Cowbells and grabbing the ball after a score....

Drove down to NJ from Boston a couple weeks ago. 2007 girls game. Playing the top ranked team in Region 1. Girls had the game circled on the schedule since losing to the same team last year. Winning 2-1 with 90 seconds left. Parents on our team going crazy, screaming “kill the clock” and “kick it out of bounds.” One of our kids lost posesion at midfield, opposing player made a great run and tied it up in the last minute.

After the game my daughter asked if they should have just kicked it out of bounds. I asked what she thought. She said “No, that would be lame and if they did that to us I’d be really mad.” She said she’d rather “beat them straight up.” Happy to hear her say that, but still wish they booted it into the parking lot.
 
Fact said:
I’ve seen kids grab the ball from the back of the net when they are up and then promptly boot it to another field to waste time. Btw never seen a card given for this.
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If this happened when I was referee, I would quickly show the player a yellow, then calmly instruct him/her to run as fast as they ever had to retrieve the ball. Then I would hope that the player would not, so I could show a second yellow.
 
coachrefparent said:
If this happened when I was referee, I would quickly show the player a yellow, then calmly instruct him/her to run as fast as they ever had to retrieve the ball. Then I would hope that the player would not, so I could show a second yellow.
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I hope you are just being sarcastic, since there is nothing in LOTG says that player did anything wrong.
 
Unfortunately in youth games, refs are told not to add time. And there’s usually only 1 extra ball on each goal line. So the time wasting act of smashing a ball 2 fields over is effective.
Ugly. Crappy. But effective.
 
We had a scenario where the defending team kicks the ball out across 1 field, so our player goes to retrieve for the throw-in. Meanwhile, referee hands another of our players a ball, instructs him to restart the game now (1 player short). Our player waits for his teammate to come back - is shown a yellow. Odd.
 
This happens in all levels of play. Watch Champions League. It happens with the players. Even the ball boys will be slow to react in retrieving a ball for the visiting team. The key is, whether it is coached or not. At G07, it shouldn't even enter the girls mind. Too many U11,U12,U13 games witnessed were it is the parents yelling to "slow down" on the throw in. My favorite was a game my daughter played in where we were down 2-1 with about 10 minutes left in a heated, hotly contested Vegas cup final. The other teams coach decided suddenly that all throw in's on the left side of the field had to be done by the right full back, in essence wasting 30 seconds to a minute on every throw in for her to run over and take the throw. Happened maybe 5 or 6 times in the last ten minutes. Our parents were laughing because it was so obvious.
 
Nothing against the rules with kids acting like jackasses after scoring. I would tell my DD after the game if she doesn't like to see that then make sure they never score again.

Kudos to those who try to play the right way. I'd rather have my kid focus on playing the right way to develop their game at the expense of a loss than focus on stalling tactics in order to win.

BTW, I have not yet seen/heard a cow bell at any of our youngers games/tournaments.
 
46n2 said:
Two things that bug the sh%t out of me. My DD can score , but you don't see me screaming at her to grab the ball out of the net like my BB teammates parents do?
Or the cowbell, what the heck is going on here.......
Is it just a younger's thing where parents tend to be a bit louder than at a older's game.
Is it a boy vs girl thing?
Is it the Man ,Women and now IT (gender appropriation) thing.
I don't remember Club soccer being as loud as it is now.
I love Soccer but I'm starting to get embarrassed for some parents
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You must have missed the CDA Slammers “Horn” era!
 
I've seen vuvezellas (sp?) at a U9 AYSO Spring game before.
I've heard someone pounding a drum at a tournament game at silverlakes last summer at 8 am.
I've heard people sitting in a parking lot behind the fields at Vegas cup having a tailgate party, chugging beers and screaming at a kids game.
I was at a sand soccer tournament this past weekend where a group of parent sat behind the goal heckling the keeper every time a shot came at her. (Come on miss it!!! . Shoot it harder next time, shes scared).
A cowbell wouldn't be out of the ordinary.
 
