Parents from certain teams

[Soccer Cat]

I watched two parents and one kid get tossed out of two different 2004 games/same team this weekend at Charity Cup. They deserved it, the ref actually had a lot of restraint. They really should have tossed one of the coaches and several of the parents as well. Their sideline erupted in cheers when their girls got yellow cards. Our team played after theirs and the bad parents' sideline was littered with trash when they left.

 

[timbuck]

In all seriousness- What would it take for the leagues to put parents on the same side as their teams?
An asshole will still be an asshole. But at least it will be harder to start a fight from across the field.

 

[baldref]

If you want to hear crazy ass comments, just sit in the stands with the parents at a college ID camp. They coach from the stands, brag about how great their kid is and bad mouth other kids. They are clueless as to which parent belongs to which kid they are badmouthing.

During the summer between my daughter’s HS junior and Senior year we went to an ID camp in Georgia near Savannah that was mostly attended by NAIA coaches, but two of the D1/D2 coaches that were recruiting her were there. I was sitting in the top row of the bleachers with all of the other parents in front of me and the mom of one of the keepers right in front of me. For an hour I sat and quietly listened to her cheering and yelling advice to her keeper daughter and loudly saying how great her daughter was and all her accomplishments. My daughter was on fire that day and I later found out that she was pissed because some of the girls gave her crap because she was from California. Her scrimmage team rotated into a game against the loudmouth mom’s keeper daughter. My DD scored three goals, including a sweet header and bicycle kick goal, within the first 10 minutes. The keeper’s mom announced that she had heard that the redhead (my DD) played for a California ECNL team (wrong it was CSL), ODP (wrong), and was a high school all-state player (wrong), and that was why her daughter was unable to stop any of those goals. It saw hot and humid and I had heard enough of the mom’s BS. I informed her that the redhead was my daughter and she did not play ECNL, ODP or HS soccer and that she was just a slightly above average Southern California player. The keeper’s mom just said, “oh” and everyone stopped the bragging and coaching and were quiet for the remainder of the afternoon. As we were walking to the car I told my daughter what I did and she gave me a high-five and said, “That keeper sucked.” The next day I brought my earbuds and listened to music.

my mom loved watching my daughter play, and her and my step dad would even drive to temecula from pine valley where they lived, to watch her games. even after my step dad couldn't walk very well, she would pack up his scooter in the mini-van and they would go anywhere to watch her play. step dad passed away about seven years ago, and mom was on her own. my kid stopped playing and mom was lonely. I started having her come out to watch me ref games. it gave her the youth soccer fix and it was good to get her out of the house and doing something active, although at first it was a bit weird having a fifty something year old man getting kisses from his mommy after the games..... anyway, we've had a lot of fun with it over the years. at first mom had to really bite her lip as she sat with the sidelines listening to the crazy stuff that parents say, not just towards the referee (her son), but towards their own kids, and to the opposing players. some of the things she tells me after the games is just pure insanity. we have had fun with it too from time to time. One game, she's sitting in the middle of the parents and the ball goes over her head and she made a feeble attempt to stop it. I yelled "hey old lady! how about a little bit better effort next time!" the looks from the parents was awesome..... another time, i had a sideline that was very very unhappy with me, and she was sitting in the middle of them. after the game I make a beeline straight over to them with my grumpy face, and then stop and give my mom a hug and say, "how did you friends like me mom?". again, the expressions on their faces were so great. over the years, mom has identified not only clubs with the worst parents, but certain coaches that i've seen numerous times, and how they treat their kids, and she doesn't really approve.

hmmmm..... i'm not sure i have a point to this story......

