I feel for you Alone. When your this far along a coach should know what to do with a player. Unfortunately this is 85 percent of coaching(most of the time coaches do not even realize what their doing) he should have let you finish the season. I started a new project for exactly these situations. When I was a young soccer player I wanted to go on a eurotrip but guess what! Yes I was not good enough. What I do now is give everbody a chance to play in the biggest and best international Competitions. I look at every players strengths and weaknesses then go from their. We compete in the biggest and best competitions in the world. I get players from all over SAN Diego county and work with their strengths and weaknesses. I form groups I form teams and win or lose they learn unity.
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And down south in Chula we have a couple options at G04, G03 Rangers.
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Wow. I am sorry to hear this, but others have made some good points. She was playing up and this age group is very difficult. After the age matrix change, my child rode the bench for a good 2-3 months. It took awhile for him to adjust. It is u fortunate that the coach did not let you know sooner so that you could find options instead of 4 months off.
I'd say, don't give up. Look for a better fit. U less you child is adamemt that she no longer wants to play. There are still options.
I'd say, don't give up. Look for a better fit. U less you child is adamemt that she no longer wants to play. There are still options.
That was the problem, and what I was worried about when agreeing to her playing up.
There were few opportunities. This was a 13 year old girl, a lot of 13 year old girls have a really difficult time practicing and playing with teams that aren't theirs. She tried but she felt like an outsider. Clinics and other opportunities were filled with much younger kids. Kids her age were playing on teams, kid on her team in high school.
She practised on a back board and went to a few clinics with kids her age, that was it.
The kid thought she was "cheating" on her coach/team if she played anywhere else. Now she is done.
Out the coach and club. They/He don't give two $#!ts about your kid..why should you care about them?! You might also pay it forward to some other unknowing player/parents and save them from the same fate by letting others know how this coach/club operate.
A good reputation will follow you to your next house. A bad one will beat you there.
-Fire Dept Wisdom
P.S. Don't let her give up that easy..especially if she loves soccer. This is SoCal. Teams and opportunities EVERYWHERE. Find her a place where she's having FUN and developing. It's there..you just have to go find it.
A good reputation will follow you to your next house. A bad one will beat you there.
-Fire Dept Wisdom
P.S. Don't let her give up that easy..especially if she loves soccer. This is SoCal. Teams and opportunities EVERYWHERE. Find her a place where she's having FUN and developing. It's there..you just have to go find it.
Please don't let her quit because of a jerk coach. Because tryouts are over, she can take her time finding the right fit. Maybe try to find out where other girls at her future high school will be playing. 99% of kids play for fun and to quit because of an adult it just losey. You can DM and I can give you a few suggestions.
Which coach and club was this???
That is such bs. I don't care what team your daughter was on, this is not professional sports, it's kids' soccer and you pay them. How awful to take the joy out of playing. We happen to be in a situation where the coach has taken the love of the game from our girl, but, her high school coach is excited to have her and is rumored to be amazing. If that situation is truly what is making her give up on soccer then I suggest trying out at school. (As well as finding another team if that works out, ajaffe sounds amazing). Best of luck to you. And truth, soccer isn't everything, or even the only thing. Maybe this frees her up to find something else she will love.
It was the reason. I could have probably talked her into giving it one more shot, but the guy is the JV coach at her high school so it was really the end of the line.
It sucks to have one individual to entirely ruin your DD's love for the game. It almost happened to us when mine was U11. Abusive, mean, favorite-playing jerk of a coach cut her and others right in front of the team one night, and she announced that she was done. I finally convinced her to give just one team a try and she found the new coach (who knows how to coach girls...unlike the other idiot) and has been with him for going on four years now. The love for the game did come back, but it took awhile
The varsity coach is a good guy, just trying to make a living and run a club. My oldest daughters favorite coach. Its over for this kid.
Fifteen or so years I'll be a supportive grandpa who knows a thing or two.
By then I hope the economics of this works out.
How is the guy a good guy when he cut your DD without a reason??? I wonder who is this coach...
Also don't let the politics of club take away the joy of playing the sport, and look at it as a blessing in disguise, in which your DD would have now time to play fall and spring varsity sports and still try out for soccer in the winter.