You have proven over the course of many years that you are confusing basic civility with "brown nosing". Seriously, in your meme you are denigrating people doing nothing more than saying something nice and being polite.
You have proven over the course of many years that you are confusing basic civility with "brown nosing". Seriously, in your meme you are denigrating people doing nothing more than saying something nice and being polite.
We had a coach who ran 'extra training' sessions on non-practice days, for a fee of course. It wasn't required, but the coach told the kids more than once "I don't like it when you don't come to extra training." and it was pretty clear insinuation if you didn't come to extra training, you didn't play/play as much.But, what do these pay to play parents do? Slip coach a $20 before each game? Buy coach an expensive bottle of scotch? I don't want to hear about the single moms... Anyone care to share some anecdotes?
You've described the most common ways parents get to coaches. Another popular way is to do private instruction aka "privates" with the coach.After reading the last page, I am curious about "pay to play". I have always just paid club fees and let coach determine position and play time. My boys get plenty of minutes, so for me, all is well.
But, what do these pay to play parents do? Slip coach a $20 before each game? Buy coach an expensive bottle of scotch? I don't want to hear about the single moms... Anyone care to share some anecdotes?
You've described the most common ways parents get to coaches. Another popular way is to do private instruction aka "privates" with the coach.
Private's usually cost $50-$100 per hour + parents that want to influence the coach do 2-3 hours a week.
You'd think but often privates become recruitment tools for players outside of the club. Why introduce a new player to your team at club practice when you can do it at privates?You can tell when a coach has good ethics when they refuse to do privates for players on their club team. The optics alone are horrible.
You'd think but often privates become recruitment tools for players outside of the club. Why introduce a new player to your team at club practice when you can do it at privates?
Also, coaches can use privates to pick winners and losers meaning maybe only the top players (whos parents cough up $$$) are invited. This is how you keep the best players + signal to everyone else get better or your off the team without even saying anything + the coach makes cash on the side.
The whole cycle works as long as the coach is winning.
After reading the last page, I am curious about "pay to play". I have always just paid club fees and let coach determine position and play time. My boys get plenty of minutes, so for me, all is well.
But, what do these pay to play parents do? Slip coach a $20 before each game? Buy coach an expensive bottle of scotch? I don't want to hear about the single moms... Anyone care to share some anecdotes?
I have some stories about single moms (and some not-yet single moms) but I am not going to share them here.After reading the last page, I am curious about "pay to play". I have always just paid club fees and let coach determine position and play time. My boys get plenty of minutes, so for me, all is well.
But, what do these pay to play parents do? Slip coach a $20 before each game? Buy coach an expensive bottle of scotch? I don't want to hear about the single moms... Anyone care to share some anecdotes?
Docs and the docs-in-training (coaches) are salesmen, always on the lookout for a trade or exchange. They can be pretty creative with the quid pro quo. They’re like Radar on MASH getting the stuff off the black market. Or was it Klinger?After reading the last page, I am curious about "pay to play". I have always just paid club fees and let coach determine position and play time. My boys get plenty of minutes, so for me, all is well.
But, what do these pay to play parents do? Slip coach a $20 before each game? Buy coach an expensive bottle of scotch? I don't want to hear about the single moms... Anyone care to share some anecdotes?
At the ECNL level, I have seen players make the squad or parents have more pull when they have multiple kids with the club.Docs and the docs-in-training (coaches) are salesmen, always on the lookout for a trade or exchange. They can be pretty creative with the quid pro quo. They’re like Radar on MASH getting the stuff off the black market. Or was it Klinger?
Hearing all these arguments, I think the the youth soccer club scene is in chaos because clubs try to listen to their customers (parents). I thought coaches are under pressure to win at all costs thus we have stories about kickball, bringing in ineligible guest players, teach players to cheat, poaching players, etc. At the same time, the coaches are accused for taking "bribes" for extra playing time, this contradicts "winning at all costs" because fielding the rich kids that are not qualified will make the team weaker.At the ECNL level, I have seen players make the squad or parents have more pull when they have multiple kids with the club.
The pressure first is always for the club's bottom line, which isn't profits so much as survival. However, ECNL is a strange animal because you can put 10 on the bench to fund the team and scholarship half the starters. That being said, what I saw from the inside was extremely unsettling.Hearing all these arguments, I think the the youth soccer club scene is in chaos because clubs try to listen to their customers (parents). I thought coaches are under pressure to win at all costs thus we have stories about kickball, bringing in ineligible guest players, teach players to cheat, poaching players, etc. At the same time, the coaches are accused for taking "bribes" for extra playing time, this contradicts "winning at all costs" because fielding the rich kids that are not qualified will make the team weaker.
Nope, that's not how it works.Hearing all these arguments, I think the the youth soccer club scene is in chaos because clubs try to listen to their customers (parents). I thought coaches are under pressure to win at all costs thus we have stories about kickball, bringing in ineligible guest players, teach players to cheat, poaching players, etc. At the same time, the coaches are accused for taking "bribes" for extra playing time, this contradicts "winning at all costs" because fielding the rich kids that are not qualified will make the team weaker.
Been talking to my daughters coaches for the past 7 years. After the game on the way to the car (somehow my daughter is always the last one to leave), maybe before a practice. Only keeper on the team during that time. 3 head coaches. Same assistant. Helped fund raise for others on the team, always ahead on payments, our family helped with transportation. Chatting soccer, college, etc. Only thing I ever told the coaches (yes told, not asked), at age 11 (she is now 16) was that I wanted her to take all her goal kicks. Yes she made some mistakes, but her leg and accuracy improved because of this. Didn't always agree with some of the things they said to her, but if she had an issue she could say something.Obviously there are people that go too far for sure....but having a conversation with coach doesn't really mean anything other than someone having a conversation with a coach.