Proper Side Line Etiquette For Soccer Parents?

Fact said:
Great SCDSL is toothless. But do you really want to be that parent, even if quiet, that becomes an issue that the manager has to deal with? All it takes is for 1 parent from the other team to complain. Managers do enough without parents adding to it. Sounds like you are a teoublemaker.
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Oh no, you wouldn't want to be a youth soccer parent troublemaker But really, sit where you want if you are adult enough to not make snide comments and get into arguments with the opposing teams parents. I'm not going to let a club that I pay thousands of dollars for treat me like a kindergartener with a list of rules for attending my child's game which I have most likely just spent an hour driving to.
 
For the OP, I too came from the very emotional world of football. I coached my kids in baseball so that I could be the loud voice from the sidelines. Meanwhile I avoided my Ulittle DD's games because it was such a constrained environment. I simply had a very hard time not interjecting myself into the competition and restraining the emotion that I was taught to be a part of sport. As my DD grew older and more skilled I could no longer avoid the sidelines. At first it was very difficult not to focus on every move that my DD made and to suppress the urge to give direction and a running commentary. I found a solution in taking up the activity of keeping team stats. You are so occupied by the task at hand that you cannot focus on your DD and you become a little detached from the emotion of the game. I don't have to do it every game any longer as I have calmed down a bit and it's nice to just enjoy the game now. It did help me though. I would think that any activity or task that you can take up such as others have suggested will distract you from the emotion of the game.
 
Wow really not that complicated

Remember one thing: These are kids game not yours.

Allow the kids to develop and fend for themselves, Its their game - not yours. Don't ever forget that and you will be fine.

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younothat said:
Wow really not that complicated

Remember one thing: These are kids game not yours.

Allow the kids to develop and fend for themselves, Its their game - not yours. Don't ever forget that and you will be fine.

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Excellent sentiment, but is there one for girls? Sorry to be "that guy" but subtle sexism is still not inclusive.
 
I find it offensive that the signs are in traditional blue and pink. I hate to be that guy but do you have a gender neutral color? I am triggered
 
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Chalklines said:
Help me become the model parent for my kids Club.

After selecting a club out here we received the 8 page player/parent contract for the upcoming season which includes mandating where you sit and what you can and cant say during a game........

My background. 12+ years, Texas High School football coach. (quiet will be new one for me)

How do I leave my coaching tendencies at home and become the ideal parent outlined in the contract?
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Duck tape my friend works wonders, sugar free vs lolipops...LOL:rolleyes::mad::D
 
allstarsoccer310 said:
I find it offensive that the signs are in traditional blue and pink. I hate to be that guy but do you have a gender neutral color? I am triggered
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But what if he or she is unsure about his/her identity? This is a micro aggression. And, what if the kid doesn't have a Mom or Dad? This is offensive and hurtful. What if their parent died in a car accident? This is callous. What if a kid's uncle is homeless? "Bum" is an oppressive and elitist word.

The people who made this sign have no heart, and hate children. March, resist, march, riot, march until each and every sign is torn down.
 
coachrefparent said:
But what if he or she is unsure about his/her identity? This is a micro aggression. And, what if the kid doesn't have a Mom or Dad? This is offensive and hurtful. What if their parent died in a car accident? This is callous. What if a kid's uncle is homeless? "Bum" is an oppressive and elitist word.

The people who made this sign have no heart, and hate children. March, resist, march, riot, march until each and every sign is torn down.
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These are all great points. Also in the 8 page contract I hope it addresses what we do with kids who have grass allergies at soccer games. Grass is toxic as well and we need to address this as a group so that the 3 kids in our league who are allergic to grass can also play.
Seating arrangements are truly the pinnacle of concern for SCSDL amd I for one am so thankful that they have decided to make such a stand for such an important issue. I am hoping the next pillar of excellence they pursue is the height of spectator chairs because those of you who prefer the tall ones are obstructing my view.
 
allstarsoccer310 said:
I clearly see white. You need to check your privilege.

