Yes, my DD had one of those games where it seemed everything went wrong. It's good for growth and maturity or at least that's what I tell myself LOL! Anyone else have to live through "one of those" games? #therapy
If anyone says they've never had to live through "one of those" games watching their kid play, they are either delusional or their kid hasn't played long enough.
My kid has had some of these, and I eventually realized that those days are the days that I earn my stripes as a parent. It's easy to be the dad or mom on the day your kid scores the winning goal or saves the game. It's on those days where your kid really botches things up that you've got to bring
your "A" game as a parent.
For me, there's two types of bad games. 1. The teachable game. Where your kid or the team makes mistakes that are valuable to learn from. At the right time (not immediately after the game!) the player can review this game and the mistakes can be used to make a player better and more resilient. Usually, this is a game where some subtle errors in judgement were made and are easily correctable. 2. The "Burn the Tape" game. Sometimes it is just not your day. Either everything goes wrong or there is just one, gigantic, flukey, one-in-a-hundred mistake that ruins everything and the Soccer Gods (Peace be Upon Them!) have decided to take a gigantic crap all over you. There's nothing that can be done about this and it happens to everyone at some point. In this game, your player will fail to do things they usually always do, and make mistakes that they usually never make. Often, it's one error that gets in their heads, a total "brain lock" moment and then the wheels start to come off. In these situations, pro coaches don't even review the tape with the team, hence "Burn the Tape Game." There's nothing to learn here. It was just a really sh*tty day. In these cases, I find it's best to immediately go on to something completely unrelated to soccer like a surprise shopping trip to Brandy Melville (god, I hate that place) or go play some laser tag, paint ball, or video games, get an ice cream treat, go to her/his favorite restaurant, or whatever non-soccer thing your kid is totally into. Wash that taste out of their mouths and move on. My DD had two back to back games like that once. Circumstances were just right for a total meltdown performance and she was wrecked afterwards. All I said was, "This weekend doesn't define you, and you know that already don't you?" And we never talked about it again, except eventually she'd make jokes about it when it was a distant memory.
Good luck to you and your player!