What should my son do?

I think this thread begs the question - "At what age and level of play is a permanent team captain a good idea?"

05 Boys are in 7th/8th grade. A "fun" age for any gender. You start to see "Alpha" personalities and bullying become a little more pronounced. And if a coach picks the captain, you may get whispers of "that kid is his favorite. I don't know why. He's not that great." (both from players and parents).
My 07 daughter was picked to be her teams captain last year. I was not in favor of making a 10 year girl a "captain." She's a bit bossy and more aggressive than the rest on her team. She was new to the team last year. A girl who had been on the team for a few years (who is a great player) was bummed out and cried that she wasn't a captain. Coach wound up naming both of them as captains for the year. We had to really try to teach her how to try and lead in a positive way with actions and not words. She wasn't ready for it. And her teammates weren't ready to be yelled at by a friend.
And I don't think a "team vote" on captains prior to high school is correct either. It becomes a popularity contest and can cause division among the team.

Not sure on boys. They probably have less sensitivity on this kind of thing. But I do think it is a team-by-team basis on naming permanent captains.

(I was named team captain of our school ski team back in high school. My first year on the team as a junior. A kid who had been on the team since his freshman year and now a senior was really upset that he didn't get named. He couldn't ski his way out of a paper bag and was a bit shy. I told him he could have it. I just wanted to get a chance to ski every day after school).
 
I think this thread begs the question - "At what age and level of play is a permanent team captain a good idea?"

05 Boys are in 7th/8th grade. A "fun" age for any gender. You start to see "Alpha" personalities and bullying become a little more pronounced. And if a coach picks the captain, you may get whispers of "that kid is his favorite. I don't know why. He's not that great." (both from players and parents).
My 07 daughter was picked to be her teams captain last year. I was not in favor of making a 10 year girl a "captain." She's a bit bossy and more aggressive than the rest on her team. She was new to the team last year. A girl who had been on the team for a few years (who is a great player) was bummed out and cried that she wasn't a captain. Coach wound up naming both of them as captains for the year. We had to really try to teach her how to try and lead in a positive way with actions and not words. She wasn't ready for it. And her teammates weren't ready to be yelled at by a friend.
And I don't think a "team vote" on captains prior to high school is correct either. It becomes a popularity contest and can cause division among the team.

Not sure on boys. They probably have less sensitivity on this kind of thing. But I do think it is a team-by-team basis on naming permanent captains.

(I was named team captain of our school ski team back in high school. My first year on the team as a junior. A kid who had been on the team since his freshman year and now a senior was really upset that he didn't get named. He couldn't ski his way out of a paper bag and was a bit shy. I told him he could have it. I just wanted to get a chance to ski every day after school).

My U16/17 son will tell you he prefers earning the right to be captain & rotating among players who have the support of the team & coach.

Some of them might only captain for a single game while other will go on a streak for x games.. Injuries, performance, training attendance, and player relations can all be a factor for changing that week or not but its good that more players get captain experience. Sometimes a coach will mention the player of the game or effort player of the game and the captain can nominate those people or recommend them for the next game for example, my son has done this and teammates really appreciate that.
 
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