I still contend everyone would be safer and happier if they just did what they needed to do and shut up about it. It's 2025. Who gives a shit anymore? But if you're 6' 5", with a beard, walking around in a dress and earrings, you're going to get stared at. If you spent 3 years swimming on the men's team at Penn and you're on the women's team the next year, did you not NOT see the smoke coming? If you have to wear a bunch of makeup so you ALMOST look female at a girl's track meet, you can make yourself a lot of money betting that people root against you. That goes way beyond believing you were born into the wrong body. That I can't (personally) understand but do accept.
Furthermore, demanding this or that hasn't really worked all that well for anybody that was slightly out of the norm. Whatever anger issues this dude had... shooting up a church knowing it was full of kids is nothing but evil and cowardice. Someone does you wrong, deal with someone.