LifeOfSoccer
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So I'm looking for some sound advice from you goalkeeper parents on how to help support your goalkeeper mentally after a detrimental mistake in a game. We have only been in the goalkeeping world going on 18 months and are still learning. Unfortunately, this weekend, my gk (age 11) made a terrible read on the ball which she thought was going wide, which it did not, in a finals game in a tournament in double overtime.....so we lost.
She was clearly upset by it once we got in the car and feels that her team hates her. She doesn't want to go to practice this week in fear of them expressing their anger or ignoring her due to her mistake. I have told her that she is developing as a gk, and making mistakes is part of the learning process. I have reminded her of mistakes her team-mates make every game, but they have the advantage of another team-mate picking up their slack to lessen the burden of their mistake. None of what I tell her is helping. I even showed her a video of the Columbian goalkeeper doing the exact same thing against Argentina in a World Cup Qualifier, which almost cost them their trip the World Cup. I guess I just don't know how to get through to her on this one. Do I just let it go and move on, which I prefer, or do I try to keep talking about it? Missing practice is not an option I am giving her. I am one for if you fall, you can have a pity party for the day of, but the next day you need to get back up and dust yourself off and move on.
Sorry, that was longer than I intended but any sound advice would be appreciated....
She was clearly upset by it once we got in the car and feels that her team hates her. She doesn't want to go to practice this week in fear of them expressing their anger or ignoring her due to her mistake. I have told her that she is developing as a gk, and making mistakes is part of the learning process. I have reminded her of mistakes her team-mates make every game, but they have the advantage of another team-mate picking up their slack to lessen the burden of their mistake. None of what I tell her is helping. I even showed her a video of the Columbian goalkeeper doing the exact same thing against Argentina in a World Cup Qualifier, which almost cost them their trip the World Cup. I guess I just don't know how to get through to her on this one. Do I just let it go and move on, which I prefer, or do I try to keep talking about it? Missing practice is not an option I am giving her. I am one for if you fall, you can have a pity party for the day of, but the next day you need to get back up and dust yourself off and move on.
Sorry, that was longer than I intended but any sound advice would be appreciated....