Yikes, can of worms opened, I should have known better.
But full disclosure, I'm a TFA parent. So I'll dig in...
That was our experience and not what we expected when we left FCGS. It was a toxic environment for us and not anything like the DA environment we came from or are experiencing now at either one of my children's clubs.
I know others that feel the same and others that disagree. Personal preference I guess.
It's definitely an intense environment, and I've known good players who didn't fit in. The coach said as much when offering my son a spot. Toxic? I haven't seen that, but it wouldn't surprise me that things could get very dark if the team isn't in a good place.
TFA is a one-man operation, permanently. It has never been able to progress with older teams and I assume US Soccer knew that when it denied him additional teams beyond U12.
Without DA, they'll never make progress with olders, and they don't really try. It's very hard for him to keep those teams together with the MLS academies right there. Suppose USSF never created DA, and MLS teams didn't invest in youth set-ups -- is there much doubt that TFA would have a top club for olders in LA County?
It's a very tricky niche that TFA has chosen for itself. The players they get are all ambitious and want to play for the best, so they often end up leaving for MLS academies. In that location, there's no massive base of dues paying kids to form 2 or 3 teams at every age group, like what you can get at suburban clubs like Real S0cal, FCGS, Legends, LA Prem FC, etc.
TFA is PW's ego trip. It is 100% about winning. But he knows that you win by taking the best players and give them the best training. It is really good for soccer in southern California. It forces everyone who wants to compete to be better.
Plenty of human achievement has come about through personal ambition for glory or success, so I don't have a big problem with that. I've found him honest, intelligent, and very open to ideas. He's always looking for ways to improve. True, he's a competitive guy and loves to win, but it's not enough for him just to win. He wants to win in a particular way.
TFA's contributions to so-cal soccer go beyond just aggregating "the best" players and "the best" training. TFA values intelligent play. He really sets a standard with the curriculum.
The trip to Spain is a big deal -- I know many kids' first experience on a plane comes from TFA. That's awesome.
TFA isn't a MLS academy, so it's subject to the same market forces as every other youth club -- winning is the ultimate sign of quality. Without that success, it'd be harder to attract the best players. I totally accept that. However, I don't agree it's all about winning for TFA:
First, possession. It's right there in the club's name. How many clubs tell you right up front like that what they're all about? The club is fundamentally built around its possession curriculum. Clubs that are all about winning are tactically flexible, because they want to be able to play according to the kids they have. The curriculum attracts a lot of kids who want to play intelligent soccer.
Next, fitness: when my son was 7, he was on a team that ran two miles in the sand once a week. We won a lot of games by grinding teams down. There isn't excessive fitness work at TFA.
Most importantly, roster: I've also seen plenty of roster decisions at TFA that valued long term development over short term success.
I don't want to even get close to discussing individual kids, so for example, look at how they handled the 06s over the past couple of tryouts. Pre-AG change, they had two 05s and two 06s. So, they expected to create two 06s. Instead, a bunch of great players came out, which formed the bulk of the 06 A team. Instead of cutting a bunch of kids who had been with TFA for a while, they added a third team, allowing them to offer spots to the 06s from the previous year. Then, what I thought was especially classy was this spring: they could have leveraged the success of the A team for recruiting new players to the DA, but instead, they never held open tryouts, keeping almost all of the DA roster spots for kids that had been at TFA already.
CAM, you talked about the benefit of having options and choices for kids, I can't understand why the USSF wouldn't be supporting TFA. It might be different from an MLS academy or a traditional superclub, but it's done amazing things for soccer in so-cal, and there's every reason to think it could do a lot more as an academy.