While a bit difficult to get my point across at times, I have repeatedly made the same points here on this board. What is interesting is that here in California, his findings are magnified. With 2 boys and 2 girls, I agree girls feel the effect much more and I don't know the words to express it but Gans said it beautifully, you don't get to share, and nobody knows anything about the 1 thing that defines a lot about who the girl is. In my own experience, and with few exceptions, the one thing that I noticed about DA after the glow of being DA wears off, is that you are left with two groups. The people that are there for free and they have boys that are ballers that came from Mex leagues and other clubs that can't pay big club fees and want more than Mex league exposure and the second group is the group that have boys that don't have the chops and out classed and may or may not know it but are happy to fill out the spot by paying and/or to have bragging rights. What was sad is the majority in it don't know that it is not the pathway as described to them but rather it is more like the bridge to nowhere. It really is sad.