I can see both sides of this actually. On the players side, the process is months long, if not years, and to attempt to force a timeline on a player in that context seems out of place. But on the other side, many schools are in a situation where they can afford to be only interested in student athletes who are totally committed to that school such that they accept immediately. A student who needs more time is one that is likely shopping around, particularly when it comes to a full ride.
My dd was told 30 days or else.....lol. It was way nicer then that and professional. My dd took a day and said no thank you. Her other friend was told one week or deal is off the table just like, from Big U. Keep in mine she was 8th grader. She took the deal and is happy she did today. Another pals dd took that one week or else deal in 8th grade and is going to quit after she arrives on campus. In fairness, they only have so much to give away in money so you must grab what you can. I can't say where today she will play after HSS, but play she will. She loves this game so much. I told you when she was in 8th grade the fun of soccer turned into mental anguish. Why? Because you better get 4.3, love math and have no boy friend if you want to be a true Unicorn or at best, Unicorn in the making. Maps taught us all that and it holds true. The fact is, your going to being paying to play soccer at this time. Great job on saying no to that kind of pressure
100% most honest take ever on the forum. You left plenty out but I won't go there today. Thanks for being honest. This blood bath/cut throat type of job for these poor girls is so sad. I mean that too. It's business and the parents pay so others can have a business. No thanks. I ain't paying for that, no way. I want way better service. I do agree D2 is the way to go if someone is being threaten with demotion as 18 year old. I'm not liking how the girls have been treated fellas. I have to be honest here.
What makes you think DII is any different? The NCAA scholarship allocation is less, which could actually make for more shenanigans, not less. Lots of variation though, as in DI. Did you mean DIII?
All the D's plus all the NAIA.
No different then losing academic scholarships if grades slip. Better to take a 50% scholarship with a chance to play your freshman year than a 33% P5 scholarship and sit on the bench, even with it being guaranteed. If your kid is only playing soccer for the money, then that is going to be a problem anyways. Play for the love of the game at a school they love.
D3 is all academic money and in the case of my daughter has proven to be the perfect balance of high level academics and competitive soccer.
What he said. It is a job. Your DDs will learn that very quick. Also THE reason that choosing the school FIRST is paramount.
100% agree with you Dubs if school is #1 reason one is playing soccer. Other soccer players just want soccer #1 and then some classes to brush up skills I guess. Soccer should not be controlled like this for girls. It's a job 100% and they have to pay to play and work a fulltime job in order to continue playing soccer. This is crazy and sad all in one. Who gets paid?
can you share more about her experience?
No offense, but that is not bullying. Take it or leave it. They have other players lined up who want that offer. That is extremely generous. If you have not been prepared to make a decision, then that is on you.
Agree and we stuck with our plan and were very excited. Extremely generous you're right. Most importantly we prepared and made the right decision. No offense taken. Everyones happy with their plan A or B.
My daughter ended up choosing the school she is at late in the process. Due to Covid constraints around this time last year she ended up committing with the coach only seeing her play on film and meeting her at a campus visit in late spring of 2021. Her coach was recently hired (2nd full year) and everything she said about how she runs her program resonated with my daughter. Her first semester of school and the first year of soccer were both better than we could have expected. Her team finished in the top 10 and made it to the sweet 16 of the NCAA tourney....that being said the best part is the culture of the team and the balance of high level academics and quality soccer. Her team is in the UAA which is highly competitive and allows for travel to some great schools/cities. She was home briefly for the Thanksgiving break and we could see how much she had "grown up" in 3-4 months and how happy she is on the east coast.
