Club soccer stuff that drive you nuts...

Oh, I have another one, maybe this is just OCD. Why would teams have their coaches last name in their "official" name?

e.g. "LA Buttfaces B05 "Gomez""

That bothers me to no end. Clubs should have naming standards if they have more than one team in the same age group.

For example:
"LA Buttfaces B05 Gold"
"LA Buttfaces B05 Silver"

Or
"LA Buttfaces B05 Premier"
"LA Buttfaces B05 Elite"

Or something. But having the freaking last name is annoying.
 
Oh, I have another one, maybe this is just OCD. Why would teams have their coaches last name in their "official" name?

e.g. "LA Buttfaces B05 "Gomez""

That bothers me to no end. Clubs should have naming standards if they have more than one team in the same age group.

For example:
"LA Buttfaces B05 Gold"
"LA Buttfaces B05 Silver"

Or
"LA Buttfaces B05 Premier"
"LA Buttfaces B05 Elite"

Or something. But having the freaking last name is annoying.

I would like to add that I would prefer it to just say
B05 Academy
B05 Flight 1
B05 Flight 2

The colors vary so much from club to club that one clubs blue academy is another clubs flight 3.
 
I would like to add that I would prefer it to just say
B05 Academy
B05 Flight 1
B05 Flight 2

The colors vary so much from club to club that one clubs blue academy is another clubs flight 3.
I think we need more transparency. I propose:
B05 Really good players and team.
B05 Farm system-- possibilities and potential.
B05 We are stealing your money and you should be playing AYSO and this so called development coach is on probation for something really bad that happened last year so was stuck with this crap team.
 
I think the LA Buttfaces is a totally reasonable name on their own merit, and I really hope this club takes off. Will their logo contain the poop emoji?

Oh, I have another one, maybe this is just OCD. Why would teams have their coaches last name in their "official" name?

e.g. "LA Buttfaces B05 "Gomez""

That bothers me to no end. Clubs should have naming standards if they have more than one team in the same age group.

For example:
"LA Buttfaces B05 Gold"
"LA Buttfaces B05 Silver"

Or
"LA Buttfaces B05 Premier"
"LA Buttfaces B05 Elite"

LA Buttfaces is a perfectly acceptable team name on their own merit. I really hope this club takes off.
 
I think we need more transparency. I propose:
B05 Really good players and team.
B05 Farm system-- possibilities and potential.
B05 We are stealing your money and you should be playing AYSO and this so called development coach is on probation for something really bad that happened last year so was stuck with this crap team.

I would agree that this system is accurate!!
 
I would like to add that I would prefer it to just say
B05 Academy
B05 Flight 1
B05 Flight 2

The colors vary so much from club to club that one clubs blue academy is another clubs flight 3.
This would work for academy or ECNL, but the flights and colors (gold, silver, ...) change from year to year, so this might get confusing. Some clubs may have two teams in the same bracket as well.
 
By far the most annoying thing for me with club soccer are the parents who treat a U11 league match like it's the Champion's League final and feel like they have the right to scream at a 13 year old AR because they think he got the throw-in call wrong. Fucking chill, people. My son started reffing at 12 only to quit during his first season because a rec coach screamed in his face. These were 8 year olds wearing colored Hanes T-shirts playing on a gopher infested middle school field. Had I been there I would have picked up a charge.
 
By far the most annoying thing for me with club soccer are the parents who treat a U11 league match like it's the Champion's League final and feel like they have the right to scream at a 13 year old AR because they think he got the throw-in call wrong. Fucking chill, people. My son started reffing at 12 only to quit during his first season because a rec coach screamed in his face. These were 8 year olds wearing colored Hanes T-shirts playing on a gopher infested middle school field. Had I been there I would have picked up a charge.
100% agree with this. Horrible parent behavior ruins the game and experience for the kids
 
I see this alot in the 2009-2012 group right now
 

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I never realized there was some rule about where you sit during the game.
I recall seeing it from CalSouth in the past, in writing where to sit, but I can't find it now. some tournaments very specifically list where spectators can sit, usually across from the bench, and some very specifically paint a DMZ at the center line.

i've been in the situation tho of sitting away from toxic people or in the shade, regardless of what side I'm on, and as long as i'm quiet most referees/coaches/other parents don't care.
 
it drives me crazy when club soccer killed my daughter's passion and enthusiasm for the game. she went from living and dying for every game, strongly considering playing in college. to just wanting to be done with club and declining to play state cup because the team was just awful to her and the coach didn't care.
 
it drives me crazy when club soccer killed my daughter's passion and enthusiasm for the game. she went from living and dying for every game, strongly considering playing in college. to just wanting to be done with club and declining to play state cup because the team was just awful to her and the coach didn't care.

So sorry to hear this. Hopefully you can convince her to try another team where the culture will be better. I used to think that a better culture didn't exist but we finally found a team last year - now that there are the usual changes taking place I really hope the culture doesn't change.

