zebrafish
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I'm curious what those more experienced than me have to say about how to handle losing.
My child is playing on a new team this year. Since Feb, they've played a number of scrimmages and tournaments-- probably a total of ~15-20 games. They've won a single game. Among the rest, I'd say 1/3 of the games have been competitive losses, 1/3 of the games are lopsided losses, and 1/3 of the games are really lopsided losses.
The coach is clearly not coaching to "win". He puts players in different positions. He probably could win more games by playing restricted positions. I definitely want my child to move around the field. I like the coach-- he isn't a "joysticker" or "screamer".
My daughter is probably one of the top couple players on the team. I've seen her level of play jump, and I think the coach has really helped improve my child's weaknesses (I'm really happy about this). The rest of the team maybe not so much-- part of this is there are kids on the team who seem to have parents pushing them but the kids aren't that invested-- but there is global movement in right direction.
From informal asking of opponents, I suspect the tier the team will play in during fall may be slightly above their level (tier 2)-- we've lost to a fair number of tier 2/3 teams (and been blown out by tier 1 teams). I am told it can be difficult to gauge what happens in the fall based on spring play.
I worry how losing so many games is potentially not good for the enjoyment factor. My child doesn't take losing particularly personally, and I think there are important lessons to be learned from losing, but no kid likes getting hammered every game (especially a 0-3 tournament with combined 25-3 scores and such). She still practices and plays hard.
Lots of questions buried in here, but I'm interested what feedback people have about the situation.
I'm giving my child lots of praise for effort and improvement. Certainly, I'm planning to ride it out (no choice at this point), but perhaps others who have gone through similar experiences can provide their input/suggestions.
My child is playing on a new team this year. Since Feb, they've played a number of scrimmages and tournaments-- probably a total of ~15-20 games. They've won a single game. Among the rest, I'd say 1/3 of the games have been competitive losses, 1/3 of the games are lopsided losses, and 1/3 of the games are really lopsided losses.
The coach is clearly not coaching to "win". He puts players in different positions. He probably could win more games by playing restricted positions. I definitely want my child to move around the field. I like the coach-- he isn't a "joysticker" or "screamer".
My daughter is probably one of the top couple players on the team. I've seen her level of play jump, and I think the coach has really helped improve my child's weaknesses (I'm really happy about this). The rest of the team maybe not so much-- part of this is there are kids on the team who seem to have parents pushing them but the kids aren't that invested-- but there is global movement in right direction.
From informal asking of opponents, I suspect the tier the team will play in during fall may be slightly above their level (tier 2)-- we've lost to a fair number of tier 2/3 teams (and been blown out by tier 1 teams). I am told it can be difficult to gauge what happens in the fall based on spring play.
I worry how losing so many games is potentially not good for the enjoyment factor. My child doesn't take losing particularly personally, and I think there are important lessons to be learned from losing, but no kid likes getting hammered every game (especially a 0-3 tournament with combined 25-3 scores and such). She still practices and plays hard.
Lots of questions buried in here, but I'm interested what feedback people have about the situation.
I'm giving my child lots of praise for effort and improvement. Certainly, I'm planning to ride it out (no choice at this point), but perhaps others who have gone through similar experiences can provide their input/suggestions.