Exactly. That's why most of the coaches my daughter spoke with (who were serious about recruiting her) tried to be very clear about where she fit in. I say "tried" because the good, honest ones will always tell you that they can't predict those things with much precision. One coach made a point of telling her about kids that he recruited who he was sure were going to be superstars who flamed out and kids that he recruited for bench depth who ended up being studs. He explained that he's not recruiting her for what she is right now, but what he thinks she can be. But that always comes with the caveat that they are all bench players until they earn their playing time. She had another coach who said that she had to work on some significant areas of her game, but if she continued to develop he could see her competing for a starting spot by her junior year. But until then, he viewed her as a solid character addition for the team culture and bench depth. She accepted an offer with a different school where the coach said she would compete for starts as a freshman, and the coach expected significant playing time and production from her and, "All that depends 100% on what you do after you get here."
The good ones will lay out a couple different scenarios, and tell you which one they think is most realistic. We learned that it's not really in the coaches' best interests to snowball the player about playing time to get them to commit, because then they're wasting their own time and resources if they do. The bad ones will be very vague and keep stalling for more time to "talk it over with the other coaches," or "need to see a little more," even after they'd seen her play in many games and worked with her in camps in person. We learned those were red flags that they were trying to keep her on the burner as a 2nd option while pursuing a higher priority prospect. We much preferred a coach who ghosted her or simply said, "No thanks," to one who kept her on a string or made non-specific promises about playing time.
College coaches understand that it's a huge gap between a 17 year old boy or girl club superstar and a 20 year old man or woman with 2 years of college soccer and physical maturation under their belt. There are so many variables which can derail them between their college commitment and their first real contribution on the field for their team, so that's why character is such a big deal to them in the recruitment process. It also depends on the school. The top 1% schools like Stanford, UCLA, UNC, FSU, etc., are getting national team prospects, so those conversations are obviously a little different. But most schools are looking for diamonds in the rough. Tim Ward said that he recruits a player's ceiling and potential, and that's like playing the stock market. A smart investor buys stock not because of the growth a company has already had, but because they think there's a lot more growth to be had, and that takes time.