My latest thing that I laugh at is all the teams advertising a "pathway to ... (ecnl, mls next, ga etc) . Very few players will get promoted in club in my experience.
 
So sorry to hear this. Hopefully you can convince her to try another team where the culture will be better.

after 2020, and then a 2021 that wasn't fun, and we'd already paid all the fees, it was mostly a life lesson of tolerating people who don't deserve it. Just like going to work every day. She's off to college in 2 months and is looking forward to finding a intermural team on campus or a local adult team.
 
it drives me crazy when club soccer killed my daughter's passion and enthusiasm for the game. she went from living and dying for every game, strongly considering playing in college. to just wanting to be done with club and declining to play state cup because the team was just awful to her and the coach didn't care.
This one hits close to home. My DD called it quits last season after COVID hit.

DD spent nearly 7 seasons with the same coach / trainer who mentally broke her down the last two seasons she played ECNL. We pulled her and threw a hail mary transferring to a new club looking for a change in culture. It didn't work out as the new team was still too "close to" the situation and it didn't really amount to a fresh start. There was resentment from coach / parents who proactively reached out to her new teammates families to ensure her nightmare continued.

There are so many aspect of what happened that makes me realize that some adults really have not experienced adversity or consequences for their actions in life. As an adult who has had his share of a$$ whoopings growing up, you learn real fast that once you cross certain lines, there are consequences that will come your way, and to see adults cross those lines nonchalantly with no remorse was truly eye opening.

My favorite (sarcasm) was her ex-coach / trainer texting one of the parents on the new team to get updates and give orders on how to make things difficult for my DD. It definitely did not surprise me that the ex-coach did this but the parent who was on the new team certainly gave me something to remember.

Lesson learned all around, and onward and upwards. My wife and I are fully invested in making this a teachable moment for our DD and have embraced her desire to start fresh in other sports / activities.
 
after 2020, and then a 2021 that wasn't fun, and we'd already paid all the fees, it was mostly a life lesson of tolerating people who don't deserve it. Just like going to work every day. She's off to college in 2 months and is looking forward to finding a intermural team on campus or a local adult team.
So many girls are burned out by all the lies and misinformation the last few years. Truly sad what some men will do to make money off the hard work of females. These girls will be moms someday and I bet most will stay clear of what some of them had to endure unless sweeping changes happen asap. My dd is going to give it one more try because she loves to play the game and have fun with other girls playing soccer. If her team is booted from the so-called top league, well then she will go play with the tier 2 players. At this point, my advice is to find a team for 12 months and hope all goes well and the lying is limited to just a little white lie and not a big fat lie. One of the head honcho Docheads back in the day told her if she left his club she will be black listed so college might not in the cards for her. She's find and is surfing as I speak. The good in all this she never had to live in a girls home for girls soccer players or play 12 months out of the year and I didnt have to spend $15,000 traveling all of the country. This is insane!!!
 
This one hits close to home. My DD called it quits last season after COVID hit.

DD spent nearly 7 seasons with the same coach / trainer who mentally broke her down the last two seasons she played ECNL. We pulled her and threw a hail mary transferring to a new club looking for a change in culture. It didn't work out as the new team was still too "close to" the situation and it didn't really amount to a fresh start. There was resentment from coach / parents who proactively reached out to her new teammates families to ensure her nightmare continued.

There are so many aspect of what happened that makes me realize that some adults really have not experienced adversity or consequences for their actions in life. As an adult who has had his share of a$$ whoopings growing up, you learn real fast that once you cross certain lines, there are consequences that will come your way, and to see adults cross those lines nonchalantly with no remorse was truly eye opening.

My favorite (sarcasm) was her ex-coach / trainer texting one of the parents on the new team to get updates and give orders on how to make things difficult for my DD. It definitely did not surprise me that the ex-coach did this but the parent who was on the new team certainly gave me something to remember.

Lesson learned all around, and onward and upwards. My wife and I are fully invested in making this a teachable moment for our DD and have embraced her desire to start fresh in other sports / activities.
That sucks bro!!! I'm truly sorry to hear that. My dd had spies after her watching her ever social media post, all before high school. Had one top coach tell me he knows everything my dd is doing. He told me he had spies, no joke. I'm telling you all, you can;t treat girls like boys, end of story. Karma be coming soon!!! Anyway, we ALL learned from this Tech. I truly love you man :)
 
That sucks bro!!! I'm truly sorry to hear that. My dd had spies after her watching her ever social media post, all before high school. Had one top coach tell me he knows everything my dd is doing. He told me he had spies, no joke. I'm telling you all, you can;t treat girls like boys, end of story. Karma be coming soon!!! Anyway, we ALL learned from this Tech. I truly love you man :)
Since this is round 2 for me (older boys just graduated and dropped soccer when they got to HS).

My motto with my little girl is to enjoy her playing soccer regardless of the level. Push her to get private training but only if she wants to do it on that given week. Finally, expect her to quit any month and be ready to embrace any of her new sports or other activities.
 
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