Live by the sword, die by the sword.
You aren’t doing your DD any favors calling her the best player in SoCal in her age group and labeling her a goat at 9.
Let me tell you a story. When my Dwas about this age, maybe a bit older, her team went to Valencia to play in a tourney. We had been State Cup semifinalists the month or 2 prior and had added some new talent so we expected to do pretty well and coast to the final. In our second game, we played FC Valencia and figured we would win handily. Once the game started, there was a player on the other team that tore us to shreds, scoring 6 goals and assisting on 2. She didn’t even play the whole game. When she was off, we managed to put in 4 goals, so we lost 8-4. We found out later that this player was guesting cause she lived in the area and wanted to play a few games with her friends. Her name was OM. The best player in her ages group in SoCal.
if your DD warrants this label, she should have a similar impact in every game she plays.
Nobody should revel in a team getting beaten or have I’ll will towards a talented 9 year old. Just tone it down a notch.