 

[Messi>CR7]

my mom loved watching my daughter play, and her and my step dad would even drive to temecula from pine valley where they lived, to watch her games. even after my step dad couldn't walk very well, she would pack up his scooter in the mini-van and they would go anywhere to watch her play. step dad passed away about seven years ago, and mom was on her own. my kid stopped playing and mom was lonely. I started having her come out to watch me ref games. it gave her the youth soccer fix and it was good to get her out of the house and doing something active, although at first it was a bit weird having a fifty something year old man getting kisses from his mommy after the games..... anyway, we've had a lot of fun with it over the years. at first mom had to really bite her lip as she sat with the sidelines listening to the crazy stuff that parents say, not just towards the referee (her son), but towards their own kids, and to the opposing players. some of the things she tells me after the games is just pure insanity. we have had fun with it too from time to time. One game, she's sitting in the middle of the parents and the ball goes over her head and she made a feeble attempt to stop it. I yelled "hey old lady! how about a little bit better effort next time!" the looks from the parents was awesome..... another time, i had a sideline that was very very unhappy with me, and she was sitting in the middle of them. after the game I make a beeline straight over to them with my grumpy face, and then stop and give my mom a hug and say, "how did you friends like me mom?". again, the expressions on their faces were so great. over the years, mom has identified not only clubs with the worst parents, but certain coaches that i've seen numerous times, and how they treat their kids, and she doesn't really approve.

hmmmm..... i'm not sure i have a point to this story......

Lovely story, but I'm a little disappointed with the ending. In the middle of the paragraph, I was hoping this ends with your mom with her scooter plowing through those parents who berated you.

 

[baldref]

Lovely story, but I'm a little disappointed with the ending. In the middle of the paragraph, I was hoping this ends with your mom with her scooter plowing through those parents who berated you.

at first, she would get very upset, and she did have words a couple of times with one or two of them. but i told her she just had to ignore it. i'm not saying i wouldn't stop a game to go kick someone's ass who was attacking my mother, but i sure don't want to.

 

[pewpew]

Lovely story, but I'm a little disappointed with the ending. In the middle of the paragraph, I was hoping this ends with your mom with her scooter plowing through those parents who berated you.

I almost choked on my drink right now laughing so hard reading this at my player's training!!
A few other parents asked me if I was ok but I just played it off saying it went down the wrong way.

 

[coachrefparent]

Dude, do u even have kids? The kids get a lot of their homework online and turn in homework on google docs or sheets. If u take away their phone and/or computer they can’t do their homework.

I suppose I could sit in his room every night and then make sure he gets all his homework done and then take away his phone and computer, but I just think that’s too intrusive, and tbh I have better things to do. Is that ok with u?

You are the one that said "I have no problem with parents yelling at their kids to hustle or play harder, because I’m pretty sure before the game that parent was yelling at the kid to get off fortnite and get to bed early..."

You sound like my son, "I need my phone and computer to do homework....", and using tbh and "u" instead of you tells me you're a child.

 

[Keepermom2]

Every once in a while my daughter will look at me from her spot at keeper, put her finger to her lips to shhhh me. Or my wife smacks me. I'm getting better, I promise. I don't want to become one of the guys you talk about here on the forum.

LOL...my daughter did the same thing to me this weekend. It is just so hard!!!

 

[DefndrDad]

my mom loved watching my daughter play, and her and my step dad would even drive to temecula from pine valley where they lived, to watch her games. even after my step dad couldn't walk very well, she would pack up his scooter in the mini-van and they would go anywhere to watch her play. step dad passed away about seven years ago, and mom was on her own. my kid stopped playing and mom was lonely. I started having her come out to watch me ref games. it gave her the youth soccer fix and it was good to get her out of the house and doing something active, although at first it was a bit weird having a fifty something year old man getting kisses from his mommy after the games..... anyway, we've had a lot of fun with it over the years. at first mom had to really bite her lip as she sat with the sidelines listening to the crazy stuff that parents say, not just towards the referee (her son), but towards their own kids, and to the opposing players. some of the things she tells me after the games is just pure insanity. we have had fun with it too from time to time. One game, she's sitting in the middle of the parents and the ball goes over her head and she made a feeble attempt to stop it. I yelled "hey old lady! how about a little bit better effort next time!" the looks from the parents was awesome..... another time, i had a sideline that was very very unhappy with me, and she was sitting in the middle of them. after the game I make a beeline straight over to them with my grumpy face, and then stop and give my mom a hug and say, "how did you friends like me mom?". again, the expressions on their faces were so great. over the years, mom has identified not only clubs with the worst parents, but certain coaches that i've seen numerous times, and how they treat their kids, and she doesn't really approve.

hmmmm..... i'm not sure i have a point to this story......

