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I realise now that I made a terrible mistake keeping my DD on her current team. She is not being developed. Need insight on first steps to abandon ship.
Why? There is no challenge.Why?
What is the issue?
What age?
What does she think?
I know quite a few people that have moved around every year or 2. Some of them quit by 13. The kid was happy enough at her first club and might still be playing is they hadn't changed 4 times.
And I know some that have moved a ton and have had success.
You ever leave a decent job (where you were happy) to chase more money? But then you wind up working with a bunch of jerks and hate going to work every day? At least it was your decision and you have no one to blame but yourself. Imagine if someone made you leave and then hated it.
What's the loosening bolt option?You can burn your bridges or just loosen the bolts a little at a time. Just know once you show up at a tryout or a training session at another club it will get back to your coach before your next practice and you may have to decide quickly what to do next.
Two thoughts. First, leaving a club is easy. Just reach out to other teams and have her attend practices. It's easy.Why? There is no challenge.
What is the issue? Lack of development or refer to my response to first question.
Age? 04, this is the 04 thread.
What does she think? She's 12. Her thoughts change every three minutes.
Spot on. Change can be good, but make sure it is really what your kid wants, not just what you want.I know quite a few people that have moved around every year or 2. Some of them quit by 13. The kid was happy enough at her first club and might still be playing is they hadn't changed 4 times.
And I know some that have moved a ton and have had success.
You ever leave a decent job (where you were happy) to chase more money? But then you wind up working with a bunch of jerks and hate going to work every day? At least it was your decision and you have no one to blame but yourself. Imagine if someone made you leave and then hated it.
Stir up the sidelines with subtle comments about a "wasted year".What's the loosening bolt option?
@Yamadori #rightway #sarcasmhardtopickuponlineMaybe you know this already but if you want to play state cup with another team you better get the ball rolling. There is something called a transfer window that you need to sign with another team before a certain date. Not sure when that is but you may want to look into it. If it is just development your worried about then I would stay with your current team until after State Cup but it doesn't mean you can't start trying out for other clubs. The best way to leave is just leave after State Cup without bad mouthing anybody on your way out. That way you won't feel like an ass hat when you run into your ex team parents on the fields. @Flipthrow way of leaving is more common but not recommended.
You can burn your bridges or just loosen the bolts a little at a time. Just know once you show up at a tryout or a training session at another club it will get back to your coach before your next practice and you may have to decide quickly what to do next.
and a few go nuts.....coaches should remember the community is small too.Most coaches have no problem letting kids go if they aren't happy being there and if the parents are upfront about looking elsewhere.
Soccer community is way to small to try to sneak around