Do you think if a club has an issue of a coach having inappropriate relations with a child it...

Really!?! said:
I have been struggling with coming forward about my feelings on this issue because I know that it will draw in innocent people to a tangential issue but here is goes.

I believe Sandshark's feeling are genuine but believes what he/she hears from others due to an anti-Albion bias that is probably justified based on personal experiences.

I believe Fact knows something but I am not sure what.

Pervsmasher is an odd name for someone that claims that their daughter was a victim. Is it only me or does anyone else feel that the timing and comments by Pervsmasher were odd? To come on a public forum to spill his/her guts but not be willing to share the text with the press that guarantees to keep you anonymous? Also I feel that the tone of Pervsmasher changed about half way through the comments.

Based on the news story let's look at the facts:
1. A parent of an Albion girl went to the Chula Vista police because their daughter received a text from Tony Scheri, her soccer coach at Albion.
2. The Chula Vista police closed the case.
3. Albion wrote an email to families about the incident on February 14. I don't know if it was sent to anyone.

Here is what we do not know:
1. We do not know the reason the police closed the case. Maybe this girl lives in an unincorporated part of Chula Vista and should have gone to the Sheriff's office instead of the police. Maybe the investigation was turned over to another ageny. Maybe the girl refused to cooperate with the investigation. We do not know, but to be clear, nowhere in the story does it say that he was cleared or that the police declined to press charges.
2. We do not know what the text said. The story said it included something about a medical procedure that Tony was having but the source is not identified. I find it very troubling that a family would go to the police for something silly, but we all know that can happen.
3. We do not know what if anything Albion did to identify or prevent possible victims other than maybe their February 14th email which was dated almost 2 months after Scheri was fired. What made them think that this was limited to 1 victim? As a parent, I am solely responsible for the wellbeing of my children, however I do expect that if an organization that I am paying knows of an issue that may affect my family, that they would want to do everything in their ability to prevent my family from becoming a victim, including warning me.

Here is my concern:
1. I was encouraged by someone that was looking out for Albion's best interest [although I am not sure why since they have not been nice to him] to call Albion and let them know who a poster was that had multiple accounts and was slinging a ton of mud at them about this issue, since it was one of their parents.
3. When I let Albion know, their attorney's response was to say that the posts "endanger the minor without knowing the true facts..." Again the key words used by Albion's attorney "ENDANGER MINOR"
"ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR" "ENDANGER MINOR"
And yes I do have this in writing and no he did not include a privacy statement with his email so I am free to share it.
4. I offered to sit down with Albion to share the tangible evidence I have about this poster. But instead of doing so, they did not follow up with me and this person's dd still plays at Albion.
5. If this parent who has a child playing at Albion "Endanger(ed) (a) Minor" why is this person still at Albion? Could it all be about money? That Albion wanted to sweep everything under the rug? I don't know. But it has to make me think that more is going on here.

I know my post will not change anyone's opinion about this issue or about Albion but at least I can honestly say that I tried to do the right thing. I am sure my post will be deleted but oh well. Have a good weekend.
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“Pervsmasher is an odd name for someone that claims that their daughter was a victim. Is it only me or does anyone else feel that the timing and comments by Pervsmasher were odd? To come on a public forum to spill his/her guts but not be willing to share the text with the press that guarantees to keep you anonymous? Also I feel that the tone of Pervsmasher changed about half way through the comments.“

I wanted the guy exposed. I came here to hopefully have that happen. It has. I have zero ulterior motives. I am sorry if you feel I should have handled it differently. Now, I will go back to life far away from club soccer and this forum. Good luck to all in your journeys with your players...
 
Did you speak to the news? Because the story states that it was only 1 text to a 17 year old. If you have information that it was more than that I don’t know why you would not speak to the news? He agreed to keep people anonymous.
 
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HI MEG

Your gold dress a little too tight last night?

Everyone is laughing at you.



Listen dude, I don’t know who you are or who “Meg” is. Stop messaging me. Hey “Meg” ....... whoever you are, this asshat has it out for you, gold dress and all.
 
Really!?! said:
Did you speak to the news? Because the story states that it was only 1 text to a 17 year old. If you have information that it was more than that I don’t know why you would not speak to the news? He agreed to keep people anonymous.
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Won’t answer the question because you made up your story??? It is sad that a person would hate on a club so much to lie about kids.

You did not do much to expose him. The news made it sound like it
was 1 text to 1 person and non-sexual. You say it was more widespread and the text was sexual, unlike what the news reported. Prove it.
 
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What’s sad is how delusional you are. I am not anyone you know pal. It’s comical watching you desperately try to figure it out. Or maybe I really am the mysterious “Meg”? Who is she anyway and why would she be involved, I think that’s the real question since you are so eager to get involved and judge....let’s get to the bottom of that. Answer the question or are you only brave when it’s behind this lady’s back?

My kid is in college and spent several years, great fun years at Albion. Do you think you are helping the club by continuing to keep this front and center? Do you think NG or the admin guy want you on here trying to earn brownie points? My only beef with them was lack of communication. My kids experiences there were great. I do not blame the club for this happening and it had zero effect on her other. Than being a reality check that there are pervs out there. You are barking up the wrong tree buddy, it’s you who looks foolish here. I have spoken the truth, I have no clue who you or”Meg” are, I don’t hate or blame Albion at all I just did not like the response and would have liked them to get it out front first rather than as a reaction to uproar here. That’s my whole agenda buddy.....really.
 
Justafan said:
I call complete and utter bull sh!@#t. You're telling me that you would leave your team and coach for another club because a coach from another team, in a different age bracket, sent a text with sexual innuendo to a teenage girl that you don't know. Are you out of your mind?

