Clubs don’t evaluate their coaches the way they should. Most of these coaches played soccer but have no idea how to properly treat developing children/athletes. Having a C license running an EXPENSIVE high level team is a joke! ECNL/RL/GA etc. cost parents thousands every year, having a competent coach is not a lot to ask for.
The quality of coaching will not get any better until we parents speak out against the bad ones & demand higher quality from the clubs that cash our checks $$$
Most of the younger male coaches from Europe with no kids have no idea how to handle young females entering middle school and high school in SoCal. They 100% have no clue on how to deal with parents from SoCal. We are a mixed bag of parents with different goals for what soccer can bring to our children. Some parents have so much money they buy club, donate big bucks to club or find away on the board. If you can't make one of those, try and become Team Manager. These are some of the men in charge of youth soccer in SoCal and they in charge.These are the folks who hire the coaches. We had one Doc that told my dd she was too picky on where she could ball in college. She played lights out one game at the showcase and had some strong interest (full ride) from some nice schools.
Doc: "hey player, Big U from this State is interested in you.
Player: "Where's that?"
Doc "Up in the cold, snow and dark half the year."
Player: "No thanks"
Doc: "You won't get a deal acting like that. You seem really picky."
Player: "I'm not even sure I want to go to college."
Doc: "Then why you even playing ECNL."
Player: "To play soccer at a highest level in Socal."
Doc: "Hey champ, you sit this game out. Sit next to me and see what college soccer all is about."
It doesn't get better for some of the ladies in college and even the Pros with low level coaches. Basically, girls have been treated like shit for thousands of years and soccer has been a place where many women have been treated bad from coaches that are clueless. I still remember one young male coach with accent telling one of his 11-year-old female players who was crying, "stop crying all the time. Are you on your period again." It was insane. Dude had no kids and was just a single man that was good looking coach, had charm and wit, excellent salesman and the accent to boot. He also played the great game in Europe and knew the game, so it seemed like a home run. However, his communication with the parents and kids was horrible at best and illegal at worse. He ended up getting fired and last I hear he's in corporate sales.