talking money, but because we are moving to the state where she will be playing (not following her, made the decision to leave Cali long ago) there is the issue of out of state vs in state tuition and how much money she will need. But the coach has assured us he is putting away a certain amount for her. We are also applying for grants, needs based money, and there is money based on her GPA and Test Scores that will increase as she improves. She is a Junior this year and still hasn't taken the SAT or ACT. But in the end, I believe ECNL worked for her. It put her in front of the right people and her coach(es) have the right connections. The funny thing is, this is the first school she emailed her freshman year and she is more than excited. Going though the whole process has also helped her focus because she has seen a glimpse of what "Could Be" if she gets good grades and works hard. The trips kicked her ass into gear because it got her excited and gave her a goal. And some of the posters are right. These east coast or mid west teams love our So Cal girls. My dd did some visits to some great schools in the mid west. Loved em. But in the end I believe she chose the best one for her. I did my best to stay out of her way in the decision making. I somehow knew she would eventually make the right decision. For a while though, I didn't know what the right decision was. But I did interact with every coach and school we visited. I have been coaching Football for years. But those D1 scholarships are full rides. So this was much different. There aren't many full rides out there. And most of the time, it will come from a school that your dd has no interest in. We were gracious and thanked all the coaches that hosted us making sure not to burn any bridges (especially knowing the transfer rates for womens college soccer). She called and personally spoke to the coaches and informed them of her decision. They all made it easy for her (the good ones also know of the transfer rate and don't like to burn bridges). Some even asked if they could keep in touch just in case there were any changes.

Ask questions to some of the people who have been through this. I know NoGoal was a great source of information for me. And he was more that willing to answer my questions or talk soccer. These forums have been an added bonus for me through this Journey. I have made many life long friends through these forums. I started a Fictitious Club through these Forums. And ultimately, I believe my DD ended up on the team she is on now, and is now going to her "dream school" as she puts it, because of the connections I made here. I still have 2 more girls and 2 more boys (my boys don't play soccer) to go though this with so I will be in this for a while but it's nice to see some of the fruits of my daughter's labor starting to manifest themselves. Thank you to all the posters who have shared their experience and made me feel confident that my daughters time would also come when most people told me she would quit by the time she was 14.
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Well done by your dd Juve, congrats to you and the family pal!
 
Juve 50 said:
My DD just committed yesterday. We were kind of lucky being on a top ECNL team so we didn't have to hire anyone or use a recruiting company/advisers. She was on a big stage and routinely had numerous college coaches watching at Showcases and Tournaments. Every coach she emailed came out to watch her. Being 15, the decision has been a tough one with some incredible offers. Lots of tears were shed and lots of prayers were said. Most people are dumbfounded when they hear the school she actually chose knowing the schools that were offering (especially one). The night she decided she got a text with a 90/90/100/100 4 year offer to another school on her list which was much more than she was offered at any school. But in the end, she went with a school that will be close to her family, a school that has a great honors school on campus, where there are numerous students who share the same religious beliefs, a big 5 conference school with a very good sports program, and a coaching staff that coaches a style of play that works for her. She also knows players on the team that are currently freshmen and she got to spend some time with them. The coaching staff made us feel like family and the coach is a stand up guy with a great reputation. Other College coaches endorsed the coach. We are still talking money, but because we are moving to the state where she will be playing (not following her, made the decision to leave Cali long ago) there is the issue of out of state vs in state tuition and how much money she will need. But the coach has assured us he is putting away a certain amount for her. We are also applying for grants, needs based money, and there is money based on her GPA and Test Scores that will increase as she improves. She is a Junior this year and still hasn't taken the SAT or ACT. But in the end, I believe ECNL worked for her. It put her in front of the right people and her coach(es) have the right connections. The funny thing is, this is the first school she emailed her freshman year and she is more than excited. Going though the whole process has also helped her focus because she has seen a glimpse of what "Could Be" if she gets good grades and works hard. The trips kicked her ass into gear because it got her excited and gave her a goal. And some of the posters are right. These east coast or mid west teams love our So Cal girls. My dd did some visits to some great schools in the mid west. Loved em. But in the end I believe she chose the best one for her. I did my best to stay out of her way in the decision making. I somehow knew she would eventually make the right decision. For a while though, I didn't know what the right decision was. But I did interact with every coach and school we visited. I have been coaching Football for years. But those D1 scholarships are full rides. So this was much different. There aren't many full rides out there. And most of the time, it will come from a school that your dd has no interest in. We were gracious and thanked all the coaches that hosted us making sure not to burn any bridges (especially knowing the transfer rates for womens college soccer). She called and personally spoke to the coaches and informed them of her decision. They all made it easy for her (the good ones also know of the transfer rate and don't like to burn bridges). Some even asked if they could keep in touch just in case there were any changes.

Ask questions to some of the people who have been through this. I know NoGoal was a great source of information for me. And he was more that willing to answer my questions or talk soccer. These forums have been an added bonus for me through this Journey. I have made many life long friends through these forums. I started a Fictitious Club through these Forums. And ultimately, I believe my DD ended up on the team she is on now, and is now going to her "dream school" as she puts it, because of the connections I made here. I still have 2 more girls and 2 more boys (my boys don't play soccer) to go though this with so I will be in this for a while but it's nice to see some of the fruits of my daughter's labor starting to manifest themselves. Thank you to all the posters who have shared their experience and made me feel confident that my daughters time would also come when most people told me she would quit by the time she was 14.
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Great news. Congratulations. What state are you moving too?

