What happened to THE Luis Andres thread?

I am sure we will see his 8yr old on that WNT next year. Word on the street is she turned down an offer to play at Stanford. With the dad's biking prowess and the mother's insane athletic ability I am surprised his kid wasn't in this years WWC.
 
“when you got so call coaches attacking the way little girls play it was the final straw for me.”

Wasn’t that the point of why you started the original thread in the first place?!?!

To complain about the way little girls (those crappy bench players) play?
 
Luis Andres said:
Yes I deleted the thread. It became just a bunch of nonsense towards the end and when you got so call coaches attacking the way little girls play it was the final straw for me. Sorry.
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But you did not in anyway perpetuate this and set yourself up. There is a right way to post and then there is how you went about it. I’m not trying to offend or incite you, but explain what occurred simply. Welcome to the forum. BTW- this was gentle chastisement by posters. And it does not always go this way.
 
Luis Andres said:
I never talked bad about the player. Like I mentioned to you guys I am the only parent on the team going out of my way to help her. The debate was on how to handle the situation not about bashing anyone
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Has the coach of your child’s team, or any of the parents of her teammates, seen the other thread you started? Can’t imagine it’s going to be a warm and fuzzy sideline from here on out.
 
Us parents get so infatuated with youth soccer that you end up pushing your child away from the sport without realizing.

A friend of mine had a situation in his team where the kid would hate the long talks after a game on the ride back home. One day the child had a really bad game and she warned her dad that she didn’t want to hear any criticism from the dad on the ride home or she would quit soccer.

The dad couldn’t hold it and started talking to her about how bad she played. That was the last day that 13 year kid played soccer.
 
Luis Andres said:
As it is they don’t like me very much at least the women don’t. My wife is the team mom. I got kicked out of the WhatsApp group chat for expressing my feeling to bluntly after statecup but that’s it. Coach can kick us off the team but he hasn’t to date. Maybe it’s cause of my DD cause he’s let go a couple players since we started this team. Not sure really. I’ll leave if he wants us to. No problem. But so far this year it’s all good. As long as I’m not on the chat. I’m
Fine with it. But I’ve learned.
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This is really hard to believe.......
 
Don’t watch film with your 9 year old. Totally not age appropriate. It’s the same thing as the ride home talk, you are just doing it at a later time and with visuals. Let her enjoy and have fun playing a sport.

If you lighten up (it’s just kids playing a sport!) you will likely feel better and so will everyone around you.
 
Luis Andres said:
I never talked bad about the player. Like I mentioned to you guys I am the only parent on the team going out of my way to help her. The debate was on how to handle the situation not about bashing anyone
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You literally blamed her for all of the losses your daughter's team has suffered at "big tournaments". Lulz.
 
Luis Andres said:
But she enjoys it. I think if you can get her to enjoy it it’s fine. It’s made her soccer IQ so much better. Believe me if she didn’t want to I wouldn’t be forcing her
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Ok if she enjoys seeing herself because that’s all it is. Studies have shown kids can’t learn from video until from ages 11-13. They don’t have the mental maturity to view themselves abstractly and learn from it. So they only take the praise or chastisement that comes with it. Unless you are saying your daughter is an early abstract mechanics unicorn in addition to being a young soccer prodigy.
 
Grace T. said:
I was sad that thread was gone but maybe we’ll recreate here. :)
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Well will just count this thread as an extension to the old thread.

"What can we do about bench players costing us BIG GAMES AND TOURNAMENTS"

Now he says I wasn't blaming the bench players.

Let us continue the thread shall we...hehe
 
Luis Andres said:
My daughter is very advanced in mathematics and can understand complex problems well in school. I was the same way when I was young. I think there maybe exceptions in these studies there are loopholes. How do I know she gets it? Because she normally gives me the right answers when asked certain questions. So this tells me she understands these more complex ideas in soccer as well.
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Yes there are always outliers and it’s possible she’s both a double unicorn in athletics and abstract thought. It’s separate from soccer though because the abstraction is being able to see an avatar of yourself outside of yourself... most 8 year olds are just able to just comprehend their personhood barely. But understand that not only are you now going against the Nscaa recommendations, us soccer, this forum and the way the rest of the non-communist world trains, but now your claiming she’s an outlier on the mental maturity studies that have been run.
 
Surf Zombie said:
Has the coach of your child’s team, or any of the parents of her teammates, seen the other thread you started? Can’t imagine it’s going to be a warm and fuzzy sideline from here on out.
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Someone emailed the coach a link. The bench player mentioned has taken Luis's DD spot on the field
 
I'm not sure which is worse the "misguided motives" or the "sanctimonious responses"...I think I'm leaning towards the latter.
 
Luis, you're probably not the most eloquent of people but you seem to have your heart in the right place. There's no solution but patience, time, and support for bench players. It will make your daughter a better player, the team a better team, and will be great for youth soccer overall bc bench players may be the unicorns of tomorrow. Good job on offering help but just make sure it's welcomed. Probably need to think and edit a lot before you post bc there are lots of lawyers on this forum that will tear it apart. A lot of what you type can easily be negatively interpreted as attack on children and people are rightfully defensive about that. She's your kid, you know how smart she is and how much pushing vs freedom she needs. You probably are aware that she needs her "fun" activities too and are making appropriate time for it. She is under 10 and you never know what happens from now until her eligibility for USWNT arrives, so make sure she (and the people around her) enjoy the long journey that may end quickly. Good luck to your daughter, her team mates, and your family. Hope she makes the USWNT one day or grow up to be a happy and confident woman.
 
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