So, I live on the East Coast and am close with another 07 Family. I just think it is very egotistical to claim all these things about your own with nothing to back it up. The US is much bigger than just California and Texas. I know for an absolute fact there are at least 20 kids in the US on the same level as yours.
Sorry, deny all you want, but you are saying your DD is just as good or better than OM at this age. Please think about what your are saying. It sounds nuts.
To top it off, no one has done any USSF ID camps except regionally because of CoVid. How about you go through the motions just like every other parent has to go through because of the CoVid situation. You are not asking for support. Instead, to me at least, you sound like some entitled a-hole parent playing the victim and perhaps even the Race card on top of it.