Work on the coach for an in-state tuition waiver. That was one of the things we negotiated with my DD and the coach made it happen which saved $11,000 in tuition costs. My DD was out of that first college within a year and back near home this year going to a local JC to finish her gen ed classes and still playing. You are spot on about not burning bridges. We just took a trip up to the Bay area to visit two colleges that recruited her when she was in HS. Both coaches remembered DD and were eager to get her into their programs. They also know that they don't need to throw a huge scholarship at her since she gets free tuition in CA because I have a 50% Veterans disability rating. The JC coach also sent them some game film and to our surprise so did the University coach from last year.
 
After my DDs game today one of her teammates had Heart issues and passed out. Paramedics were called, CPR was administered. Her teammate was revived and taken to the Hospital and is conscious and alert.

As a parent, that has to be the scariest thing to go thru, especially if your kid is out of state.
 
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Great news. Congratulations. What state are you moving too?

Work on the coach for an in-state tuition waiver. That was one of the things we negotiated with my DD and the coach made it happen which saved $11,000 in tuition costs. My DD was out of that first college within a year and back near home this year going to a local JC to finish her gen ed classes and still playing. You are spot on about not burning bridges. We just took a trip up to the Bay area to visit two colleges that recruited her when she was in HS. Both coaches remembered DD and were eager to get her into their programs. They also know that they don't need to throw a huge scholarship at her since she gets free tuition in CA because I have a 50% Veterans disability rating. The JC coach also sent them some game film and to our surprise so did the University coach from last year.
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We were planning on moving to AZ whether or not she chose ASU. I spend about 5 hours a day in traffic and I can retire in roughly a year and a half. I have family there and some things set up for me when I get there. We definitely worked out the in state tuition. So she will have family close to her. And we already spend a lot of time out there. She said the school already felt like home and that was when we knew she had decided.
 
Funny because my daughter has all the tools and gifts needed, she has always been way above average size, speed, technical ability since the age 4. We have been told by several different coaches "she can play any college she chooses, she could write her own ticket IF she wishes." She has always played at a top level at a top level super club, also played in the YNL. She has played up in age for the past 3 years and still has this year and next year to go! The best part is after all of this I don't think she wants to attend a college. She loves the game but maybe not so much on the idea of college other then to play more soccer. Yes her HS grades are all way above average. As we have come to find out as parents this journey has not been about college for her, it has been literally for the love of the game. We as parents don't care what she chooses as long as she is happy, of course the club and coaches around her all have their idea of what her dreams should be but the truth is we don't pay them to tell us what our daughters dreams SHOULD BE.
 
sandshark said:
She loves the game but maybe not so much on the idea of college other then to play more soccer. Yes her HS grades are all way above average. As we have come to find out as parents this journey has not been about college for her, it has been literally for the love of the game.
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Would she go to college to play on best team she could so she could have post college playing options? Or perhaps have a career revolving around the game? Coaching?
 
gkrent said:
Would she go to college to play on best team she could so she could have post college playing options? Or perhaps have a career revolving around the game? Coaching?
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Funny you would say that because she has mentioned that she would love to be a coach and stay in the sport. She has also started to talk about playing for some specific colleges because several girls on her team are committed. My issue is she honestly wants to attend a college mainly for the opportunity to play more soccer, not as much the academics. She seems to be driven to do whatever it takes to play soccer and I know college will be her only avenue to play at a high level? The way I see it if she does want to keep playing then she will wrap up a deal with a college and keep on going.
 
sandshark said:
Funny you would say that because she has mentioned that she would love to be a coach and stay in the sport. She has also started to talk about playing for some specific colleges because several girls on her team are committed. My issue is she honestly wants to attend a college mainly for the opportunity to play more soccer, not as much the academics. She seems to be driven to do whatever it takes to play soccer and I know college will be her only avenue to play at a high level? The way I see it if she does want to keep playing then she will wrap up a deal with a college and keep on going.
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Why limit her to being a coach? Guide her to being a DOC as well as a coach, and have her take some business accounting classes that could help her run a successful club. She doesn't have to graduate since it is not important to her, but it does help to have some of the accounting foundations, if she has aspirations of running her own club. Remember, this is just a suggestion...not a "she should do this" recommendation.
 
CaliKlines said:
Why limit her to being a coach? Guide her to being a DOC as well as a coach, and have her take some business accounting classes that could help her run a successful club. She doesn't have to graduate since it is not important to her, but it does help to have some of the accounting foundations, if she has aspirations of running her own club. Remember, this is just a suggestion...not a "she should do this" recommendation.
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Of course we will promote her taking advantage of college and learning skills to better her options in her future ventures. We as a family all shoot for the top. I'm very confident she will rise to the top of any profession she chooses. Honestly I would have zero interest in her being a part of the club soccer industry. The business ethics and dealing with the parents in club soccer is not anything I wish for my DD. Whatever she ends up doing I'm sure she will be her best.
Thank you for your input i appreciate it.
 
sandshark said:
Funny you would say that because she has mentioned that she would love to be a coach and stay in the sport. She has also started to talk about playing for some specific colleges because several girls on her team are committed. My issue is she honestly wants to attend a college mainly for the opportunity to play more soccer, not as much the academics. She seems to be driven to do whatever it takes to play soccer and I know college will be her only avenue to play at a high level? The way I see it if she does want to keep playing then she will wrap up a deal with a college and keep on going.
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What is her grad year and what age group does she play in? The only reason that I ask is because if she is in 8th grade or older the process has already started. I know that my players school is working on their 2019 class of domestic players and working on 2017 and 2018 internationals. The process starts quickly and the money goes just as quickly. Now if money wasn't something that you care about then take your time.
 
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