Keep going lol what happens next?! I bet your mom’s “stories from the sideline” could be a reality show.

 

[JJP]

You are the one that said "I have no problem with parents yelling at their kids to hustle or play harder, because I’m pretty sure before the game that parent was yelling at the kid to get off fortnite and get to bed early..."

You sound like my son, "I need my phone and computer to do homework....", and using tbh and "u" instead of you tells me you're a child.

Using abbreviations makes me a child? If that’s the only substantive response you have, why do u even bother to reply? You make no sense. There’s no correlation between abbreviation use and age.

And yes, he does need his computer to do homework. There’s this program called Google Docs. His school has given him a student account where he saves his homework on a network drive. Some of his homework has to be turned in that way, the teacher won’t accept paper. When he saves the homework, it gets time stamped so the teacher can see that it’s turned in on time.

Please explain o fount of all knowing wisdom how he’s supposed to save homework on google docs without a computer.

 

[JJP]

i know you don't give a shit or care, but you're the problem.

Yes, Ms. Laura Ingersoll, I can see that you want me and everyone else to “just shut up and dribble.” Because you are a ref, or a coach, with a position of authority. And you want that authority respected.

But this is the USA, not some banana republic like where you grew up. People here get to speak up and disagree with the President of the US. So there’s no way you can demand or expect that kind of respect for a coach or ref, especially a shitty coach or ref.

And let’s face it. There are some incredibly bad coaches and refs out there. If some adult wants to criticize a shitty coach or ref and is willing to live with the consequences, then it’s on him or her. I’m not getting involved to say “tut tut, that’s improper” and regulate grown men and women as if they’re children like you want to.

I get it that you think people who say things you disagree with are the problem. What I’m telling you is, people like you who don’t stick to their own lane are the bigger problem.

 

[baldref]

Yes, Ms. Laura Ingersoll, I can see that you want me and everyone else to “just shut up and dribble.” Because you are a ref, or a coach, with a position of authority. And you want that authority respected.

But this is the USA, not some banana republic like where you grew up. People here get to speak up and disagree with the President of the US. So there’s no way you can demand or expect that kind of respect for a coach or ref, especially a shitty coach or ref.

And let’s face it. There are some incredibly bad coaches and refs out there. If some adult wants to criticize a shitty coach or ref and is willing to live with the consequences, then it’s on him or her. I’m not getting involved to say “tut tut, that’s improper” and regulate grown men and women as if they’re children like you want to.

I get it that you think people who say things you disagree with are the problem. What I’m telling you is, people like you who don’t stick to their own lane are the bigger problem.

anger. lack of respect, poor upbringing, too bad, so sad.

 

[Fact]

Yes, Ms. Laura Ingersoll, I can see that you want me and everyone else to “just shut up and dribble.” Because you are a ref, or a coach, with a position of authority. And you want that authority respected.

But this is the USA, not some banana republic like where you grew up. People here get to speak up and disagree with the President of the US. So there’s no way you can demand or expect that kind of respect for a coach or ref, especially a shitty coach or ref.

And let’s face it. There are some incredibly bad coaches and refs out there. If some adult wants to criticize a shitty coach or ref and is willing to live with the consequences, then it’s on him or her. I’m not getting involved to say “tut tut, that’s improper” and regulate grown men and women as if they’re children like you want to.

I get it that you think people who say things you disagree with are the problem. What I’m telling you is, people like you who don’t stick to their own lane are the bigger problem.

You need a lesson in constitutional law. Just like the stupid parents that think you can sit wherever they like during a game. YOU CANNOT DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ON THE SIDELINES!! The area around the fields, along with the fields are rented for the game and thus are controlled and governed by the rules of whatever organization is the licensing body. In most cases around here it is the home team/club/tournament and CalSouth. Don't STFU and you can and should be tossed. You continue to violate the rule and you can and should be banned from all games. Just because no one has the balls to say anything to you so far does not mean it is allowed, just means people are chicken shit or are trying to not make it worse for your kid. Sounds like you possibly might be a good candidate to report to CPS depending upon the age of your child.

