Agree with much of what you have to say here. Let me try to unite a few concepts (and make a suggestion).
A player is best able to beat their defenders not by taking them on 1v1, but with anticipation and their first touch. I do not mean standing around and being able to trap whatever ball comes your way, I mean taking a touch that is controlled, positive and creates space and options (and being an option yourself). That requires players with not only great foot skills, but who can anticipate where they can receive the ball with the best opportunity to either posses or attack (and preferably both), who can receive the ball at speed and make a controlled touch into a space they will be first to, who play with their head up so they see what is developing and adjust their decisions accordingly and, most importanly, it requires teammates who understand where they are likely to be, and how to pass it to that space (and not to where they were). Now perhaps some will argue that the best pure athletes can be taught all this. I respectfully disagree -- soccer IQ is both learned and innate, and you cannot relay on only one method to obtain it.
Regardless, team play requires more time together. The USYNT camp should run from June-August, 60-70 days every summer (starting at age 14), then additional 2-3 week sessions fall/winter and spring, and perhaps one weekend per month games (in addition to their club). Player pools should be 60 per combined age group, able to create A/B/C teams. Encourage clubs to pay for their invited players' travel, have US Soccer cover all camp costs and have some travel scholarships. Stop funding club leagues, spend that money on the youth national teams and on coach education at the youngest levels.
Oh -- and let the kids play high school soccer, because not only is it good marketing for US Soccer and what is possible, but it allows the kids, who will have a lot demanded of them, to still have a childhood. Even CIF makes exemptions for National Team duties. And playing HS will not lobotomize our best players, provided they have a soccer brain to begin with.