soccer_soccer
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Just wanted to see the overall consensus on this topic? is it normal? part of soccer world? passive aggressive parent bullying? racism? jealousy? to be expected on any team?
Have any of you experienced passive aggressive bullying, jealousy of your kid or racism on your team
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soccer_soccer
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And I am talking about the parents
My daughter had a few racist remarks said to her by the opposing team she played a few games this year...
I guess it’s just the climate we’re in.. kind sad tho
I guess it’s just the climate we’re in.. kind sad tho
I've heard parents make some not so nice comments about players on the team. Thankfully none of them have been race-based. I'm also a referee and when I'm AR, you hear alot of things that make you cringe.
Aside from that in the past there have been certain parents that I didn't trust to take my dd anywhere because I felt they were the types to try and undermine her. It's a real shame.
Aside from that in the past there have been certain parents that I didn't trust to take my dd anywhere because I felt they were the types to try and undermine her. It's a real shame.
soccer_soccer
BRONZE
so mean parents with passive aggressive jealous behavior usually found on pretty much every team would you say?
soccer_soccer
BRONZE
oh it happens alot... it's disgusting...
I kinda wonder where a 13-14 year ol girl would learn the terms (wetback,spic,beaner). My wife and I had the talk about people being different. Thankfully my daughter understands that this world is full of bigotry and it’s not all butterflies and rainbows.
soccer_soccer
BRONZE
They learn it from their parents. what would you do if it's a parent on your kid's team that has said some passive aggressive racist remarks? take it up with the coach? (doubt he will do anything) leave the team?
It’s no place for me to say anything really. Which is wrong too. All I can do is teach my kids what’s right.
And maybe leave the team..
jpeter
PREMIER
Really I though it was..
Anyway our DD has darker skin, when she gets questioned about her ethnicity most people are surprised so remember don't always judge the book by it's cover, we're all the same deep down, respect..
Passive aggressive? Why don't you just tell us your story.
There really isn't a reason for a parent/spectator to talk to a kid during the game. With that in mind, if I just can't keep quiet I use a variation of: Good effort. Good job. Keep up the great work, etc...
If you happen to have been raised a racist, there is no reason to let the word know your parents were idiots - and you are too.
If you happen to have been raised a racist, there is no reason to let the word know your parents were idiots - and you are too.
Wait, right now your being passive aggressive.
soccer_soccer
BRONZE
sorry, but I choose not to get detailed about it .. passive aggressive means not direct. indirect racist, jealous mean comments. racism is not direct always these days, it's subtle.
I was just trying to stay in the spirit of the original post.
soccer_soccer
BRONZE
believe me if i told you the stories you would be appalled that these kind of things exist these days, let alone directed at kids
So far you have said nothing, so don't expect any meaningful responses. My son has been called a girl and a "chink" (my wife is Filipina). Is that the sort of thing you were looking for?
Saying nothing does nothing to overcome it.
soccer_soccer
BRONZE
from the parents on his team?
No, by opponents. Now that you have started the story, please tell us more.