Surf Zombie said:
Drove down to NJ from Boston a couple weeks ago. 2007 girls game. Playing the top ranked team in Region 1. Girls had the game circled on the schedule since losing to the same team last year. Winning 2-1 with 90 seconds left. Parents on our team going crazy, screaming “kill the clock” and “kick it out of bounds.” One of our kids lost posesion at midfield, opposing player made a great run and tied it up in the last minute.

After the game my daughter asked if they should have just kicked it out of bounds. I asked what she thought. She said “No, that would be lame and if they did that to us I’d be really mad.” She said she’d rather “beat them straight up.” Happy to hear her say that, but still wish they booted it into the parking lot.
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Smart kid. Youth soccer will be 10x better if we all listen to our kids..............or at least try our best not to embarrass them.
 
watfly said:
Yeah, your guess is as good as mine, you'd have to ask the refs that issued the cautions. I can speculate that they deemed it "unsporting behavior" because they believed it wasn't in the spirit of the game. Refs have wide latitude when it comes to invoking spirit of the game elements.
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I guess the ref could use "Shows a lack of respect for the game" to issue a Caution if the player continuously kicked the ball into the next zip code. I for one would not do it or agree with it.
 
coachrefparent said:
If this happened when I was referee, I would quickly show the player a yellow, then calmly instruct him/her to run as fast as they ever had to retrieve the ball. Then I would hope that the player would not, so I could show a second yellow.
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I would issue the Yellow, wait for someone to get that ball or another spare ball, then announce I was adding at least one minute at the end of the half. Remember, issue the card, record the card, allow your AR's to record the card, then get the game going again. The longer the game is idle, the more chance of misconduct occurring. A referee does not have the authority to make a player chase after a ball, but we do have the authority to add time.
 
Eagle33 said:
I hope you are just being sarcastic, since there is nothing in LOTG says that player did anything wrong.
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His post was a response to, "I’ve seen kids grab the ball from the back of the net when they are up and then promptly boot it to another field to waste time." I am fairly certain he was issuing the card for wasting time by booting the ball to another field.
 
timbuck said:
I've seen vuvezellas (sp?) at a U9 AYSO Spring game before.
I've heard someone pounding a drum at a tournament game at silverlakes last summer at 8 am.
I've heard people sitting in a parking lot behind the fields at Vegas cup having a tailgate party, chugging beers and screaming at a kids game.
I was at a sand soccer tournament this past weekend where a group of parent sat behind the goal heckling the keeper every time a shot came at her. (Come on miss it!!! . Shoot it harder next time, shes scared).
A cowbell wouldn't be out of the ordinary.
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Drumming and chanting would actually be kind of neat...gives the parents something to do, makes the kids feel like they are in the pros, and it's part of the tradition of soccer if done in good fun (as opposed to harass the other team).

There are of course other reasons why it isn't allowed: leagues don't want to get noise complaints, disturbances of the peace regs, the inability of leagues to control what's said and the potential for it to be inappropriate for kids or cause fights. But in principle, if it weren't for the pesky side details and people abusing the privilege, I think it would be kind of cool.

A ref allowed parents who weren't filming to sit behind the goal and heckle the keeper (I'm assuming even after the coach protested it to the ref)? Wow. I'm surprised that wouldn't lead to retaliation on the other side and/or a fight.
 
timbuck said:
I've seen vuvezellas (sp?) at a U9 AYSO Spring game before.
I've heard someone pounding a drum at a tournament game at silverlakes last summer at 8 am.
I've heard people sitting in a parking lot behind the fields at Vegas cup having a tailgate party, chugging beers and screaming at a kids game.
I was at a sand soccer tournament this past weekend where a group of parent sat behind the goal heckling the keeper every time a shot came at her. (Come on miss it!!! . Shoot it harder next time, shes scared).
A cowbell wouldn't be out of the ordinary.
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Was that the Huntington Beach sand tourney? Saw an almost melee break out in a younger boys game right next to my DD's 03 game. Lifeguards and I think cops had to show up...forfeit. All that testosterone wasted on a 7v7 sand game basically being played for fun? Ridiculous
 
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