Parents from certain teams

Multiple fights at Silverlakes during Legends tournament. Grown men fighting at a soccer tournament. And its not surprising....

I witnessed one first hand. Luckily there were a bunch of parents to pull them apart but it very much looked like they were both drunk.
 
I love listening to the couple where one has no clue about the game and the other has played from Ulittle all the way thru college.
Example:
He:They're offsideS!! (Note S)
She:Honey it's a throw-in..there is no offside.
Or
She:Handball!! Handball!!
He:Babe..the ball hit off the defender's shoulder and he/she clearly had his arms crossed behind him/her to avoid a handball call.

We recently has a scrimmage. Parent from the other team kept talking smack to the CR. Finally the ref sent him off after he'd heard enough. Except the dad refused to leave. Ref called in the ARs. 15sec round table and blew the whistle calling the game. We still had about 25mins left to play in the second half.

Parents/adults ruin youth sports. Rarely is it a youth competitor. But if it is it's usually due to a learned behavior.

My .02
 
I love listening to the couple where one has no clue about the game and the other has played from Ulittle all the way thru college.
Example:
He:They're offsideS!! (Note S)
She:Honey it's a throw-in..there is no offside.
Or
She:Handball!! Handball!!
He:Babe..the ball hit off the defender's shoulder and he/she clearly had his arms crossed behind him/her to avoid a handball call.

We recently has a scrimmage. Parent from the other team kept talking smack to the CR. Finally the ref sent him off after he'd heard enough. Except the dad refused to leave. Ref called in the ARs. 15sec round table and blew the whistle calling the game. We still had about 25mins left to play in the second half.

Parents/adults ruin youth sports. Rarely is it a youth competitor. But if it is it's usually due to a learned behavior.

My .02

Agree. It's infuriating to watch grown parents yell abuse at a 14 year old sideline ref. Hey, you know why we don't have quality refs? Because people don't like to be screamed at while they are doing their best. Terrible.
 
It was a really bad environment at the Legends Classic two weekends ago. Way too many games squeezed into the field space because they divided the full size fields for U-littles. Twice as many parents plus some grandparents so more than twice as many cars. The wait to get in was so long that parents were sending young players to walk in from Hamner because cars were gridlocked on the street not even close to the entrance. Sidelines were even more congested because field space was allotted to money making inflatable games. I heard that the concessions ran out of food. Alcohol may not have helped, but the tournament created an unpleasant crowd environment that often encourages less than kind social interactions. If this kind of set up is the new normal for SilverLakes, it is going to be a tournament location that worth avoiding.
Alcohol should not be served at youth tournaments - majority can handle the alcohol but the 5% rule comes into play that ruins it for everyone...
 
There was a fight between parents on one of the 9v9 sidelines at the Polo fields.

I heard the U-littles parents chanting "TFA, TFA, TFA" one too many times this past weekend. Not to mention all of the crazy stuff yelled at me and the other referees this past weekend. The dumbest was the dad who yelled at me that the keeper had committed a 3-second violation. It took every bit of self-control not to bust out laughing.
This is where I have to commend you...how you don't just turn and tell them loudly to "Shut up you have no idea what your talking about" is beyond me.
 
Alcohol should not be served at youth tournaments - majority can handle the alcohol but the 5% rule comes into play that ruins it for everyone...
I disagree. The parents that get in fights at games are the same ones that are yelling at and badmouthing players during games when they are sober. Give them alcohol, weed them out early and ban them from calsouth so we can give the game back to the kids.
 
This past weekend, after a heated game (in which my kid's team lost), my kid was on the ground stretching/rolling out. Most families/players had already dispersed. Two boys from the opposing team walk by my kid and give him a high five/hand shake and tell him "Good game". Every now and then, I see this happening and it makes up for all the other bullsh*%! The kids are alright...most parents suck. ;)
 
Every now and then, I see this happening and it makes up for all the other bullsh*%! The kids are alright...most parents suck. ;)
Most parents don’t suck. It is just that the few bully parents are so vocal. You must have Ulittles because the bully parents are generally the ones have kids throwing F bombs on the field.

But thanks for sharing. It is great to see kids like this. They are the ones that will have a happy life.
 
My 2007 DD played in a big east coast Memorial Day tournament this past weekend. About 1000 teams total. They played up in the top flight of the 2006 division. This did not sit well, at all, with the parents of the 2006 teams we were playing. The comments directed towards our side started before the games even kicked off. The games were all competitive, so that led to the 2006 parents screaming at their own kids the whole game and one of their coaches yelling that he was “cutting kids from the team” if they lost. It was a mess.

I’ve seen this also go the other way. Young team plays up, gets beat up physically, and parents start complaining thinking every play is a foul.

Younger team plays up because they are good, used to winning a lot, and used to being the ones dishing it out, so coach and parents have to take the blame on that one.
 
Probably my favorite has to be the parents of the elite team that’s in a dog fight with an “inferior” team. They are so nice and complimentary when they are in control of the match, but when things get tight against a team where it’s not supposed to be tight, the fangs come out.
 
Come on folks. Alcohol isn't the issue. Idiot parents are the issue. I like the idea of chilling out with a beer in between games, especially in the hot silver lakes temps. As a referee the biggest issue is that most parents don't know the laws of the game and are constantly yelling at the refs for what I thought were good calls. Even my own wife and team do it and I'm constantly correcting them; my wife not so much:) I think you should only complain to the ref if you know something about ref'ing. At one of my games, I even heard grand parents talking to the other players on the team about bad sportsmanship and the ref looked at me since I was sitting next to them. I told the ref it wasn't me and he yelled at the grand parents. There is no need for that. Never, ever talk to the other team players. That's one way to start a brawl on the side lines.
 
Come on folks. Alcohol isn't the issue. Idiot parents are the issue. I like the idea of chilling out with a beer in between games, especially in the hot silver lakes temps. As a referee the biggest issue is that most parents don't know the laws of the game and are constantly yelling at the refs for what I thought were good calls. Even my own wife and team do it and I'm constantly correcting them; my wife not so much:) I think you should only complain to the ref if you know something about ref'ing. At one of my games, I even heard grand parents talking to the other players on the team about bad sportsmanship and the ref looked at me since I was sitting next to them. I told the ref it wasn't me and he yelled at the grand parents. There is no need for that. Never, ever talk to the other team players. That's one way to start a brawl on the side lines.

Everyone who thinks they know something about reffing should definitely have a few beers between games and then jump on the refs’ case when they blow calls. I don’t see how that sage advice could possibly go wrong.
 
Mrs Sparky9 has been playing the ukelele during games the last few months and i would say our sideline has been very chill.
Don't make me cringe. Next time tell her to bake some "special" brownies instead.

BTW aren't you the one that had the dd that tore her ACL? If so, glad to hear she is back.
 
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