Since you think that you are invincible. why don't you tell me which team your kid plays on? I will personally make sure I come and watch the games and file reports on your behavior with CalSouth. Then we will see what exactly your rights are. You're a poor excuse for a human.

 

[JJP]

You need a lesson in constitutional law. Just like the stupid parents that think you can sit wherever they like during a game. YOU CANNOT DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ON THE SIDELINES!! The area around the fields, along with the fields are rented for the game and thus are controlled and governed by the rules of whatever organization is the licensing body. In most cases around here it is the home team/club/tournament and CalSouth. Don't STFU and you can and should be tossed. You continue to violate the rule and you can and should be banned from all games. Just because no one has the balls to say anything to you so far does not mean it is allowed, just means people are chicken shit or are trying to not make it worse for your kid. Sounds like you possibly might be a good candidate to report to CPS depending upon the age of your child.

Since you think that you are invincible. why don't you tell me which team your kid plays on? I will personally make sure I come and watch the games and file reports on your behavior with CalSouth.Then we will see what exactly your rights are. You're a poor excuse for a human.

OMG. Learn to read.

The thing I said setting off this shitfest is, I have no problem with parents saying “C’mon pick it up” to their kid, and that innocuous statement really seems to have triggered the manner nannies, because you don’t like anyone saying anything at all, or anything you disagree with.

The behavior of the refs in this discussion matches the behavior of the vast majority of refs I’ve seen in games, and shows why you are a big part of the problem. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve seen a ref blow a call, hearing a parent tell the ref something like, “That’s not an offsides, #18 over there was keeping everyone insides.”

And the parent is completely right, and then ref blows up, tells the parent he will kick him out, and starts making more terrible calls to get his revenge, ticking off more parents, and then that idiot ref starts complaining about “crazy parents”.

Sure , there are crazy parents, but there are tons of crazy, crappy refs. And you are one of them. Threatening to follow me around at my son’s games so you can police my behavior because u don’t like the fact that I’m telling the truth and not knuckling under to what you guys thinks is “proper”behavior. That’s called stalking you crazy ass fool.

 

[espola]

OMG. Learn to read.

The thing I said setting off this shitfest is, I have no problem with parents saying “C’mon pick it up” to their kid, and that innocuous statement really seems to have triggered the manner nannies, because you don’t like anyone saying anything at all, or anything you disagree with.

The behavior of the refs in this discussion matches the behavior of the vast majority of refs I’ve seen in games, and shows why you are a big part of the problem. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve seen a ref blow a call, hearing a parent tell the ref something like, “That’s not an offsides, #18 over there was keeping everyone insides.”

And the parent is completely right, and then ref blows up, tells the parent he will kick him out, and starts making more terrible calls to get his revenge, ticking off more parents, and then that idiot ref starts complaining about “crazy parents”.

Sure , there are crazy parents, but there are tons of crazy, crappy refs. And you are one of them. Threatening to follow me around at my son’s games so you can police my behavior because u don’t like the fact that I’m telling the truth and not knuckling under to what you guys thinks is “proper”behavior. That’s called stalking you crazy ass fool.

In my son's first year as a club coach, the referee blew an offside call (keeper and defender were still in the PA after a 50-50 goal kick was won by his midfielder who immediately pumped the ball about 20 yards forward to his open teammate - tweet - arm in air). My son pointed at the opponents and said loud enough for the referee to hear "One - Two". The referee waved him off and warned him to be quiet about it. The AR on his side was someone he knew from high school coaching days, so they had a laugh about it.

 

[baldref]

OMG. Learn to read.

The thing I said setting off this shitfest is, I have no problem with parents saying “C’mon pick it up” to their kid, and that innocuous statement really seems to have triggered the manner nannies, because you don’t like anyone saying anything at all, or anything you disagree with.

