Your anger is misplaced. Club and pay to play is not the villain in all this. It is just a symptom. The real problem is the college admissions systems which distorts everything else. Club soccer is just a business which developed to get players looks and to get players better training opportunities than were offered in the old AYSO system. From there it's a prisoner's dilemma, because if little Billy is doing club soccer and little Danny is only doing AYSO, little Danny doesn't have the opportunity to get the college looks which may or may not develop in the future, because the college coaches only bother to look at the top tiers.
It's not just limited to soccer because otherwise Kumon, Mathnaseum, and CLC wouldn't exist. You wouldn't have the band and debate competitive culture. You wouldn't have cheer camp, band camp and dance camp. You wouldn't have the Lori Loughlin's of the world cheating on SATs and trying to get fake college commitments. You wouldn't have all the top students in high school running around trying to make fake charities. What's worse is its inequitable because it's the upper middle class that has the money to spend on club sports and activities...the rich can always buy a building or use their influence....and the poor don't have the resources to keep up and struggle to even drive to the activities. It's also why there's the huge drop off in soccer participation. Because as kids advance in age, for many they realize they don't have the drive or the talent to make the top tier, so they focus their energies on other things as they get older where they can made a splash (even if it's just their social lives).
If you want to change the system, direct your anger to what the colleges have set up. It bleeds into other aspects of our society, which are directly and indirectly related to the "meritocracy" we built up and the way we built it.