Coaching and profanity
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jrcaesar
SILVER ELITE
Indeed ... isn't there a youth soccer league in your town? There are parents there who don't know they should be looking for a club team. Go educate them.
(Or, possibly better, have your 10U player play there and then spend the season recruiting.)
soloyosh
SILVER
This club team is under the purview of the local rec league. Club starts in August and they attend a couple tournaments. Then in October the club kids play in the rec league (mandatory). In December the teams reform and play club through June.
The team I coach also started in this program. I coached them at U11 and after a successful season the parents asked if they could skip rec. Board said no. Parents asked me if I could do something and now we are a part of a different club and do not participate in rec. As you can imagine, this generated some friction between our team and the local league leadership/board. I have steered my team clear of any conflicts with them.
Then my youngest son decides he likes soccer after years of apathy towards it (he was super into wrestling). He wants to play club all of a sudden. So he tries out and makes the team and now I am thrust back into that organization that I figured I was done with. I cheer the team and my boy. I am careful not to offer any coaching suggestions even when I see that they clearly do not understand the whole build-out rule. I just cheer. Then the profanity thing happened. Friends cautioned me against saying anything, "you'll just be viewed as a boat rocker." When I engaged the coach I was careful to make sure that I was coming at this as a parent and not another coach. However, at some level I have to believe my concern was viewed as rocking the boat, but there was no denial or "we'll look into it", it was just "we are a family." Then the whole "God Dammit" meeting happened.
So here we are.
Since all the kids in the rec league are technically part of their club, I am not sure I am allowed to recruit anyone. It would simply be to get the word out about a new team and hope people show up. I think in order for them to even show up they may require at least a loan form from the other club.
We will see...
Thanks again for the suggestions.
soloyosh
SILVER
GunninGopher
SILVER ELITE
I'm sure you are aware that this thread is likely to get back to them and it isn't hard to figure out who you are. If you were as honest and sincere about your concerns as you indicated here, a rational person shouldn't take too much offense. I suspect you are dealing with entirely rational people, however.
You probably haven't said enough for someone outside the situation to easily figure out what team/club you are referring to. That being said, I have a guess and I haven't been to the town I think your kids are playing in years!!
You probably haven't said enough for someone outside the situation to easily figure out what team/club you are referring to. That being said, I have a guess and I haven't been to the town I think your kids are playing in years!!
soloyosh
SILVER
If you don't stick your neck out, you won't see anything.
I'm looking for advice and to get good advice sometimes you have to expose yourself.
Overlap
SILVER ELITE
Your other option is to have him play futsal for the next few years, less coaching and you'll need less kids (5v5 or 7v7)... Plus, 2 years of futsal, your kid will tear it up when he gets in to the older age groups and be one of the most creative player's....don't put up with crappy coaches,... no matter how good they think they are.
Golazo
BRONZE
Before you pull him off the team just be sure that your translation is correct. What he said may have been offensive... I am hispanic and speak spanish and there are a lot of things that can be misconstrued as offensive but said in spanish and based on the way he said it... they may not have the same offensive intent.
According to your post he said: "M.F.er". Later he called another player a "F'ing Gay."
I could think of some words that would be a very close translation but it just strikes me odd that the hispanic parents did not take offense. Although you may be correct, you may have possibly misinterpreted.
According to your post he said: "M.F.er". Later he called another player a "F'ing Gay."
I could think of some words that would be a very close translation but it just strikes me odd that the hispanic parents did not take offense. Although you may be correct, you may have possibly misinterpreted.
soloyosh
SILVER
I am pretty sure what I heard. Like I said he later clarified that he was saying "God Dammit" to the players. My Spanish slang is a bit rusty but I don't think I'd confuse one for the other. Besides, I am not okay with what he says he said anyways.