Since I feel I kind of started this hot mess, I wanted to add what is-for me-a capstone. My situation 3-unethical, tactical, sour grapes from the asshole parents of the sandbagged team, another example of why life is fundamentally unfair, just win all your games and you'll never have to bitch, or what? I guess for me in the end it still just comes down to what is sporting and what is not. Old-fashioned, square, whatever, don't care. I realize there must be some point at which "sporting" is subsumed within the larger body of "ethics". But unethical feels like a strong label for Situation 3, unless firm collusion-y stuff can be established. On the other end, just writing Situation 3 off as "life is unfair" seems off point to me as well. I think there is an argument that the reason sport exists in the first place is exactly because life is unfair. Standard shit going on behind the scenes, but when you step into the game, there is a certain expectation of conduct. "Mom says I suck at art, Dad says I suck at music, Coach tells me I suck at soccer, but here I am". Some might say, well, what a bunch of moralistic hogwash, getting on a high horse, etc. But the thing is the horse is not that high, not 14 hands. Just a bit taller than the marginal animal that immediately springs to mind when you visualize the standard youth soccer dog and pony show.
I'm not sure why somebody who basically posts you can get injured at any time doing anything, soccer or not soccer, should catch hate here. We all know its true, and probably are aware of specific examples. There was a poster on this site named Culchie, who I think was a formative person in the Celtic soccer club. Not sure if they are active anymore. They posted a lot of stuff i didn't agree with as I remember. But they often posted "It's a players game". I think maybe I'm starting to understand that now. The problem with Situation 3 is not about the team that got sandbagged, it's about the two teams that were involved. Somebody else posted play like college scouts are always watching. I guess my take on that would be play like you want to remember yourself playing 20 years from now. Because the time is short.