Lots of opinions on this board, so here’s one from a dad who has a kid at a top ECNL team and another at a GA team.
For starters, ECNL is far and away the best league in the southwest. Any GA club in SoCal would jump at the chance to go ECNL (I.e Pats). GA has some decent teams, mostly in the east (Top Hat in Georgia comes to mind), but ECNL rules the roost in SoCal. Power 5 coaches from all across the U.S. routinely even scout practices at top level ECNL clubs. That doesn’t happen at the GA. You mentioned that your 14 yr old is not good enough to make an ECNL team. Good on you. Most parents think that their kid walks on water. Getting her at the end of the bench at a mid-level ECNL club is not what you want. Players have to play to improve. At top level ECNL, they get to train with better players, and generally better coaches, but exposure for recruiting is gained via game time. Top ECNL clubs have the vast majority of their roster set by the u15 age. Unless your daughter has YNT on her resume, she will find it very difficult to make a TOP level ECNL roster as a starter. However, mid to low ECNL and GA rosters change all the time. My advice, get her at a club at the highest level possible where she can actually get solid minutes. That’s not an easy thing to do. Lower level ECNL clubs in the SW league—Pats, Rebels, Sharks, and all the AZ teams, are comparable to the higher end GA teams like Albion. Do college coaches attend GA showcases, yes they do. But they would much rather spend their limited recruiting dollars at the ECNL showcases. But the GA will provide exposure, and that is what most players need. Non power 5 D1, D2 and D3 coaches do quite a bit of recruiting at GA showcases. For the level that you realistically think your daughter can play at, get her on a GA team with a coach that is the right fit. Heck, if she is a defender or GK, get her on a lower ECNL club so she can play against the top attacking talent in SoCal. The top GA players will filter and get invited to the stronger ECNL clubs in SoCal…happens all the time. As other have said, get her set with a good coach who fits well with your her goals. Finally, ECRL at the big clubs like Surf, Koge, Blues and Legends can get exposure too, but that route will rely more on the ECRL coaches connections to colleges and the player showing well at ID camps.
Other than that, get out your checkbook, and get a fresh set of tires on the car, you are gonna need them.