The behavior of the refs in this discussion matches the behavior of the vast majority of refs I’ve seen in games, and shows why you are a big part of the problem. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve seen a ref blow a call, hearing a parent tell the ref something like, “That’s not an offsides, #18 over there was keeping everyone insides.”

And the parent is completely right, and then ref blows up, tells the parent he will kick him out, and starts making more terrible calls to get his revenge, ticking off more parents, and then that idiot ref starts complaining about “crazy parents”.

Sure , there are crazy parents, but there are tons of crazy, crappy refs. And you are one of them. Threatening to follow me around at my son’s games so you can police my behavior because u don’t like the fact that I’m telling the truth and not knuckling under to what you guys thinks is “proper”behavior. That’s called stalking you crazy ass fool.

I’m glad I’m not you

 

[Fact]

OMG. Learn to read.

The thing I said setting off this shitfest is, I have no problem with parents saying “C’mon pick it up” to their kid, and that innocuous statement really seems to have triggered the manner nannies, because you don’t like anyone saying anything at all, or anything you disagree with.

The behavior of the refs in this discussion matches the behavior of the vast majority of refs I’ve seen in games, and shows why you are a big part of the problem. I can’t even count the number of times I’ve seen a ref blow a call, hearing a parent tell the ref something like, “That’s not an offsides, #18 over there was keeping everyone insides.”

And the parent is completely right, and then ref blows up, tells the parent he will kick him out, and starts making more terrible calls to get his revenge, ticking off more parents, and then that idiot ref starts complaining about “crazy parents”.

Sure , there are crazy parents, but there are tons of crazy, crappy refs. And you are one of them. Threatening to follow me around at my son’s games so you can police my behavior because u don’t like the fact that I’m telling the truth and not knuckling under to what you guys thinks is “proper”behavior. That’s called stalking you crazy ass fool.

anger. lack of respect, poor upbringing, too bad, so sad.

I have no problem reading. You've made it perfectly clear what type of person you are and I completely agree with Baldref. ^

 

[Nefutous]

During the last and this World Cup the favorite line by obnoxious parents seems to be he/she is “pulling a Neymar.” Unless you have medical training and are examing the child, you do not have the right to say anything about a child that is down.

However there was a flopper on my son’s team years ago and the ref pulled him aside and told him that he needed a hobby because he was watching too much of the World Cup. Even the boy’s dad had to laugh.

 

[Nefutous]

This is why I go to an area away from the sidelines. Often behind the net when its allowed or possible. Or off in the corner. I have even from time to time put my wireless earbuds in and listen to music.

Thinking about this post, when is it ever allowed to sit behind the goal? In fact when is it even allowed to sit anywhere between the corner flag and goal? Unless you mean that you are 20 feet away and up a hill???? Just curious on whether this is a rule or a custom. Refs seem to be all over the board on this issue.

 

[timbuck]

Thinking about this post, when is it ever allowed to sit behind the goal? In fact when is it even allowed to sit anywhere between the corner flag and goal? Unless you mean that you are 20 feet away and up a hill???? Just curious on whether this is a rule or a custom. Refs seem to be all over the board on this issue.

A ref will usually clear this out if they notice it. But they are usually focused on the game. It typically takes a coach to complain about it. Which then causes more tension on the sidelines because “your coach is a snitch”.

Same thing with kids running around out there with earrings/nose rings. Refs don’t always catch it. But when a player or coach notifies a ref about it, all hell can break loose.

If everyone would just follow rules and use common sense, things would be a lot more pleasant out there.

 

[Messi>CR7]

Thinking about this post, when is it ever allowed to sit behind the goal? In fact when is it even allowed to sit anywhere between the corner flag and goal? Unless you mean that you are 20 feet away and up a hill???? Just curious on whether this is a rule or a custom. Refs seem to be all over the board on this issue.

I usually stand between the goal and corner flag to take photos. I back up a few steps back if the action is coming closer to me.

I was told once by our coach that supposedly no one should be standing behind the goal lines. But I keep my mouth shut and don't cheer at all while standing there, and no refs have ever asked me to leave. The key is don't draw attention to yourself.