I digress a little here but this really hit home from me recently when taking my kid to the doctor (per his request) and the doctor kept talking directly to him and basically ignoring me and at first I was like, "Hellllloooooo! ". But then it hit me....He is over 18. He is an adult. And it doesn't matter if I'm the one paying the bills. It's hard to let go but let go we must!!Just keep in mind that after the "kid" turns 18, he/she is an adult with adult rights to privacy, legally. No information will be disclosed to you without the consent and even with, most institutions do not, unless involves financial or safety matter.
For those of you with DDs already playing college ball.. Do you as parents continue to have any dialogue/relationship with the coaches once the recruiting process is over and they are actually playing on the team?
Don't have dd playing but have a son playing for college.
No, other than to write an annual fundraiser check and occasional pleasantries after the game if the coach happens to come by the stands. What would you possibly have to communicate with the coaches about at this point, unless there's a safety issue.
Just keep in mind that after the "kid" turns 18, he/she is an adult with adult rights to privacy, legally. No information will be disclosed to you without the consent and even with, most institutions do not, unless involves financial or safety matter.
I know we have millennials' parents out there that stay very involved with their adult kids. I recall years ago, one of the employees that worked for one of my managers, after receiving a less than a stellar performance review, the parent actually called me to discuss the issue. Needless to say, I did not.
Also, I guess lecture at one of the local university and had a parent visit me in the classroom to discuss his kid's grades. Again, I did not discuss it with him. Told him to go talk to his kid and if he has an issue, for him to come see me. The student never came to see me about it.
I mean, wow, let it go.....
You know you are off the payroll when you have to start paying your own medical bills!!I took my son to the emergency room because he fell and cut his head in the middle of the night. The doctor was talking to him, but I was interfering by giving advice to him over her shoulder. The nice part was that when the bill arrived addressed to him at our address (and thus his old address), I just forwarded it to him so he could pay it himself.
Little to no communication with college coach- completely inappropriate - what would you talk to the coach about? Play time, positions, training schedule? talk to your adult child about his or her experience, support your player and cheer for the team, - just enjoy being a fan, the rest is up to your adult child to handle their own college experiences and work out whatever needs to be addressed. My player would be mortified if I communicated with the coachFor those of you with DDs already playing college ball.. Do you as parents continue to have any dialogue/relationship with the coaches once the recruiting process is over and they are actually playing on the team?
Little to no communication with college coach- completely inappropriate - what would you talk to the coach about? Play time, positions, training schedule? talk to your adult child about his or her experience, support your player and cheer for the team, - just enjoy being a fan, the rest is up to your adult child to handle their own college experiences and work out whatever needs to be addressed. My player would be mortified if I communicated with the coach
What are anyone's thought in regards to following their player's college coach on social media? Not actually a parent commenting on Facebook or Twitter but liking a Coach's post from time to time...
So I asked this question not because I want to talk to the coaching staff when the time comes... I just wanted to get a sense of IF it happens at all. Sounds like it does and doesn't. Speed's response is encouraging, just because (even though they're an "adult") it would be nice to get their perspective on how your DD is getting along in the program since they're spending just about every waking moment with them.
For those of you with DDs already playing college ball.. Do you as parents continue to have any dialogue/relationship with the coaches once the recruiting process is over and they are actually playing on the team?
Don't misunderstand my post... I am truly curious if it happens... Not because I want to be that parent (my DD wouldn't allow it), but wondering what folks experience has been with the college coaching staff.Hell no. Your kid is an adult and should be talking to their coach. Let your kid grow up. Parents are the biggest detractors to coaches at all ages. Parents should drop their kids off at practice and games and cheer during games. Don’t be that parent that complains or gives advice to the coach at U8 to college.
I think Pepperdine is an outlier; most coaching staff aren't as friendly with the 'rents.
Thanks MAP. My kid is progressing extremely well with her rehab. I have zero doubts she will be doing her thing once the hunger games begin. She will be ready. Like I said, I don't have any need to speak with her coaches beyond pleasantries. My kid does all the talking on/off the field as always.My kid's staff is good with the parents. The coaches are pretty forthcoming when you request info. I would never get involved in anything other than times to show up. If you have done your job up to this point it isn't even necessary to talk about the soccer other than to say WIN multiple times and GOOD LUCK. If you drop your kid off at the Hunger Games, you better be sure that she can do her thing.
Hoping for a speedy recovery for your player and good luck to you and your family.