My answer for the first part is...it's always about the money.I don't get the obsession (Well, I kind of know why) with youth soccer being the pathway to college. Like I said before many times, the top youth soccer league in our country is obsessed with youth soccer + college soccer. I have experience and watched how girls that were ok players jumped the line and play time over better soccer players because they were better students and had 4.5 GPA and insanely high SAT scores. Now the best players are not playing as much (some sat on da bench to watch the better student take over) because it's all about college. That sucks, moo!!!
As for the second part about players "jumping" the line...colleges by design are about education first (or at least they should be). So I don't see anything wrong with choosing a great student who is a good soccer player over a great soccer player who is a good student. Isn't that a good thing? It motivates the great soccer player to be a better student. A female student athletes' chances of making a sustained living in anything other than soccer is much higher than making a sustained living in soccer, so why not increase the odds of doing better in the former?
Of course there are the exceptions (e.g. Trinity, Alyssa, etc. as mentioned above). But the fact that we can name the exceptions tells us how rare they are. So rare that their pathway shouldn't be what all but the very best of the best strive for. Again, I don't get the obsession of creating an ecosystem that is designed around just the very best of the best.