I few random thoughts. Club soccer is actually 90%-95% recreational. Cost is irrespective of value. Some, possibly many parents, are expecting a payoff (college, NT, pro) for all those club fees they have paid throughout the years. Clubs exploit, or at least do nothing to dissuade, that opinion. Parents feel that if they're paying for something they are entitled to voice their opinion to coach and/or club. Which I don't entirely disagree with, as long as, it's within reasonable limits and relates to their kid, not the other kids on the team. Coaches cater to the parents of the "best" players at every age level, yet are typically very poor at talent identification (its not that they can't identify the obviously talented kids, but that they exclude the kids that are not flashy, but are smart and effective). My son's first DA team was nearly completely controlled by one parent whose son was and still is an outstanding player. This parent had a big influence on both roster and lineup.
IMO if you want a payoff for your kid's soccer costs, have your kid play futsal until 12 and take all the money your saving, for not having to pay club dues, and put it in your 529 plan. Then when they're 13 shop them to the best teams and get scholarshipped because your kids touch and speed of play will amaze coaches. If soccer workers out, great. If it doesn't will have a bunch of extra money in the 529. (yes, I'm exaggerating to make a point)
If you don't expect a payoff, pay the club dues and enjoy the ride. And enjoy the fact that your kid is not in competitive dance or equestrian sports.