Trust me I would never go to a team having those types of values and beliefs inside its organization & culture. Second season doing club soccer and I gotta say I've learned a great deal from all the vets on here with their different points of views and perspectives around this subject matter and others like the big "Development" picture one and also what it takes to navigate the Club soccer atmosphere. And yes absolutely you may have the
@XBZ or
@smellycleats77 type of parent in those teams that will put a muzzle on the "Dad Dog" of the team for his barking and sit his DD out of games and just end up cornering the mutt against the wall and then see him begging to stay on the team because he has no other options and his wife and DD are feeling all emotional about the situation when they have him pinned to the corner. Versus the type of mutt who's actually got the playing cards to bet and double down that whatever you say is simply nonsense. An that at the end of the day may have an actual deeper understanding and reasoning towards the purpose of the behavior and perception emanated from his actions and persona to manipulate a desired outcome that will push the player and team development aspect of the process towards faster and more robust growth. Thus actually adding more value to everyones end final product. Player and Team.
For me it's more like making a business decision. If you let your emotions get in the way of doing the right thing you may find yourself heading in a southern direction and soon to be out of business due to the decision. And for the club heading in a direction where you will not develop the type of team that you aim to create and the type of club or organization that you wish to form. For me It’s simple, It comes down to finding the right team environment and coaching style that fits what you look for. But one must understand. That the process the environment for how club soccer has evolved in America has forced and created a business model that revolves around teams needing to maintain status & popularity for its product to sustain a standard for the way their product comes out. If we take Surf or Blues or any other large club soccer organization. The reason why they sit at the top of the food chain versus the mom and pop teams is because they understand that they can't make decisions based on emotions. Sometime they gotta do the ugly things that no one else wants to do to maintain their product and attract certain types of players needed in order for them to meet the goals of the product they put out. Wether its right, wrong or ethical or unethical is another topic for debate and the direct result of what most people value and are willing to open their wallets for. So when you have a product that's in high demand and that's in low supply. You can guarantee there will be customers.
@Emma and
@Evelyn Gonzalez have their own argument and a perspective with their own respectable points of views. As do I but I'll leave that for a later time to come back with my rebuttal. It's not just fact or Vic I'm going against here, these ladies are some heavy weights right here. It's a battle that I need to contemplate getting myself into because of who I'm facing here. But in fairness yes they make a point. And I'll be back to give my own perspective and point of view on how I see a different and maybe a bigger picture that most don't see.