The big bad DOC WOLF is watching so you best be sitting where you 'sposed to. Don't want to trigger any soccer parents
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Come on. That is clearly swiss coffee and the lettering is in invisible paint so not to offend anyone. It actually says "Sit down and shut the f*ck up while you watch your kid's game". I'm paraphrasing a little.
 
younothat said:
Who about Art?

First 11v11 on the attact...

Kind of bunching up could work on their shape and angles a bit :D

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For about 1k in speed and agility training, and 2k in privates, I could get at least one of these players on the national team. I see a lot of potential here. They just haven't had the right coach. I see some very special players that I could help with both their endurance and their instagram marketing. I would be proud to feature a couple on my own instagram page with the appropriate hashtags. Hell, for an extra 500, I will even tag the uswnt to see if Jill Ellis likes what she sees. I really think I could get a couple in the Stanford team, full ride, if you'd pass along my contact info. But only to the ones whose parents have money.
 
MWN said:
When a City or School gives a group (Club/League) a permit to use the fields, included in that permit is a bit of exclusivity to use the fields. Most permits state that the entire grass area is licensed to the Club/League, not just the area immediately surrounding the lined field and grant the club/league holding the permit the right to dictate who may enter the field. The guy with the dog playing Frisbee in the corner, the family holding a birthday party that spills over from the BBQ/Pavilion to the grass, the Dad and kid playing catch, can all be removed by any agent of the Club/League for just standing on the permitted area.

If this was an SCDSL game, then the following are the policies and enforcement procedure. From the 2017 Game Day Procedure Manual, which forms the basis of the rules and regulations all parents and their invitees (grandpa, Uncle Bob, etc.) must abide by:

Parents/spectators all sit on one side of the field. Home team coach will chose which side of mid-field the home team sits on. Each team parents/spectators will mirror their respective team/coach on the opposite side of the field. Parents are to stay on their side of midfield. PARENTS/SPECTATORS DO NOT SWITCH SIDES AT HALF-TIME. They are to stay where they are the entire game. Please make sure ALL spectators understand what is expected of them on the sidelines during SCDSL games. Clubs, DOC's and coaches will be held accountable for the sideline behavior of their spectators. I would recommend printing a copy of the SCDSL rules in case the referees do not know them. This is a learning process for everyone and the more prepared Team Managers are and the more information they have available to answer questions, the better things will go.
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The above is initially enforced by the Team Manager, then the Coach, then the Club/DOC. The procedure manual continues:

Managers should introduce themselves to each other prior to the game. If there are issues with parents/spectators from the opposing teams, parents/spectators are NOT to get confrontational with the opposing team. Managers should communicate with each other and each manager should deal with their own sideline issue. Parents/spectators are NOT to talk, criticize or bother the Assistant Referee on their side of the field. Referee Associations have been instructed that if this does occur, the AR will inform the center ref and the person causing the problem will be sent away from the field.​

The Referee is additionally empowered under the SCDSL rules to enforce all SCDSL policies.

Presidio and CSL have adopted a policy of parents sitting on the same side as their team, so I don't know if a similar rule exists for those clubs. What I can also say is US DA, USYS, Cal South all subscribe to the concept of parents on one side and players on the other side.
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I was being sarcastic.
 
Ex-football coach from TEXAS! Brother, you got no shot. Just kick yourself out and watch from the parking lot.
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And this is why im asking.

Most of you have been spot on with your responses. My approach as been like those suggested. Im not qualified to make coaching decisions nor do I have the soccer IQ to know what on gods earth the coach is thinking by having the same player dribble down the field with blinders on and get the ball stolen or kicked out of bounds 95% of the time by not passing.

As you could imagine, im a very out spoken individual. Music will get a try along with sitting away from the action.

For football, parents are in the stands behind a walk way / track / band / bench. Just being a soccer observer at this point you have too many people sitting on the side lines getting emotionally involved because the games an arms length away. I could easily see things cool off for everyone if they sat at least 20 yards back from the field.[/QUOTE]
 
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