@Ellejustus You have lots of people giving you mad love. You should just chill and enjoy the ride. Soon enough you will be where I am at which is close to the end. My kid is not a kid anymore (she turned 21 at the end of May) and she is studying for the LSAT and deciding whether she wants to play in England, France, Spain, Germany or the NWSL. The days of driving her to practice and tournaments are over. No more making sure all of her stuff is in her soccer bag. No more talking on the way to the game about who they are going to play and what I know about them. Now they have professional scouting reports on opponents and have seen hours of game film on them. Enjoy the journey because truth be told it really is about the journey and not the destination. Remember no matter how good a player is it can all be taken away in an instant. Not to mention unless they are that one or two players per birth year that are going to make the full WNT then this is a labor of love that better include a plan "B" that is really your plan "A."
Good luck to you and your player.
Thank you for sharing your family’s experiences the way that you do. Most of us are trying to figure out where are daughters fit into the whole scheme of things, and your openness is helpful in putting our experiences into context.
I know that everyone thinks that they want their daughter to be recruited, but I am not convinced that leaving fate to the college coaches is best for most players. My daughter is a wonderful player could never be as athletic as yours no matter what she did, so she was not going to be recruited at UCLA’s and Stanford’s. The coach at MIT told her that players at MIT recruit themselves to MIT, which means something very specific at MIT. As we visited other schools, we realized that players there often recruit themselves too, which means different things at different places. One of her very athletic friends won a National Championship with Florida State because she recruited herself onto the scout team (she played less than 45-minutes game time for the entire season and loved her experience).
You are right - having and helping a player formulate a realistic “plan A” is something that soccer parent owes his or her player.
Thank you again for your willingness to share your family’s experiences.