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Deserved to play both. Figure out a way to help all girls play together, not divide.Just curious......Why do you think she deserves it? Interesting choice of words.
Deserved to play both. Figure out a way to help all girls play together, not divide.Just curious......Why do you think she deserves it? Interesting choice of words.
I’ve argued on here about the ridiculousness of DA (of which my kiddo is a member) and the HS soccer thing as well. What I’ve been able to come to grips with over the past 2 years, is that HS soccer means something different to EVERYONE! Not just me and my DD or you and yours. To DA’s credit, the initial rules DID allow for HS soccer and a return to DA status until 2021. The blame ultimately fell on the individual club DOC’s that enforced the the NO DA RETURN RULE early!! I was pissed. Because I, like you and many others, love HS sports and think it’s stupid to preclude them from participating. While I haven’t changed my position on this, I’m less inclined to be upset about it, personally. After all, life is full of choices and sacrifices to achieving ones goals. USSF just happened to create one for our kiddos that will take time to for us to come to grips with. Mine has always been a top tier player. ODP invites, Training Center invites (until she aged out) and has a true passion for the game. She reluctantly sacrificed HS soccer, as well as the other HS sports in which she was a Varsity letterman as a freshman, because she had to make that choice. Wasted energy looking back and saying it wasn’t worth it, just because she never got a YNT call. She did, however, grab something far more valuable.....a COLLEGE commitment (her ultimate goal in this journey). Ten years from now, she won’t look back with regret about missing a couple HS seasons. Hell, it may not take that long. So, my advise.....get over it. I did. Sometimes, achieving ones dreams, comes with sacrifice.Deserved to play both. Figure out a way to help all girls play together, not divide.
At the very least couldn't she have gotten one lousy waiver so she can play both HS Soccer with her new friends and the DA? She wanted to do both and that's my issue because she deserves it
UnfortunatelyIs this for real?
I guess that depends on what day it is and how you feel then.Is that to warn me or just a joke?
I got way too competitive. My dd does not fit the DA and I was all mad about it. I will move along and get out of the way.
At the very least couldn't she have gotten one lousy waiver so she can play both HS Soccer with her new friends and the DA? She wanted to do both and that's my issue because she deserves it
TYElle Justus - thank you for sharing your story with us on this thread. Some of the other threads were confusing but this one is definitely helpful and informative to all of us on this forum. You're a dad who saw potential in his player and was swayed to take his child to different clubs because of coaches recruiting you and telling you it's better for your child to do so. In the end, you listened bc why would an experienced coach lie and steer a young child in the wrong direction? I think this is a lesson most of us have learned or will learn, bc in the name of "business & promotion", some coaches excuse themselves for screwing over children in the youth club soccer world. Then somehow...these coaches blame the parent and label them as club hoppers...even though the coaches are the ones who recruited your child over and promised a million things, then the coaches don't keep their promises. Parent leaves bc promises aren't kept, but Coach gets to label and ostracize a young child in order to defend his own reputation bc it's ok to screw a kid over to protect yourself and your program even though you're the one that broke your promise.
A lot of these winning coaches that advertise their winnings as development are like that...be careful out there...and listen to the whispers of the parents...it's probably true but most families don't say it publicly bc they're afraid of the consequences. You may not have dealt with it yet but you will down the road if for some reason. If it's in the best interest of the coach versus your child's best interest.
Parents buying the fake HS DA waivers should be exposed. Private Schools selling waivers should be exposed.
There are great parents and coaches out there who actually will do the right thing for the kids - no matter what.
EJ - your daughter sounds very talented and with continued dedication, she'll find a great soccer outcome...might not be exactly as you mapped out but the best things come as surprises. Can't wait to see where the future takes her and you on this roller coaster joy ride.
She loves her roots but not an option.She can play for Guatamala National Team if it's not possible to play USWNT without DA. If Grandpa was born there.