growingpains
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I guess in general this is more a parenting question than solely soccer, but I noticed lately that my DD (younger - <11) hasn't really been giving 100% in her games and practices. I asked her what was going on and she said that the league games don't matter that much. To me that's complete BS and she has always been a fierce competitor. She does love soccer and never complains about going to practice, extra trainings etc and afterwards whenever I ask, she says she really enjoyed it and had fun - in fact, she'll often ask to stay after practice to work on stuff she learned. but I noticed that she isn't taking it as seriously (or as focused) as she used to be during practices and games.
She used to completely dominate her opponents and be a standout player (and we're talking just a month or so ago) and now you can tell she's laying off. One time we were talking about another player that was just phenomenal (not on our team) and her response was that, "yeah, but nobody likes her". So I'm wondering if this is why... Ever since she started acting this way, the other girls on the team have been more receptive to her...
I know that talent at this age level doesn't really mean that much and all bets are off when they hit puberty. Honestly, if we didn't feel she had potential, we'd readily help her find her "thing" elsewhere - but she's got the footskills, speed, and smarts to potentially be very good if she sticks with it.
Sorry for the rambling message, but I guess my question is, for those who've been through it - did you kid ever go through a phase like this? How did you coach them through it? Should we worry about it or just let her be? Her behavior is starting to effect her "Standing" on the team - no longer starting, etc... When I push her on it, she gets upset when I imply that if she doesn't start busting her ass, we're not signing her up again next year. (Probably not the best approach) Is she just trying to fit in? and if so, how do we address this?
Any sincere help appreciated!
She used to completely dominate her opponents and be a standout player (and we're talking just a month or so ago) and now you can tell she's laying off. One time we were talking about another player that was just phenomenal (not on our team) and her response was that, "yeah, but nobody likes her". So I'm wondering if this is why... Ever since she started acting this way, the other girls on the team have been more receptive to her...
I know that talent at this age level doesn't really mean that much and all bets are off when they hit puberty. Honestly, if we didn't feel she had potential, we'd readily help her find her "thing" elsewhere - but she's got the footskills, speed, and smarts to potentially be very good if she sticks with it.
Sorry for the rambling message, but I guess my question is, for those who've been through it - did you kid ever go through a phase like this? How did you coach them through it? Should we worry about it or just let her be? Her behavior is starting to effect her "Standing" on the team - no longer starting, etc... When I push her on it, she gets upset when I imply that if she doesn't start busting her ass, we're not signing her up again next year. (Probably not the best approach) Is she just trying to fit in? and if so, how do we address this?
Any sincere help appreciated!