As long as my kids, team, and coach are fine, I could give a rats ass what else goes on in the club. We are independent contractors in a dog eat dog business. And I don't look to the club for moral guidance and don't expect them to protect my kids from sexual predators, that's my job. Any club can put out the best policies and practices regarding this and it will not make me feel safer one bit. Labels and reputations mean nothing. I will be the judge of who I do and do not trust.

When it comes sexual abuse of minors, EVERYBODY is a suspect, regardless of reputation, and that includes family members, close friends, good-neighbors, coaches, teachers, clergy, etc.
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Are you an Albion coach? Or NG himself?? Definitely an Albion lover for sure.

I seen massive exodus from far less shit (I.e. embezzlement) and only because those idiots didn't have good cpa's and lawyers that created contracts and stipends that justifies their uber salary. And these cases are for less than 20k! Let that sink in.

Albion parents believe that their club is extremely superior to anything else on the county (Which is NOT!) and according to you labels and reputations mean nothing, but that's the entire world for this club.

Lastly I'm glad that I dodge this bullet, however just to think that there it could had been my DD, I feel for these people that have to go through this shit!

And I completely agree with you in your last paragraph.
 
Justafan said:
Before I go on my “I told you so” rant, I’d just like to know what you think should happen to Albion, the club, as a result of this incident (i.e. if you had the power of a judge, what would be your sentence for Albion?).

Also I’d like to know exactly what you think Albion families should do with their kids (i.e. should they leave the club because of this incident?).
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Ok to answer your question, I think Albion should have to answer to the other Presidio clubs why they failed to notify families who children might be victims? They only notified some families 2 months later and in response to this site. The article is very clear that only some parents on current teams were notified.

Someone made a great point below about parents and other clubs scorning clubs for poor management and embezzling money. All of San Diego wants a past DOC banned from soccer for life for embezzling and his club gone. To me messing with kids and not looking out for their best interest is worse than a thief. Shame on Presidio DOCs for turning a blind eye. But of course they did this because of the number of teams Albion brings to Presidio.

I would leave the club. Maybe not in mid-season but I would look for somewhere were I could look the DOC in the eye and trust him.
 
Justafan said:
You didn't answer my question, but your answer tells me that you want Albion's blood. I read and listened to the CBS news report and here are the essential facts. The parents of the teenage girl took the text to the Chula Vista police, who VIEWED the text, and declined to file charges. Albion fired the coach, sent out an email to all the parents he was actively coaching, and asked them for any feedback on this issue. They also issued a statement with the CBS news report. Thus, I assume that
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Justafan said:
at Albion


opps . .

Thus, I assume that everyone at Albion is aware of the incident. What more do you want? Everybody here wants Albions blood. This guy sends a criminally vague text with sexual innuendo and you guys want the death penalty. In the REAL world, this aint shit! Charges were declined and the case is closed. Yet you had people here arguing that it was the crime of the century, citing obscure federal codes.

And in the grand scheme of things, don't you think that a 17 year old female teenager has been exposed to more crap (meaning porn/sex) than this? Do you have any idea how much sexting goes on between teenagers and how much porn is out there. In the current state of affairs this was not that big a deal. And for the record, if that was my daughter who received the message, I'd confront the coach, tell him to never go there again with my daughter, advise the club, and if they fired the coach that would be it for me. I would not hold the club accountable for anything more. And yes I would tell the other parents of all his teams.
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You do realize that Albion sent out an email to only some parents (read the article). Not all families that he coached in the last year received the email. And the email was sent on February 14th and even states that it was in response to this site. They should have notified all families on girls this creep coached in the last few years that their daughter might be a victim. Exactly how did Albion know that there was not other victims during this 2 month period that they did nothing? And if we believe Pervmasher, there are other victims out there.

Great, Albion issued a statement. How do you know the statement is truthful? And why did they feel the need to include the girls age? The only reason is to downplay what happened but by doing so they probably outed this girl. Way to only think of themselves. For you to justify their response by saying that 17 year olds are exposed to more sexting? This is sad. Regardless of the amount of sexting among kids, this was a much older adult in a position of authority and power. That is never ok or have you know been watching the news?
 
Justafan said:
at Albion


opps . .

Thus, I assume that everyone at Albion is aware of the incident. What more do you want? Everybody here wants Albions blood. This guy sends a criminally vague text with sexual innuendo and you guys want the death penalty. In the REAL world, this aint shit! Charges were declined and the case is closed. Yet you had people here arguing that it was the crime of the century, citing obscure federal codes.

And in the grand scheme of things, don't you think that a 17 year old female teenager has been exposed to more crap (meaning porn/sex) than this? Do you have any idea how much sexting goes on between teenagers and how much porn is out there. In the current state of affairs this was not that big a deal. And for the record, if that was my daughter who received the message, I'd confront the coach, tell him to never go there again with my daughter, advise the club, and if they fired the coach that would be it for me. I would not hold the club accountable for anything more. And yes I would tell the other parents of all his teams.
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Crime of the century NO, disgusting SOB trying to fish for a victim YES. As far as your statement about "in the real world", speak for yourself because in my world this is something. A grown man in a position of authority and a mentor to young ladies doing this is way WAY different than something maybe some of these girls do with their boyfriends! Just the fact you made that comparison sends up Red flags with you in its self you are a PIG. People and myself included do not want Albion's blood, we just want Albion to stand up and fix the wrongs they allowed and not just walk away into the sunset after this as if all is good. They need to own up and do more to protect the children at their club.
 
Does US Soccer have a mandated background check/database? My understanding is sports under US Olympic Committee authority have instigated some kind of reporting/tracking/training for these types of things?
 
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